You Know I'm Chat Thread

[ilikeplanets]

But do you call your kids assholes to their face

[ilikeplanets]

We all have different parenting styles it's okay

[vixnix]

My older kid told me last night at dinner I should write a parenting book because he feels so lucky to have been parented the way he has, when he compares himself to his friends

I wasn’t sure whether to be flattered or alarmed

The moods and opinions of my teenage kids are like a fast changing sky. So different from one hour to the next. So I’m ready for the next piece of feedback and have no expectation it will be positive. Parenting really helps build resilience to feedback in that sense

[vixnix]

I do tell my kids they’re acting like assholes if that is my read on the situation

Do you call your kids assholes to their faces?

[ilikeplanets]

It's best they hear it from me

[ilikeplanets]

You're never too young for the truth

[slunken]

Originally Posted by vixnix

My older kid told me last night at dinner I should write a parenting book because he feels so lucky to have been parented the way he has, when he compares himself to his friends

i have to do that thing where i type "and then everyone clapped" literally the internet forces me

[slunken]

everyone needs to stop listening to the smashing pumpkins until we can figure out what is going on!

[vixnix]

I’m think if you asked him again today he would say something different because I pissed him off this morning

The beliefs are strong, but often fleeting

[slunken]

that's a very nice way of saying that teenagers are extremely retarded

[slunken]

oh shit! can i still say the r-word?

[slunken]

i'm an old man i don't know any better

[vixnix]

Teenager brains are definitely impaired. There’s a good 30 min doco on Netflix, part of the Explained series. There’s a whole series on the mind, and a short one specifically on the teenage mind

It was kind of a relief to watch it. The brain is not fully formed but a lot of high stakes decisions are being made all the time

It’s like a 7 year long episode of Seconds from Disaster

[ilikeplanets]

And yet people are expected to chose their life path at that age

[slunken]

so funny to be like okay you're 17 time to figure out what you're going to be doing for the next 60 years lol

[slunken]

also you're not allowed to have sex

[ilikeplanets]

Teenage brains can't even consider any long terms consequences of a decision like that

[ilikeplanets]

Otherwise there would be no English or Sociology degree programs

[Disco King]

Originally Posted by slunken

oh shit! can i still say the r-word?

You're supposed to say, "teenagers are extremely r-worded."

[vixnix]

One of my high school friends went into prostitution at 16. It’s stuff like that, and watching things like Hot Girls Wanted that makes me think the minimum age for sex work should be the same as the age where you have normal car insurance premiums - 25. There seems to be quite a bit of agreement that this is a better age to consider a person fully mature than 16 or 18, because the brain is fully developed.

[yo soy el mejor]

regulate prostitution! regulate domestic work! protect all women!

[teh b0lly!!1]

Originally Posted by slunken

so funny to be like okay you're 17 time to figure out what you're going to be doing for the next 60 years lol

The r-worded thing here is not being demanded to do it at 17, it's the very idea of having to pick something to do for 60 years as a standard life practice at all

[yo soy el mejor]

i just figured out what i wanna do like 5 years ago; it's still a little foggy and i'm not doing it yet, but i am moving in the right direction!

[slunken]

[slunken]

ladies and gentlemen, the smashing pumpkins...

[vixnix]

Originally Posted by teh b0lly!!1

The r-worded thing here is not being demanded to do it at 17, it's the very idea of having to pick something to do for 60 years as a standard life practice at all

Thankfully I don’t reckon anyone feels such a need to do this anymore - the expectation is that you will have several jobs in a working life, at least.

Even doctors and lawyers are branching out these days into project management, consulting etc.