David Pajo safe from harm IN HELL - Page 5

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 12:48 PM

And it fucking baffles me that a clear abuser is getting a pass because he made a half ass attempt to kill himself.

He was never going to do it. Why else would he give everyone his family's fucking Rolodex. This was done maliciously to get back at his wife.

I said it. I might regret it.

I hope he gets help. Ugh.

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 12:53 PM

"Why didn't you just tell me?"

Probably because she was concerned for her life or yours. Uggggh fuck this is more awful today than it was yesterday.

Elijah Moon · 02-14-2015, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by noyen

in the context of meeting another human being amongst mutual friends and having a conversation. I am close with people within his circle of close friends. which would make me a casual acquaintance. hope that info helps your brain.

Yeah, that has been invaluable. Does he come across as a decent chap?

noyen · 02-14-2015, 12:56 PM

being a sick, depressed and out of control person does not make one a scumbag. I can see what issue you're hung up. so go out and do something to do something good with how bothered you are on the subject of hitting a woman. if that's the top concern for you out of this ordeal, good. he is a human and he admitted to this/attempted to apologize for it in an even sicker state of mind. when he didn't have to. was he justifying it, sure. that's pretty clear. just as one will justify breaking any law be it jaywalking to murder, it's going to happen. unfortunately it now being picked apart and people are indeed shaming him more, telling him to try again. if that's what would make things right for hitting her, i highly disagree. this is an interesting thread. i personally hope all involved seek help and all move on with their lives. there's shaming to do on all sides, obviously.

noyen · 02-14-2015, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Eulogy

"Why didn't you just tell me?"

Probably because she was concerned for her life or yours. Uggggh fuck this is more awful today than it was yesterday.

where are you getting insight as to who either of them are as humans and the complexities of their marriage, love or hate for each other?

noyen · 02-14-2015, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Elijah Moon

Yeah, that has been invaluable. Does he come across as a decent chap?

yes, he does to me. more than just decent. someone special.

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:00 PM

It's not about him hitting her. Jesus Christ. Read the fucking note!

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by noyen

where are you getting insight as to who either of them are as humans and the complexities of their marriage, love or hate for each other?

No, I'm done with this shit. I honestly don't care that you knew him.

I don't want him to die, obviously. But that is one of the most disturbing things I have ever read.

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:03 PM

I'm getting my insight from the fucking words he wrote and told us all to read. Goddamn.

noyen · 02-14-2015, 01:03 PM

I'm not interested in working myself up in a rage over your comments to read something that you think is so apparent that I can't see it. If you want to turn this to insulting me, go ahead buddy. Have a great life.

noyen · 02-14-2015, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Eulogy

No, I'm done with this shit. I honestly don't care that you knew him.

I don't want him to die, obviously. But that is one of the most disturbing things I have ever read.

I did not ask you to care that I knew him. Go be done with it then. Leave me out of your rage. I am sorry for your sheltered life if it is one of the most disturbing things you've read.

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by noyen

I'm not interested in working myself up in a rage over your comments to read something that you think is so apparent that I can't see it. If you want to turn this to insulting me, go ahead buddy. Have a great life.

I don't want to insult you. But your personal connection to him seems to me to be blinding you to some horrific shit.

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by noyen

I did not ask you to care that I knew him. Go be done with it then. Leave me out of your rage. I am sorry for your sheltered life if it is one of the most disturbing things you've read.

Oh for the love of fuck the reason it disturbs me is because I have worked with a lot of DV victims

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:08 PM

Don't assume I'm sheltered because I think a guy you know is a textbook abuser.

noyen · 02-14-2015, 01:11 PM

not interested. im not here to defend or blame anyone. im not doing that. If you think I am somehow, okay. I can live with that. because I care about his life too, as well as his wife who he hit and even the man that she apparently cheated with. i think they are all suffering in different ways. And I have not taken a side nor do I have intimate details that would absolve one of doing something horrible. All of it is horrible and disgusting. I just don't think he is the scumbag you do. That's all. I'm okay with you being not okay with that. I'll fucking live.

