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ilikeplanets · 03-22-2023, 10:57 AM

Are you sure he's not beating up other kids or cooking meth or something? That seems like a shitty daycare. My 9 month old screams, whines, and cries from 5-8 PM every night unless I'm holding her or engaged in some serious play with her. Kids cry when they can't talk instead. You would think a daycare provider knows that.

ilikeplanets · 03-22-2023, 11:04 AM

At her check-up yesterday I mentioned that, among a few other concerns that are an issue for both kids, and her doctor is like, "well, they're YOUR kids. So they're likely to be intelligent, high-strung, overthinkers, and intense. Those traits are ***genetic***."

Uh, thanks? She's apparently gauged my personality profile in 5 years worth of pediatrician visits. Also, I'm fucked if all 3 of us are gonna be like that. "Easy" doesn't exist at my house.

ovary · 03-22-2023, 12:02 PM

did you tell her genes don't exist

he's only 6 months. i guess the crying is intense and constant. ie he is very not happy. he doesn't do that at home and we also are not constantly attentive. i'd say we are probably on the less attentive scale of the parent distribution actually. shrug

ilikeplanets · 03-22-2023, 12:54 PM

Apparently she already thinks I'm over the top, so I'm not about to add "publicly doubts science" to her impression of me

The less attention you give kids, the more they're going to freak out when you're not there, so there's something to think about

vixnix · 03-22-2023, 04:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ovary

did you tell her genes don't exist

he's only 6 months. i guess the crying is intense and constant. ie he is very not happy. he doesn't do that at home and we also are not constantly attentive. i'd say we are probably on the less attentive scale of the parent distribution actually. shrug

Are there any options for home-based care near you? It has its own pros and cons but sometimes you luck out and it’s a grandma who just loves young kids and babies or else a mum with young kids of her own, and they sometimes do a bit more of the stuff that helps with really upset babies like babywearing. When he grows out of it you can transition back to daycare

The other thought I had is reflux but you said he’s not crying at home - but is it worth checking that out with the Dr.? It could be a medical issue. Sometimes the right medication or a different formula makes a difference. Good luck. Hang in there, it will get better

vixnix · 03-22-2023, 04:08 PM

My oldest was like that, I could never sit still. He was miserable until he started crawling at 5 months. Still intense after that but much happier when he could get himself around

yo soy el mejor · Yesterday, 12:20 PM

I'm afraid of being a crummy parent like that. kids are people, too, and deserve better. they didn't ask for you!

yo soy el mejor · Yesterday, 01:09 PM

on saturday morning, i helped interview high school students who were applying for a scholarship and i found it super hard to rate people with numbers and junk. but i did tell a guy who works for the place giving out the scholarship that all of the students were a breath of fresh air and i was nothing like that in high school.

they want me to do some virtual interviews this evening. i'll probably say yes. a guy i used to work with is the executive director of this place and asked if i was interested in mentoring. my brain still feels like it is in high school....i would feel silly if anyone took my advice but maybe i could identify with someone.

Elijah Moon · Yesterday, 02:01 PM

That could be very rewarding. I've been offered new responsibilities at the place where I've been working -- I'd be working directly with a few volunteers who have learning disabilities, etc. I don't feel like I should be responsible for anyone, but I think I'd be ok if I just went with it.

yo soy el mejor · Yesterday, 02:18 PM

people who don't feel equipped for certain things are maybe the best for the job. at least that's what i gotta tell myself. i'm p good at doing stuff that makes me uncomfortable cause lots of stuff makes me uncomfortable and i can't just not do any of it

ilikeplanets · Yesterday, 02:33 PM

Once you talk to the students outside of the context of an interview, you'll definitely stop feeling like you're in high school

ilikeplanets · Yesterday, 02:33 PM

Once you talk to the students outside of the context of an interview, you'll definitely stop feeling like you're in high school

Ram27 · Yesterday, 05:21 PM

i had my first white collar job interview - i got rejected 10 minutes after lol

the lady called from utah, clearly some HR rep. the job was digitizing old records for a dna test company, family tree stuff. two questions were basically 'have you done literally this exact job before'. i said i had experience working with cameras and data in broadcasting but then she was like 'have you used a camera for archival, where we hang the document then the camera is mounted on a pole?' and like technically no, but i am able to! why do you not think these skills are transferrable?

similarly she asked 'have you ever been in an archive?' [with a slightly droll tone]. like, no, but i am aware of them! i would be excited to go!

i feel the questions were designed to make me feel stupid, which i resent

redbreegull · Yesterday, 05:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ram27

i had my first white collar job interview - i got rejected 10 minutes after lol

the lady called from utah, clearly some HR rep. the job was digitizing old records for a dna test company, family tree stuff. two questions were basically 'have you done literally this exact job before'. i said i had experience working with cameras and data in broadcasting but then she was like 'have you used a camera for archival, where we hang the document then the camera is mounted on a pole?' and like technically no, but i am able to! why do you not think these skills are transferrable?

similarly she asked 'have you ever been in an archive?' [with a slightly droll tone]. like, no, but i am aware of them! i would be excited to go!

i feel the questions were designed to make me feel stupid, which i resent

lazy hiring procedures, penny wise pound foolish, etc. I'm sure you could have learned the job without having done EXACTLY THAT THING in the past. Most jobs take about 2 weeks to learn.

buzzard · Yesterday, 10:38 PM

The standard interview process just about directly requires that you become a bullshit version of yourself for the duration.

