I can't tell the difference between love and infatuation

[null123]

I'm suffering from limerence

[The exploding boy]

Do you want to talk about it? Is he dreamy? whats his name? does he have nice teeth? DOES HE EVEN KNOW YOU EXIST?

[Sonic Johnny]

I'm totally in love. It's fucking great.

[ilikeplanets]

Me too. With two guys. All three of us are in love! My husband wants me there when he comes out as bi to his mother.

[Trotskilicious]

gross

[reprise85]

what could go wrong

[Starla]

Originally Posted by Trotskilicious

Im sorry starla

Thanks, it'll be alright...

[Trotskilicious]

i just want to say that i have yet to see polyamory work out in anyone's favor

[reprise85]

i have seen "open relationships" work (fucking other people), but not a three way love relationship

[Trotskilicious]

that's a good point

usually the new person is the next person

[Dogfighter28]

I'm currently infatuated. Help

[Trotskilicious]

Originally Posted by Charmbag

I'm suffering from limerence

i get this every time but i had to look up the word

[Sonic Johnny]

Originally Posted by ilikeplanets

Me too. With two guys. All three of us are in love! My husband wants me there when he comes out as bi to his mother.

Your life is like if someone made a movie of Craigslist

[The exploding boy]

Originally Posted by Trotskilicious

i just want to say that i have yet to see polyamory work out in anyone's favor

Did that ever work out for Becca? Every time i read the word polyamory i think of her cause it was in my sheltered life the first person i heard was in such a relationship. When did she leave here anyway?

[Trotskilicious]

no

[null123]

Originally Posted by Trotskilicious

i get this every time but i had to look up the word

I only said it because of vixnix's posts up thread. Is it still limerence if it's requited? I couldn't quite figure that out from the Wikipedia page. Anyway yeah he knows I exist I'm being courted or seduced or something

[The exploding boy]

Courted? Did he invite you to a ball yet? does he send you flowers with poems attached?

[The exploding boy]

I actually did the poem thing as a teen, as probably many have, though not with flowers. Terrible results. Then again, so was the poetry.

Love gets easier once you stop being so naive and wide eyed about it.

[great poster]

Originally Posted by reprise85

i have seen "open relationships" work (fucking other people), but not a three way love relationship

i was with someone who ended up identifying as asexual, so we stopped having sex leading her to push the idea of a one-sided open relationship onto me. i really, really wanted it to work but i only lasted a few months before we decided to call it quits. it hurt because we still loved each other a lot but we just knew it wasn't going to work anymore. i have a lot of respect for couples who can use polyamory to strengthen their relationship.

[Trotskilicious]

nah i think that word is literally about it being unrequited but I just learned it existed yesterday

[Sonic Johnny]

Originally Posted by vixnix

Do you have references for this? I don't know anyone in real life, who is able to sustain long term relationships of any kind, who feels this way about love and marriage.

Yeah cause you live in suburban Sydney and hang out with other parents and people from your church

[Rairun]

You people really do lead sheltered lives if your experience tells you that polyamory can't lead to healthy relationships. What's next? Women are only lesbians because they haven't found the right man?

[Mals Marola]

Originally Posted by Rairun

You people really do lead sheltered lives if your experience tells you that polyamory can't lead to healthy relationships

don't know about that so much as the whole concept being more of a "on the down low" thing in general

i've never known or seen anyone who was actually openly in this sort of relationship, and honestly it seems like a considerably... difficult one from the get go.

[Rairun]

You can sort of make a Mormon/polygamy joke work because (as far as I am aware) it was a really sexist institution. One man, many wives serving him.

Polyamory is more grounded in egalitarian ideals. No, that doesn't change the fact that we still live in an unequal society. If you aren't very careful, you might end up with some really fucked up dynamics - but it's not like monogamous relationships are any different in this regard.

In short - yes, really. If you don't know anyone who is happy in a poly relationship, that means you don't know many people in that sort of relationship in the first place.

[Rairun]

Sorry, I didn't realize you'd edited your post before I replied.

[reprise85]

rairun i have no problem with poly relationships and i agree, i dont know anybody in the sort of relationship personally. at least no one who has talked about it with me.

[Eulogy]

Originally Posted by reprise85

rairun i have no problem with poly relationships and i agree, i dont know anybody in the sort of relationship personally. at least no one who has talked about it with me.

Originally Posted by reprise85

what could go wrong

Oh?

[Eulogy]

It seems like this is one of the last things otherwise accepting people feel like they need to be judgmental about.

Different things work for different people. It is just not that complicated.

I would never be in a poly relationship because I don't think it would work for me. See how that works, trots

[Eulogy]

And the idea that it never working for people in your experience is irrelevant and misleading. Every couple you've ever known that isn't married or still together had the relationship end. Presumably you don't blame that on their monogamy.

[reprise85]

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