you sound like someone well practiced at doubling down on confidently expressed ignorant statements
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I tried "pasta" made from hearts of palm, and somehow it was crunchy and soggy at the same time. So, so terrible.
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I’ve had therapists where every session was groundbreaking and I’ve had therapists where each session was at best a waste of time. Clinical psychologists have always been good, for me.
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No therapist has opened my eyes moreso than Kimani Shorter has.
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is that why you banned him? afraid of being too healthy? too powerful?
some days i really miss kimono i sure as hell have no idea what White Lies are up to! |
Kimani said “try doxymethorphan” and that was the breakthrough for me, every session
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"listen to rap music"
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lol @ the clothes on the wall but the song goes hard
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I haven't been in therapy since I was in hospital years back. It was totally pointless and repetitive when I was extremely low, but once I got on meds that helped things I kind of liked seeing the psychologist once a week. I didn't make any profound breakthroughs but I sort of enjoyed being able to vent a bit. I could also pretty much approach any nurse or support worker there for a chat in a side room or whatever, and unless they were busy with something they had no choice but to sit there and listen to me 'cause it was part of their job...
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Imma gonna go on a rant real quick.
Welp, I've officially decided I will never again live with a specific roommate I have after this lease is up. He's unemployed for long stretches of time and keeps on quitting his jobs after a few weeks because he decides he doesn't like them. Despite the fact that he knows he owes me thousands of dollars because he just stopped paying rent and utilities months ago. I'm the one who gives the landlord cheques and who handles the utilities/insurance accounts, so I'm forced to cover his share. Paying two people's bills every month has depleted my savings and now I can't even buy food. Yesterday I had a protein shake and the slices of ready-to-bake pizza he didn't want and generously offered me. Literally all I have stocked is protein powder and frozen fruit. Even after getting a few bucks in my account, no transactions will go through anymore. I don't know if having my card/autopay declined so many times just puts a hold on my accounts or something. Cards don't work, PayPal doesn't work. I'll have to call the bank when I'm done with this essay. There's no point making a big deal of it to him because he just profusely apologizes and acts contrite, but does the exact same shit again. He's incapable of learning from his mistakes or making any changes to better his life. I'm just taking it in stride for the time being and will simply never have anything to do with him again the moment our lease is up unless it's to collect any money he still owes me by then. The other two roommates are fine, and they are also getting a bit annoyed by the shitty one for different reasons, so I'm already gauging their receptivity to getting a place without the leech when the lease is up. |
That sucks. That is a lot of money :(
When is the lease up? Definitely get rid of this guy |
Ugh, roommates
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Were you guys all friends going in?
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Wait, why are you forced to cover his share when you have two other roommates? Why aren't they pitching in? Have you discussed this with your landlord? Why can't you kick his ass to the curb and replace him? I don't know what the laws are in Canada (or here for that matter), but even if his name's on the lease, if he's not holding up his end of that legal document by paying, why are you forced to put up with him?
This is sounding a bit combative and I just want to be clear I'm pissed on your behalf, and also incredulous that this is a situation one could be stuck in |
yes why are you paying for him
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I have pretty intense trauma issues as most people on here know, so my focus in therapy has probably been somewhat different than most, but my experience in therapy has been very good since I found the right therapist, which luckily was like 12 years ago. But even when I had a pretty shitty therapist, they never would have said something like that. They should know it won't help. In fact, in essentially saying "you shouldn't feel that way" or "that's just anxiety bro" they're not even acknowledging your feelings, which is not helpful at all. You feel what you feel. And if those are distortions, what is leading you to having them? If they're true, what can you do to change them? etc, sorry I know this probably isn't helpful but and is overly simplified, but I've only ever heard like a mental health tech in a hospital say something that dumb to me in a therapeutic context. |
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If his name isn't on the lease, then kick his ass out! If you're paying his portion and he's not a Leasee then allow him to squat in your place? |
I've dealt with freeloading roommates before. One was so bad my housemates and I even put all her shit on the curb while she was gone from the house... and we asked the landlord to change the lock so she couldn't get back in.
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The one that sucks is good at presenting himself differently from how he actually is. He seems like he has his life together, is charismatic and funny, talks himself up, etc. Going in, he was talking about how clean he is and shit. He turns out to be the messiest person and I'm always picking up after him. He tells me this thing about how he used to be an alcoholic and overcame it. He's still an alcoholic. He needs to get drunk every night. Quote:
Replacing him would take a lot of effort for the few months we've got left. And that's a few months where we all have to pay more rent. I mean, yeah, I'm already paying more rent, but in previous times where he went months without paying rent, he's eventually paid it back. If he's not a tenant, then there's no one to eventually pay back the extra rent I'm paying for those months. Quote:
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I have definitely noticed that people who talk about how clean they are definitely aren't. Just like when people talk about how smart they are.
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I’m a bit suspicious of any claim a person makes about themselves.
Or their kids, usually. I’ve met too many “gifted” kids for that term to have any meaning |
I'm the smartest most beautiful strongest funniest alwaysgotareplyonthetipofmytongue perfect person to ever person on this universe.
My only flaw is how modest I am. |
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my kid was supposed to roll months ago but he just sits. when i pick him up in daycare he's just sitting there while all the other babies crawl in circles around him.
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Fear not, before long you won't be able to catch him
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if you're just loaning him the full share of his rent indefinitely...idk, that was a poor decision either way sorry you're dealing with that |
Ive been renting rooms in other folks house since I moved out and Id recommend it honestly
the homeowner is typically on the hook for utilities and for the extra cost of a delinquent roommate the drawback is ofc that the homeowner sets the rules, however, I've found that because they have a mortgage and you don't, you have a decent amount of bargaining power |
I've done that a few times and didn't enjoy the experience, but the home owner was also still living there. It would probably be nicer to just rent a place that has tenants only.
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i have to move too, in 5 months
it sucks shit and I want to die |
double post whoops
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I need to stop moving to places that later become very popular so they won't JACK MY FUCKING RENT UP 400 FUCKING DOLLARS
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fried eggs and country ham |
I should be moving in August...this houses closes in less than a month, then we gotta rent it back until our tiny new house is complete. So ready to be back on the other coast.
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netphoria house coming soon
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Net4Euh Haus
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A Netphoria All-Stars Reality TV Event You Don't Want To Miss
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i would love to live in a hippy commune with netphorians
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As much as I like you guys, nothing could be worse for our collective mental health.
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I would moderate the shit out of all you
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