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02-26-2019, 10:30 PM | #31 |
Just Hook it to My Veins!
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just look at him! gazing off into the distance, pondering, reflecting, musing.
it's the cat-scholar/professor! |
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02-26-2019, 10:35 PM | #32 |
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probably either a fear of commitment, an unwillingness to give up what has been convenient, or a genuine distaste for having only one partner forever/at a time.
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02-26-2019, 10:35 PM | #33 |
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I’m monogomaous as F
Would feel a bit bashful if the kiddos saw me humpin anyone other than their mom |
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02-26-2019, 10:50 PM | #34 |
THIS IS AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!
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do the kiddos frequently see you hump??
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02-26-2019, 10:53 PM | #35 |
Shut the fuck up!
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02-26-2019, 10:54 PM | #36 |
Just Hook it to My Veins!
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<3 be free and live your life <3
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02-26-2019, 11:03 PM | #37 |
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02-26-2019, 11:05 PM | #38 |
THIS IS AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!
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hey man what do i know other than what you tell me
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02-26-2019, 11:10 PM | #39 |
Shut the fuck up!
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I have been told that I ....."just took every white fem trope and stereotype and rolled it into one. Now you love pink. Now you hate men."
i do like Pink. The artist and the color. Although I like red more. I have both my arms sleeved in red rose tattoos. I don't hate men. I just don't want to have relationships with them. Or waste my time with them. Or have to experience their body odor. Or talk to them regularly. If being gay and poly is a roll of stereotypes then I am one big gay poly avocado roll |
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02-26-2019, 11:23 PM | #40 |
Shut the fuck up!
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I am currently dating two people. One is into relationship anarchy, which I'm not sure I really understand. I also go on dates with new people a couple of times a month.
I don't think I could have a strictly monogamous relationship again. The expectations and jealously and close-mindedness of it just made me sad and lonely. |
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02-27-2019, 05:06 AM | #41 |
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are you still a neolib tho
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02-27-2019, 06:09 AM | #42 | |
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02-27-2019, 07:40 AM | #43 |
huh
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Short version: polyamory means having multiple romantic relationships at the same time whereas non-monogamy can mean just having one partner but also allowing each other (or one allowing the other if that’s what works for a particular couple) to have sexual experiences with other people, either separately or together.
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02-27-2019, 08:30 AM | #44 |
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That's wrong though. Polyamory basically means consensual non-monogamy. Some people might prefer one term over the other for various reasons, but there's no widely-agreed difference between them.
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02-27-2019, 01:20 PM | #45 |
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but if some people prefer one term over the other and there's no widely-agreed difference... Eulo's definition isn't wrong for how he defines it!
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02-27-2019, 01:25 PM | #46 |
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OK, i'm still monogamous
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02-27-2019, 02:24 PM | #47 |
Consume my pants.
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The wife and I are monogamous. Being bi, of course I'm still attracted to the same sex, but that is not an avenue open to me in this relationship.
Outside of our relationship (before, after, and during separation), while I was dating or seeing other people, I assumed an expectation that the person I was seeing and I were free to see other people, unless specified. I think it takes a healthy self of steam to be able to handle that, though. I have been in situations where it was not spoken and one of the parties felt slighted. But in general I am a relationship-type person. I like being exclusive with one person. I don't think I could handle an open relationship. |
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02-27-2019, 03:24 PM | #48 |
huh
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02-27-2019, 04:09 PM | #49 | |
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Like there's this directive to never compromise, but then lots of communication is encouraged, so maybe you just work out among partners what's a reasonable way to achieve everyone's goals I'm probably telling you, MyOneAndOnly, nothing you haven't already talked about — I just figured other people might be curious |
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02-27-2019, 05:13 PM | #50 |
Shut the fuck up!
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Relationship anarchy means avoiding hirarchy in relationships. Many poly people recognize primary and secondary relationship types. With primaries tending to overrule or take precidence over secondary relationships.
Primarily relationships tend to look a bit like monogamous relationships. Many of my poly friends have primary partners they live with or are married to and they date secondaries. It would look to mono people like an "open marriage". Relationship anarchists don't use any of those terms and don't put one relationship before another. Each relationship is what it is and has its own terms. There is no hirarchy. This means each relationship is negotiated independently. I think this actually makes a lot of sense in concept. But it's hard to practice. For example how do you do this when you have kids and there are legal issues tied to one relationship to the exclusion of relationships? It makes more sense when it involves young childless people. It seems less complicated. |
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02-27-2019, 05:21 PM | #51 |
Shut the fuck up!
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Like the idea of political economic/anarchy this kind of thing seems to not make sense in day to day practice. People have different wants and needs. How do you form anything more than casual relationships with multiple partners without those relationships starting to overlap and force compromises? There is not way to negotiate one relationship independently of others. Everyone's needs and expectations are different.
It feels like a recipe for perpetual casual relationships, or for behavior that is effectively no different from typical poly but pretends it's otherwise. Either way I'm slowly finding out. The person I see the most subscribea to this. |
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02-27-2019, 05:27 PM | #52 |
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02-27-2019, 05:30 PM | #53 | |
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02-27-2019, 05:41 PM | #54 |
huh
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02-27-2019, 06:47 PM | #55 |
Just Hook it to My Veins!
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and monogamy doesn't require marriage (gamy).
Polyamory can mean multiple serious relationships but the term can also be correctly used by people in a commitment exclusive but sexually non-exclusive relationship. Source: myself |
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02-27-2019, 06:59 PM | #56 |
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Some loves require armory tho
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02-27-2019, 08:05 PM | #57 |
huh
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I just don’t see it that way. Agree to disagree!
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02-27-2019, 11:15 PM | #58 | |
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I've been in a relationship with a partner for 15 years, and we've lived together for 9. An important part of our relationship has to do with being able to rely on each other financially. In this sense alone, they are very likely to be my priority - they don't have any veto power over what I ultimately decide, but I take the fact that we've chosen to rely on each other very seriously. The other people I love can rely on me to some extent - I'd do everything I could in a time of need - but we all know this help is a little bit more conditional, at least for the time being. Emotionally, this is simply not true. Most of the time, it's very possible to be smart managing your time and resources so that no one feels uncared for. But sometimes you just can't be in two places at the same time, and you need to make a call. I make this call based on (1) where I myself want to be the most, (2) who will benefit more from my presence. I'm very committed to not being a jerk, but no one who is close to me is under the impression that their needs will always come first, nor that they can somehow make this decision for me based on some rigid relationship hierarchy. |
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02-27-2019, 11:32 PM | #59 | |
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But pan people don't get to say: "the difference being bisexuality and pansexuality is that bisexual people are only attracted to people who adhere to gender binary." This is factually wrong. This is not what most bi people mean when they identify as bi. This is not what bisexuality has historically meant. And it'd be quite arrogant for them to say, "Sorry, I just don't see it that way!" |
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