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:13 PM

You keep bringing up the physical thing which is obviously abhorrent, but it seems like you're ignoring how disturbing everything else is. If you take out the fact that he hit her this is still scary.

noyen · 02-14-2015, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Eulogy

Oh for the love of fuck the reason it disturbs me is because I have worked with a lot of DV victims

Wait.. you attempt to call me out as defending someone because of being a casual acquaintance and having concern is somehow blinding me yet you throw out that your blind rage is because of YOU and your personal connection to something that is only part of the horror of this story. okay.

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by noyen

Wait.. you attempt to call me out as defending someone because of being a casual acquaintance and having concern is somehow blinding me yet you throw out that your blind rage is because of YOU and your personal connection to something that is only part of the horror of this story. okay.

Your connection is to an offender. Mine is to victims. It's obviously not the same.

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:16 PM

And this isn't "blind rage." It's carefully considered.

noyen · 02-14-2015, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Eulogy

You keep bringing up the physical thing which is obviously abhorrent, but it seems like you're ignoring how disturbing everything else is. If you take out the fact that he hit her this is still scary.

You have no idea how I feel. I think it is disgusting he hit her or was capable of doing such a thing. I have no doubt even his closest friends cringed horribly reading every word in the note. You're creating arguments. Okay. Go ahead and do that. That's good. I am not saying your rage is invalid. It is valid. it is all a mess.

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:18 PM

And also I was rebutting the idea that i feel the way I do because I'm sheltered

I like you, noyen. But jesus fuck.

noyen · 02-14-2015, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Eulogy

Your connection is to an offender. Mine is to victims. It's obviously not the same.

so you assume I know nothing of victims? have I ever been a victim of violence? I have. I am not a woman. I am not defending any of his actions. He is sick.

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by noyen

so you assume I know nothing of victims? have I ever been a victim of violence? I have. I am not a woman. I am not defending any of his actions. He is sick.

I didn't say that.

noyen · 02-14-2015, 01:24 PM

I'm done okay. You win. I agree. I'll bounce from your board. It's been fun. I hope the discussion sheds light on all the ugliness that can only be seen or understood here, doing this.

Rider · 02-14-2015, 01:24 PM

It must be nice to live in Eulogys black and white binary world where everything is 100% right or wrong.

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:30 PM

Lol what

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:31 PM

If you guys wanna bend over backwards to defend him go right ahead.

I will repeat that I'm glad he's alive and I hope he gets the help he needs.

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:31 PM

And suicide prevention is important.

Rider · 02-14-2015, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Eulogy

If you guys wanna bend over backwards to defend him go right ahead.

I will repeat that I'm glad he's alive and I hope he gets the help he needs.

There is a difference between defending and simply not attacking. Again you and your binary world view.

I'm not about to pass judgement on a man who is obviously mentally ill and appears to have been in a step decline for a very long time.

Was hitting her wrong, yes.

Is there some truly evil fucked up shit in the note, yes.

Am I going to scream from the rafters like you are about how evil he is, no.

He's having a clear mental crisis and I know basically none of the facts.

Eulogy · 02-14-2015, 01:37 PM

All I said was that there was truly evil fucked up shit in the note. So. ?

I should not have conjectured that it wasn't a legitimate attempt. I said I would regret that and I do.

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02-14-2015, 12:48 PM	#121
Eulogy huh Posts: 62,456	And it fucking baffles me that a clear abuser is getting a pass because he made a half ass attempt to kill himself. He was never going to do it. Why else would he give everyone his family's fucking Rolodex. This was done maliciously to get back at his wife. I said it. I might regret it. I hope he gets help. Ugh.

