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Old 05-08-2022, 11:42 PM   #3451
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It's been chilly here so far this spring... but no snow today. I think it hit 55 F

We started building a chicken coop. We have half a dozen heritage breed hens ordered. They'll be her at the end of the month.



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Old 05-08-2022, 11:58 PM   #3452
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It's been chilly here so far this spring... but no snow today. I think it hit 55 F

We started building a chicken coop. We have half a dozen heritage breed hens ordered. They'll be her at the end of the month.


This is going to sound like an asshole question

But how does one get to a place in life where one is doing stuff like having gardens dogs and chicken coops

Is it because i spent 20 years using substances and untreated mentally ill that i can barely brush my teeth let alone have a hobby or cook or any of that shit? But other people have their own particular never-before-seen cocktails of staggering strugglies too, and they don’t hit the middle of their life with probably almost nothing to show for it, other than i am 1/2 responsible for the fact that there’s two more people in the world, who no doubt will have numerous stupefying strugglems having been in a house with my piece of shit unstable self for their entire years of life?

This post turned into some kind of shame talk so, sorry about that but serious — how does one do things in life

 
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Old 05-09-2022, 12:28 AM   #3453
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This is going to sound like an asshole question

But how does one get to a place in life where one is doing stuff like having gardens dogs and chicken coops

Is it because i spent 20 years using substances and untreated mentally ill that i can barely brush my teeth let alone have a hobby or cook or any of that shit? But other people have their own particular never-before-seen cocktails of staggering strugglies too, and they don’t hit the middle of their life with probably almost nothing to show for it, other than i am 1/2 responsible for the fact that there’s two more people in the world, who no doubt will have numerous stupefying strugglems having been in a house with my piece of shit unstable self for their entire years of life?

This post turned into some kind of shame talk so, sorry about that but serious — how does one do things in life
i don't know if I can properly answer your question. I am lucky I guess that my own mental health struggles involved anorexia, dysmorphia, and dysphoria. I attempted suicide and nearly starved myself to death over and over. But i was lucky enough to not have severe bipolar disorder like half of my extended family. And I didn't have the kind of substance abuse issues one of my bio parents had.

On the internet people only show their shiny bits, and rarely show you how they cried for 10 hours straight yesterday... or worry so much about being fired from their job that they can't sleep at night.

Some of it is just dumb luck. I should be dead. I wanted to be dead. I tried to be dead. But a few years ago i found a way through it. And now i can try to have backyard chickens. Hopefully i don't accidentally kill them

 
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Old 05-09-2022, 01:31 AM   #3454
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Asking those questions instead of numbing myself and "worrying about it later" was a big first step for me. Not that I'm in a place where I can have gardens and chickens or whatever (not my thing anyway) but home ownership before age 40 is actually a real possibility instead of probably being dead or in jail. The longer I stayed sober willingly, the more I was capable and excited to build a life. Especially since people depend on me. I'm not yet a person with passionate hobbies, which is maybe because drugs were my only interest for over a decade until I had to make a sudden shift of every aspect of my life upon finding out I was pregnant, so I do understand what it feels like to see people who paint, play guitar, and have a huge circle of friends and dismiss myself as worthless. It's not true, people love me (even if it's only a few) and building a life a little at a time is doable and will restore your self esteem. With better self esteem, and potentially therapy/meds depending on your situation, change isn't as intimidating. I think you're very funny, thoughtful, and I'm sure you have a ton of interesting things to offer.

 
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Old 05-09-2022, 06:26 AM   #3455
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i think it's mainly a question of good/bad luck, run2pee.
it's not your fault.

 
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Old 05-09-2022, 12:06 PM   #3456
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I think your basic mental health and personality blueprint is dumb luck, but you can still add or subtract things from your life that yield changes that you want.

 
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Old 05-09-2022, 12:44 PM   #3457
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I'm not trying to come off preachy, there's just something toxic about thinking you can't ever change your circumstances or even components of your own personality.

 
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Old 05-09-2022, 01:42 PM   #3458
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hey, agreed.
but you shouldn't be too hard on yourself, because not everything you end up with is your own fault or merit. (there's the blueprint you mention, and loads of other things you have no control over.)

 
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Old 05-14-2022, 02:32 AM   #3459
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Super stressed out over the infant formula shortage. I'm due in 6 weeks. I guess I'm gonna drive around the entire region tomorrow and see what I can find. I have a big can to get started, but the shortage has gotten worse and not better like I thought. Cannot catch a damn break with the state of the world.

