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[MyOneAndOnly]

Originally Posted by ovary

yeah 2 of the 3 times i've been called a fag on the street have been
in downtown frederick and i've only been there like ten times in my life.

it was a shock to me, cause i kept hear what a great place it was for queer women. LOL. Nope

[Disco King]

Two of the three times I've been called "gay" were also in Frederick, Maryland. But the third was outside of Maryland; it was by the infallible brain scan that tells you if you're gay or not in De Pere, Wisconsin.

[topleybird]

I didn't think anything of it at the time, but now that you mention it, the last time I drove through Frederick on my way to DC, all traffic had to stop for a blockade where two soldiers yelled "You're gay" at each passenger, then let us go on our way. Same when I exited, too.

[ilikeplanets]

I will be having ankle reconstruction surgery next month and I'm scarrrrrred to have limited mobility for a few months but my ankle is fucked up so I am hoping for the best

[MyOneAndOnly]

Originally Posted by ilikeplanets

I will be having ankle reconstruction surgery next month and I'm scarrrrrred to have limited mobility for a few months but my ankle is fucked up so I am hoping for the best

thoughts and prayers

[ilikeplanets]

I was looking for memes and songs, but thanks

[buzzard]

What happened to it?

[ilikeplanets]

My ligaments on both ankles are in a permanent sprain, and I have a large cyst on the left ankle. It's not excruciating, but uncomfortable enough that I want to go through with it. Should be highly correctable but I'll need PT and be stuck in a boot for 6 weeks. I'm doing the left first and will see if there's enough improvement to warrant doing the right.

The doctor I went to the first time claimed my ankle was massively swollen due to fluid retention. They were very wrong, but I believed them so this diagnosis blindsided me.

[ilikeplanets]

Y'all seen skibidi toilet?

[Plasticine Rap Star]

I'd never heard of it. Working my way through the seasons. It's quite the journey.

[Ram27]

as part of my pernicious 'being an adult' series of redesigns and cleans of my apartment, i put away my electric drum kit today and fuck it's so depressing. cause you don't make space for one of those at 28. you keep space from 15.

it's not like a moody thing but more so like, i feel bad every time i play because it's an apartment, or at least i feel like someone is going to yell at me so i can't really justify the space / playing as much as i would want to. and recently i figured out how to program drums in software to the point i can write out basically anything in my head (it's just less fun than playing though) so there's no music-making justification either

ahhh



(the lights are red because irl they seem warm/cozy/amber at that color which is nice for night and morning). i can't quite put everything away lol. still have my guitar and amp and pedals too

[Disco King]

Have you gotten any complaints about the electronic drums? I don't think I tend to notice when my basement roommate is using his.

[Ram27]

i have not but it's always something that worries me -- i can't tell if it's rational or not but any time i'd sit down to play i feel like someone's gonna bang on the wall, like you stupid kid why are you trying to play music this is an adult residence for adults you know

[Ram27]

thank u for replying lol i wasn't trying to be weepy or anything or prod people into replying i'm just having a rough ass fall after quite a good year

[ilikeplanets]

Replying to support you, with no real advice. It just sucks feeling sad at a void with no response, so I'm responding with the hope you feel like someone gives a shit.

[Disco King]

Originally Posted by Ram27

thank u for replying lol i wasn't trying to be weepy or anything or prod people into replying i'm just having a rough ass fall after quite a good year

Nah, I get you, bro. It sucks when we can't do the things that we want to.

People rarely get punished for a first noise complaint. If somebody knocks on your door and tells you to knock it off, yeah, respect that and don't make the same mistake twice. But maybe it's overly cautious to be pre-emptive about it when there's the possibility that nobody is disturbed by your playing, anyway.

[Ram27]

thank you, yeah, i hate that i have a passion that requires me to make noise and sorta like -- go against the general public order of silence and sort of have to argue my side of artistry and passion and expression versus 'well we might be trying to study/work/etc'. it's been a battle

[Ram27]

as an addendum, and for the record and for posterity (forums are the last bastion of the internet, of course, last place for real humans typing real thoughts and feelings) --- i realize i am pansexual. i am listening to james' 98 solo LP and groovin, it's so earnest and warm, he got matt walkter to track on that record, so warm and open and natural

maybe i'll get highlights again

[ilikeplanets]

Tell me you're a milennial without telling me you're a milennial ilikeplanets edition:

Every Friday I play the Rebecca Black song to wake my kids up, and it perfectly compliments our morning routine. FUN FUN FUN FUN

[ovary]

gotta have my bowl

[ilikeplanets]

You know what it is

[ourruseoffools]

Originally Posted by Ram27

as part of my pernicious 'being an adult' series of redesigns and cleans of my apartment, i put away my electric drum kit today and fuck it's so depressing. cause you don't make space for one of those at 28. you keep space from 15.

it's not like a moody thing but more so like, i feel bad every time i play because it's an apartment, or at least i feel like someone is going to yell at me so i can't really justify the space / playing as much as i would want to. and recently i figured out how to program drums in software to the point i can write out basically anything in my head (it's just less fun than playing though) so there's no music-making justification either

ahhh

This made me sad. You’re an excellent drummer and need to be able to play drums. anyone who makes you feel like you’re not ‘mature’ for being interested in music is truly non ambitious and boring. Electronic drums aren’t very loud so long as you’re wearing headphones. You could even build one of those little tennis ball platform things some drummers build for their apartment setup if you’re paranoid

[topleybird]

I will fly out to wherever Ram lives and do the flaming bag of poop thing to any neighbor who complains about his drumming. LET RAM DRUM. LET RAM DRUM. LET RAM DRUM.