02-14-2015, 12:53 PM	#122
Eulogy huh Posts: 62,456	"Why didn't you just tell me?" Probably because she was concerned for her life or yours. Uggggh fuck this is more awful today than it was yesterday.

02-14-2015, 12:56 PM	#124
noyen Immortal Posts: 26,795	being a sick, depressed and out of control person does not make one a scumbag. I can see what issue you're hung up. so go out and do something to do something good with how bothered you are on the subject of hitting a woman. if that's the top concern for you out of this ordeal, good. he is a human and he admitted to this/attempted to apologize for it in an even sicker state of mind. when he didn't have to. was he justifying it, sure. that's pretty clear. just as one will justify breaking any law be it jaywalking to murder, it's going to happen. unfortunately it now being picked apart and people are indeed shaming him more, telling him to try again. if that's what would make things right for hitting her, i highly disagree. this is an interesting thread. i personally hope all involved seek help and all move on with their lives. there's shaming to do on all sides, obviously.

02-14-2015, 01:00 PM	#127
Eulogy huh Posts: 62,456	It's not about him hitting her. Jesus Christ. Read the fucking note!

02-14-2015, 01:03 PM	#129
Eulogy huh Posts: 62,456	I'm getting my insight from the fucking words he wrote and told us all to read. Goddamn.

02-14-2015, 01:03 PM	#130
noyen Immortal Posts: 26,795	I'm not interested in working myself up in a rage over your comments to read something that you think is so apparent that I can't see it. If you want to turn this to insulting me, go ahead buddy. Have a great life.

02-14-2015, 01:08 PM	#134
Eulogy huh Posts: 62,456	Don't assume I'm sheltered because I think a guy you know is a textbook abuser.

02-14-2015, 01:11 PM	#135
noyen Immortal Posts: 26,795	not interested. im not here to defend or blame anyone. im not doing that. If you think I am somehow, okay. I can live with that. because I care about his life too, as well as his wife who he hit and even the man that she apparently cheated with. i think they are all suffering in different ways. And I have not taken a side nor do I have intimate details that would absolve one of doing something horrible. All of it is horrible and disgusting. I just don't think he is the scumbag you do. That's all. I'm okay with you being not okay with that. I'll fucking live.

02-14-2015, 01:13 PM	#136
Eulogy huh Posts: 62,456	You keep bringing up the physical thing which is obviously abhorrent, but it seems like you're ignoring how disturbing everything else is. If you take out the fact that he hit her this is still scary.

02-14-2015, 01:16 PM	#139
Eulogy huh Posts: 62,456	And this isn't "blind rage." It's carefully considered.

02-14-2015, 01:18 PM	#141
Eulogy huh Posts: 62,456	And also I was rebutting the idea that i feel the way I do because I'm sheltered I like you, noyen. But jesus fuck.

02-14-2015, 01:24 PM	#144
noyen Immortal Posts: 26,795	I'm done okay. You win. I agree. I'll bounce from your board. It's been fun. I hope the discussion sheds light on all the ugliness that can only be seen or understood here, doing this.

02-14-2015, 01:24 PM	#145
Rider Minion of Satan Location: I was born a snake handler, and I'll die a snake handler Posts: 9,517	It must be nice to live in Eulogys black and white binary world where everything is 100% right or wrong.

02-14-2015, 01:30 PM	#146
Eulogy huh Posts: 62,456	Lol what

02-14-2015, 01:31 PM	#147
Eulogy huh Posts: 62,456	If you guys wanna bend over backwards to defend him go right ahead. I will repeat that I'm glad he's alive and I hope he gets the help he needs.

02-14-2015, 01:31 PM	#148
Eulogy huh Posts: 62,456	And suicide prevention is important.

02-14-2015, 01:37 PM	#150
Eulogy huh Posts: 62,456	All I said was that there was truly evil fucked up shit in the note. So. ? I should not have conjectured that it wasn't a legitimate attempt. I said I would regret that and I do.