 
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Old 05-14-2022, 09:10 AM   #3460
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Whole thing is such a clusterfuck of evil on every level; I'm sorry it's affecting you

Friend of mine is a WIC administrator whose job it is to help her clients, among other things, find formula, and she's taken up the "breastmilk is free and readily available" line and I want to fucking scream

 
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Old 05-14-2022, 11:42 AM   #3461
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The worst memory of my hospital stay after delivering my first child was the constant overwhelming pressure the staff gave me to breastfeed. It's not a thing that is possible for me, and I was feeling very confident about that for my second child's delivery until knowing that I'm likely going to have to give her whatever formula is available, constantly switching them which is bad for their newborn digestive systems. And that's assuming there aren't any allergies. I'm failing to understand why it's taking so long to get a solid stock back on the shelves, despite reading every article about the matter. It seems like there's a lot more that could be done.

 
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Old 05-14-2022, 01:55 PM   #3462
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why isn't breastfeeding possible for you?

 
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Old 05-14-2022, 01:58 PM   #3463
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So that's your question, huh?

 
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Old 05-14-2022, 04:13 PM   #3464
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i have no further questions at this time

 
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Old 05-14-2022, 05:17 PM   #3465
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i was breastfed. obviously that's why i'm so amazing!


 
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Old 05-15-2022, 07:46 PM   #3466
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why isn't breastfeeding possible for you?
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Old 05-15-2022, 09:24 PM   #3467
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Unfortunately, that's the response of many people and I believe that kind of attitude is harmful to getting this problem fixed. I had led with "breastfeeding isn't possible for me", so that answer is already complete without additional details. It's helpful or considerate to be sympathetic to the shortage, or suggest a better way to find formula, but useless to try to change/question someone's (in)ability to breastfeed.

 
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Old 05-16-2022, 04:47 PM   #3468
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y'all are reading stuff into my question that isn't there. i don't care whether anyone breastfeeds or not i am just curious. i assumed you were down to talk about it since you started talking about it.

 
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Old 05-16-2022, 07:41 PM   #3469
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I'm not mad, I'm just irritable at the situation and wish people in general would focus on solving this problem. Instead, there's been a huge debate in many parenting communities on breastfeeding vs formula when that isn't the issue right now. I'm not sensitive about my choice. It's all good, ovary.

 
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Old 05-19-2022, 10:50 PM   #3470
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I want to punch a fucking wall and break my fucking hands so I don't have to type this fucking essay


fucking jesus fucking christ this fucking shit is so, SO fucking infuriating

i've been reading the fucking prompt for an hour and barely understand the fucking drivel we're supposed to fucking write:

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Brooks (2003) wrote that Brown [University] professors would be distressed if having to share an office with an avowed conservative; Williams, however, let all her family know that that they were welcome to Thanksgiving dinner, even Uncle Warren.
how the FUCK do i write a whole FUCKING ESSAY about that shit??? that's a fucking example!!! [email protected]!

i've never been this MAD about school before. anxious, sure. scared, sure. but i'm just fucking livid the more i try to do this shit. David Brooks wrote some shite about diversity and now I have to write 6 pages AHJJH

i don't even know where to post i don't know what to do. the only way out is through. i wanna fucking scream

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Old 05-20-2022, 10:48 AM   #3471
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My friend from high school, a nerdy pyromaniac who in retrospect I believe may just not have had the guts to become a school shooter, went to Brown and did well. I toured the very lovely campus but did not apply. Or maybe I did and just didn't get in? I forget. HTH!

 
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Old 05-22-2022, 12:03 AM   #3472
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Why the fuck do you think you can even ask that question?

 
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Old 05-22-2022, 07:46 AM   #3473
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I'm a sovereign citizen, I can ask any question I want

 
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just gonna take a second to appreciate the irony of a dude named "ovary" getting roasted for a breastfeeding question

 
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Old Yesterday, 06:51 PM   #3475
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Why the fuck do you think you can even ask that question?
because ilp mentioned it was not a possibility for her, so of course she was "down" to be insensitively interrogated about it. WHY!

 
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When it comes to people's bodies, "I won't/can't " is a complete sentence. Ovary is far from the only person who seems to find breastfeeding an exception to that rule. Saddening.

 
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