It's like those adverts for fast food in which they put the burger together with needles to hold all the elements exactly in place so that it doesn't look as gross then as it's totally going to when you buy it. It's a precedent now.

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03-22-2023, 10:57 AM	#4411
ilikeplanets Braindead Location: Ignore List Posts: 16,217	Are you sure he's not beating up other kids or cooking meth or something? That seems like a shitty daycare. My 9 month old screams, whines, and cries from 5-8 PM every night unless I'm holding her or engaged in some serious play with her. Kids cry when they can't talk instead. You would think a daycare provider knows that.

03-22-2023, 11:04 AM	#4412
ilikeplanets Braindead Location: Ignore List Posts: 16,217	At her check-up yesterday I mentioned that, among a few other concerns that are an issue for both kids, and her doctor is like, "well, they're YOUR kids. So they're likely to be intelligent, high-strung, overthinkers, and intense. Those traits are *genetic*." Uh, thanks? She's apparently gauged my personality profile in 5 years worth of pediatrician visits. Also, I'm fucked if all 3 of us are gonna be like that. "Easy" doesn't exist at my house.

03-22-2023, 12:02 PM	#4413
ovary Ownz Posts: 687	did you tell her genes don't exist he's only 6 months. i guess the crying is intense and constant. ie he is very not happy. he doesn't do that at home and we also are not constantly attentive. i'd say we are probably on the less attentive scale of the parent distribution actually. shrug

03-22-2023, 12:54 PM	#4414
ilikeplanets Braindead Location: Ignore List Posts: 16,217	Apparently she already thinks I'm over the top, so I'm not about to add "publicly doubts science" to her impression of me The less attention you give kids, the more they're going to freak out when you're not there, so there's something to think about

03-22-2023, 04:08 PM	#4416
vixnix Socialphobic Location: we are champions, bathed in the heat of a thousand flame wars in the grim future of the internet there is only netphoria Posts: 12,326	My oldest was like that, I could never sit still. He was miserable until he started crawling at 5 months. Still intense after that but much happier when he could get himself around

Yesterday, 12:20 PM	#4417
yo soy el mejor Just Hook it to My Veins! Location: all over the Internet Posts: 44,321	I'm afraid of being a crummy parent like that. kids are people, too, and deserve better. they didn't ask for you!

Yesterday, 01:09 PM	#4418
yo soy el mejor Just Hook it to My Veins! Location: all over the Internet Posts: 44,321	on saturday morning, i helped interview high school students who were applying for a scholarship and i found it super hard to rate people with numbers and junk. but i did tell a guy who works for the place giving out the scholarship that all of the students were a breath of fresh air and i was nothing like that in high school. they want me to do some virtual interviews this evening. i'll probably say yes. a guy i used to work with is the executive director of this place and asked if i was interested in mentoring. my brain still feels like it is in high school....i would feel silly if anyone took my advice but maybe i could identify with someone.

Yesterday, 02:01 PM	#4419
Elijah Moon Apocalyptic Poster Location: I circle distant stars. Posts: 1,930	That could be very rewarding. I've been offered new responsibilities at the place where I've been working -- I'd be working directly with a few volunteers who have learning disabilities, etc. I don't feel like I should be responsible for anyone, but I think I'd be ok if I just went with it.

Yesterday, 02:18 PM	#4420
yo soy el mejor Just Hook it to My Veins! Location: all over the Internet Posts: 44,321	people who don't feel equipped for certain things are maybe the best for the job. at least that's what i gotta tell myself. i'm p good at doing stuff that makes me uncomfortable cause lots of stuff makes me uncomfortable and i can't just not do any of it

Yesterday, 02:33 PM	#4421
ilikeplanets Braindead Location: Ignore List Posts: 16,217	Once you talk to the students outside of the context of an interview, you'll definitely stop feeling like you're in high school

Yesterday, 02:33 PM	#4422
ilikeplanets Braindead Location: Ignore List Posts: 16,217	Once you talk to the students outside of the context of an interview, you'll definitely stop feeling like you're in high school

Yesterday, 05:21 PM	#4423
Ram27 dumb Location: blissed out Posts: 10,415	i had my first white collar job interview - i got rejected 10 minutes after lol the lady called from utah, clearly some HR rep. the job was digitizing old records for a dna test company, family tree stuff. two questions were basically 'have you done literally this exact job before'. i said i had experience working with cameras and data in broadcasting but then she was like 'have you used a camera for archival, where we hang the document then the camera is mounted on a pole?' and like technically no, but i am able to! why do you not think these skills are transferrable? similarly she asked 'have you ever been in an archive?' [with a slightly droll tone]. like, no, but i am aware of them! i would be excited to go! i feel the questions were designed to make me feel stupid, which i resent

Yesterday, 10:38 PM	#4425
buzzard Minion of Satan Posts: 6,739	The standard interview process just about directly requires that you become a bullshit version of yourself for the duration. It's like those adverts for fast food in which they put the burger together with needles to hold all the elements exactly in place so that it doesn't look as gross then as it's totally going to when you buy it. It's a precedent now.