the thought of having kids scares me to death - Page 2

beef curtains · 02-10-2004, 07:56 PM

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Originally posted by BeautifulLoser

Tell him there's no guarantees on when you'll have kids... there's no way you can figure out now if that's what you want or not. But, the way things work, you may change your mind after 4 or 5 years. You say you want to enjoy "married time"... that'll give you plenty of time to do so, and hopefully you'll grow together in your marriage and be able to make a more solid decision on the issue.

Good luck.

good advice

The thought of having a baby scares the fuck out of me, but i think being pregnant would be interesting, and i enjoy kids aged 2+....

ambienlife · 02-10-2004, 07:58 PM

yes having kids at 19 is scarry

ammy · 02-10-2004, 07:59 PM

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Originally posted by ambienlife
yes having kids at 19 is scarry

slightly relevant... yet completely not.

slunky_munky · 02-10-2004, 08:49 PM

I really can't see myself having them. Maybe that's something I would regret when I'm middle-aged. Right now it seems like a responsibility I don't want. I see so many 'breeders' out there who treat their kids like their just a component or accessory in their perfect little world.

My brother is having his first kid at 19 and it's fucked him up and part of me is excited for the family but I'm dreading being in his position.

twilightfadez · 02-10-2004, 08:53 PM

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Originally posted by slunky_munky
I really can't see myself having them. Maybe that's something I would regret when I'm middle-aged. Right now it seems like a responsibility I don't want. I see so many 'breeders' out there who treat their kids like their just a component or accessory in their perfect little world.

My brother is having his first kid at 19 and it's fucked him up and part of me is excited for the family but I'm dreading being in his position.

ahhhhh i love you! where have you been

boooohoooo

miss you lots

morphinebitch · 02-10-2004, 08:55 PM

i have a strong dislike of children.
and fear of ever being pregnant.

slunky_munky · 02-10-2004, 09:15 PM

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Originally posted by twilightfadez

ahhhhh i love you! where have you been boooohoooo miss you lots

yah I ve been away for my normal lines of communication for a while... I'll write to you soon....lots to tell you....even the old stuff I never told you I think....

twilightfadez · 02-10-2004, 09:25 PM

ooh ok i hacve lots to tell you!!

i can't wait

Fonzie · 02-11-2004, 12:16 AM

Feel the love, peeps.

Did you enjy the Big Day Out, Paul?

spring · 02-11-2004, 01:04 AM

The thought of being pregnant is terrifying, just as bad as thinking of giving birth. For as long as I can remember I've said I don't want kids, ever. But...it's really funny how things change. I've been volunteering at this French immersion school since September, and I get to teach French and Math to kids in grade 5. You have NO idea how much I enjoy it, and how I would love it...when I'm 30 to have a son or daughter age 4-5, and look forward to the whole experience of them growing up, etc.

Anyway, I think that you're making this "no kids until 30" rule a bit too strict and unrealistic....lots of people posting in the thread gave you great advice, but also you should think of how much married life will change you, and not only that, but just going through these 7 years until then....who knows, maybe you and your boyfriend/husband will decide not to have kids until 35....so yeah, I think you shouldn't make it a bigger issue than it should be, in terms of being inflexible, yet you should discuss it realistically and with a clear mind

ps. sorry this was so long.

02-10-2004, 09:25 PM	#38
twilightfadez Socialphobic Location: Medellin, CO Posts: 10,511	ooh ok i hacve lots to tell you!! i can't wait __________________ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 5 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. // To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 5 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

02-11-2004, 01:04 AM	#40
spring die 'til it doesn't hurt Posts: 7,475	The thought of being pregnant is terrifying, just as bad as thinking of giving birth. For as long as I can remember I've said I don't want kids, ever. But...it's really funny how things change. I've been volunteering at this French immersion school since September, and I get to teach French and Math to kids in grade 5. You have NO idea how much I enjoy it, and how I would love it...when I'm 30 to have a son or daughter age 4-5, and look forward to the whole experience of them growing up, etc. Anyway, I think that you're making this "no kids until 30" rule a bit too strict and unrealistic....lots of people posting in the thread gave you great advice, but also you should think of how much married life will change you, and not only that, but just going through these 7 years until then....who knows, maybe you and your boyfriend/husband will decide not to have kids until 35....so yeah, I think you shouldn't make it a bigger issue than it should be, in terms of being inflexible, yet you should discuss it realistically and with a clear mind ps. sorry this was so long. __________________ Son vrai nom est amitié.

02-10-2004, 07:58 PM	#32
ambienlife Demi-God Location: in a dream Posts: 393	yes having kids at 19 is scarry

02-10-2004, 08:49 PM	#34
slunky_munky Demi-God Posts: 252	I really can't see myself having them. Maybe that's something I would regret when I'm middle-aged. Right now it seems like a responsibility I don't want. I see so many 'breeders' out there who treat their kids like their just a component or accessory in their perfect little world. My brother is having his first kid at 19 and it's fucked him up and part of me is excited for the family but I'm dreading being in his position.

02-10-2004, 08:55 PM	#36
morphinebitch Apocalyptic Poster Location: breathe out, so i can breathe you in Posts: 2,561	i have a strong dislike of children. and fear of ever being pregnant.

02-11-2004, 12:16 AM	#39
Fonzie Dute of Seven Y's Location: Mr. C's garage Posts: 7,573	Feel the love, peeps. Did you enjy the Big Day Out, Paul?