Ram, bb, it's not a childish thing. Drumming is clearly your passion and something that helps you immensely. I don't have any useful advice on how to make it work, but you gotta make it work.

I'll echo what ourruseoffools said: Anyone who makes you feel immature for making music is a gosh-darn fool. It sounds like none of your neighbors have actually said anything to you, so I gotta figure that other people in your life have made you internalize that idea. Those people: also gosh-darn fools. Guessing those were parents or parental figures so I'm sorry for calling them that. Maybe they're nice people otherwise. But in this one thing: fools. Maybe they told you that shit when you were 15 and were like "I'm gonna be the second drummer for the Pumpkins! And Jimmy's gonna adopt me because I HATE YOU, [usual teenage angst]" But pursuing it as an adult—even if it's just a hobby that keeps you sane—is perfectly mature.

[Joey Goldberg]

if you do the flying/shit bag thing, pls let me accompany so I can do the "he's gonna SHIT when he realizes it's SHIT" line from Billy Madison at the right time

[ilikeplanets]

Making music isn't immature, but chasing the rockstar dream might be

[ovary]

women have been disappearing in my neighborhood

[ovary]

they found one dead in a pond and one alive. she got kidnapped by her boyfriend. then this morning another one is missing. she was last seen on a trailcam on her mother's large wilderness property

[smashingjj]

Uhm i have nothing to do with that?

[ovary]

it was the abusive husband that did the one in the pond but i highly doubt they will prosecute him. usually it seems with murders around here they know who did it but don't do anything.

[Ram27]

Originally Posted by ilikeplanets

Making music isn't immature, but chasing the rockstar dream might be

i see what you mean -- this was one of the main stress points of the band i left -- like what makes it perfectly right and mature to aspire to play so and so shitty bar, but wanting to maybe sign a thing and actually get people to hear the songs is head-in-the-clouds, seemingly

i feel like there must be a middle ground b/w delusional rawk star dreams and giving up upon adulthood, but i don't know what it is exactly

Originally Posted by topleybird

I will fly out to wherever Ram lives and do the flaming bag of poop thing to any neighbor who complains about his drumming. LET RAM DRUM. LET RAM DRUM. LET RAM DRUM.

Ram, bb, it's not a childish thing. Drumming is clearly your passion and something that helps you immensely. I don't have any useful advice on how to make it work, but you gotta make it work.

I'll echo what ourruseoffools said: Anyone who makes you feel immature for making music is a gosh-darn fool. It sounds like none of your neighbors have actually said anything to you, so I gotta figure that other people in your life have made you internalize that idea. Those people: also gosh-darn fools. Guessing those were parents or parental figures so I'm sorry for calling them that. Maybe they're nice people otherwise. But in this one thing: fools. Maybe they told you that shit when you were 15 and were like "I'm gonna be the second drummer for the Pumpkins! And Jimmy's gonna adopt me because I HATE YOU, [usual teenage angst]" But pursuing it as an adult—even if it's just a hobby that keeps you sane—is perfectly mature.

thank you thank you god bless so very kind

a lot of it is PTSD from getting the cops called on me once by some miserable old man because i was playing ‘at night’ pre-noise curfew hours. and one time in college i was gently playing guitar at night and someone fucking banged on the door and BELLOWED ‘STOP PLAYING ACOUSTIC GUITAR *PLEASE*’ like chill the *fuck* out dude….
and during my initial college period my parents were fairly sternly pushing me further and further into a STEM degree i couldn’t stand…they’ve relaxed a good bit now but it wasn’t fun.
it’s definitely a sanity-maintaining hobby but it feels very isolating because there are so few drummers around, partially because it is so hard to find a place to play unless you have a house. so it seems like i’m fighting against the current constantly

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on a positive note today i actually booked 2 hours at a rehearsal space and it was super super nice. the guy who owned it was there and shook my hand and had a really uniquely perfect vibe — a lot of the “DIY” people i had to deal with in my old band had this very sort of sad burnout vibe almost…this guy seemed like a pro, you could see the energy he had under the surface, he was very kind — especially since i am poor at interacting with others. like normally when you meet someone they’ll be like ‘oh i’m Kevin’ or whatever and there’s a pause where i’m meant to go ‘oh hey i’m Ram’ but i ALWAYS feel awkward doing that because it feels overly cutesy and presumptuous…like i am not important, you know, he’s the owner of the place —- and a lot of that is because my name is a hard name to enunciate, it’s foreign, i have a speech impediment so it’s kinda just…a lot….and i’m sure he saw my booking email so like…agh

BUT all that is to say — THIS guy recognised i was reticent to say my name out of shyness, pure shyness, rather than some sort of arrogance like i feel some may think of me. i need to be more arrogant i spent sooo many fucking years hating myself…

And i got in the room and the kit was super nice, it felt great, i played Hummer and What Have They Done To Me and tracked a few jams / grooves I hopefully can cut up and write some guitar over.

And when I was walking in, the owner said hi to me, as i described above, and this very sort of…. almost ethereal MADM - type chick from the prior band was walking towards me in the hall and gave me a little ‘hello’