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I don't think so, I think he was a bit of an oddball. He kept commenting how nice my kids were and that he wanted a wife and family. And how I "deserved" to be taken out, and that I'm such a happy person. All this from seeing me in the context of making a major purchase over the course of just a few hours. I probably dodged a bullet. And yes, he did slash the price a bit. Just a weird experience, but I've been wistful for a partner lately and was willing to give it one date just in case he was rambling out of nervousness.
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like i'm sorry if this turd got your hopes up
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He absolutely didn't, I'm kind but I'm cold
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i'm attracted to this ugly goth girl at [this place where i go] but because of appropriate workplace behavior we're never going to be able to hook up
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I don't even understand why cars have to be purchased the way they do. I needed zero interaction to get the one I wanted, except for a test drive. I was already decided before I drove to the lot, and knew the particulars of how I'd be financing. Why go through it that way?
I hate dealing with realtors and the whole process of buying/selling a house, too. It seems pointless to add another party to the mix. Especially since that party is highly motivated by commission. |
I think the universe was protecting you from dating a salesman and you dodged a bullet. I feel like the dating pool is so weirdly small where you are now. When you move back to the East Coast and to somewhere a bit more urban everything will be miles better. I know what it’s like to entertain the thought of dating someone who wouldn’t be a blip on your radar normally. I went to an all girls high school and had a crush on a teacher who looked like Ned Flanders. He was just…all there was available, to think about.
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I’m so sleep deprived. I get less than 5 hours of sleep a night, usually, and I just can’t keep it up
You guys ever start taking everything personally when you’re tired? I keep coming home from work with a massively bruised ego feeling like I want another job. But I think it’s just the exhaustion, making me take things personally that aren’t really personal. I feel like an adolescent again |
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Are there any possible solutions for you? A different schedule? Asking your husband to help with specific things? I know it can be SO draining. |
You know how there's "No Nut November" or "Dry January" or whatever? I think I really need to do a version of that, but for time-wasting bullshit that I use to procrastinate but that rarely actually brings fulfillment.
I can spend literal hours surfing the web doing nothing in particular. Then I wonder where all the time went and feel like my life is slipping through my fingers without me just getting done the shit I want to do in life. Also, I'm trading the momentary relief of drawing my attention away from difficult shit I have to do for the much greater anxiety that comes later when it becomes an unavoidable fact that I'm behind on everything. So, for the month of November, I think I'll just totally block time-wasting sites. I know that what's more likely than me suddenly becoming uber productive is me just switching to other forms of procrastination, but hey, even that seems more healthy than refreshing Reddit for a dopamine hit. Maybe it will cause me to watch an actual movie and then have something to talk with other people about. >If you're blocking time-wasting sites, then why are you here? At this point, this board moves so slowly that it's not really possible to waste all day on it, anyway. |
Let me know how it goes. I tried to have an entire day without internet use in early October, excluding what I needed for work, and failed about 8 hours in. Pathetic. I was physically uncomfortable without clicking something. That's actually pretty alarming.
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I mean, obviously I don't confront/try to contact the ghoster or do anything psycho. I just stew about it instead of being one of those healthy folks who are all "I don't care or take it personally, c'est la vie, it says more about them than it does about me, I dodged a bullet 🦋🌈." Like, fuck that, Imma pout. Quote:
Like… they are clearly different entities. They don't even post the same. And I'm not just saying this because I am both of them, as well as five or six other user on this board, and I'm trying to gaslight you. I would never do that. |
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I get completely different enjoyment from slunk and j goldy, I don't believe them to be the same. Unless S is good enough to radically change his tone, vocabulary, and opinions.
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most of my internet time is at work now on my phone though, because there is an unavoidable amount of down time |
I feel like it's more than a matter of just keeping busy. Between grad school, the two bands, my job, and boxing lessons, I am a pretty busy person who finds it hard to schedule in stuff.
And even though I have precious little time, I still find myself making myself have even less time by procrastinating. |
Time wasting on the internet is like junk food for my mind. It’s an activity that I can’t get wrong or screw up, where there is no time pressure and no deadlines and no second guessing if I did the right thing. It’s very addictive because my real life is messy and complicated and hard and full of mistakes and a crippling level of cringe
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Escaping into it is like a little taste of heaven, where there are no alarm clocks or managers and no climate change and growing social and economic inequality
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I’m going to just let myself have it. It’s sad to be unproductive in my free time. But it’s what keeps me productive in my work time, and I have no choice about working, so it’s an important part of what keeps me functioning I guess
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it's not so spectacular to not "post the same", is it? it's not like handwriting. btw, i would only say it's cool to ask a girl out who is working if you are working yourself...not like a co-worker type thing, cause ew, been there and don't wanna do that again. but a guy who worked next door to me would come in on his lunch break for coffee and he did ask me out eventually or invited me to a party at his place. turned out to be a super creep who did ask me to leave his apartment when i refused anything sexual...at least he didn't rape or attack me though. oof. actually, leave all girls alone and let them come to you. i called him a creep to and took a cab home with the quickness and def did not pout about it. |
BRB gonna go see if slunken and Joey Goldberg have ever replied to each other
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in fact let me just go check those ip addresses
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damn, turns out you're right. slunken= joey Goldberg. well done, slunk/joey.
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vix, your oldest is an actual Pumpkins fan now, huh? I've seen at least 2 pics of him in a Zero shirt. Please tell me he isn't listening to ATUM.
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I always thought Joey was smarter than slunken
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Sure seemed that way!
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Always figured JG was an alt and sort of like a pisstake on rbg's character
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