trial separation

[reprise85]

Originally Posted by Bread Regal

so yeah, i'm basically a shitty person.

you're not a shitty person. people change and stuff.

[duovamp]

Unless you broke a promise.

[yo soy el mejor]

you mean like 'til death do us part?!

uh-oh. i need more 48 hour episodes to watch. you know what to do. two birds - one you know what.

[Bread Regal]

Originally Posted by yo soy el mejor

you mean like 'til death do us part?!

neither of us uttered this even once.

[reprise85]

i know you two will remain friends and stuff (i assume)

so i just hope you both get what you want. if this isn't going to last, it just isn't. it doesn't seem like some kind of blow up or anything, you just don't feel it and i don't think there is anything wrong with that

i do wonder why you guys got married if you were never really into it 100%, but i suppose that doesn't really matter.

[Order 66]

i'm probably the last guy who should give life advice but as somebody whose seeing alot of late 20s/early 30s marriages fizzle out, alot of them didn't live together beforehand. i would think it's best next time to shack up a good 6-12 months beforehand, just to test things out. or thats what i'm going to do when i meet the right woman (which is pretty LOL, but a hypothetical)

You can't meet the right woman until you work to make yourself into the right man

Just something to think about

- <3 ~Aeris~

[yo soy el mejor]

Originally Posted by Bread Regal

neither of us uttered this even once.

good for you. i think those vows are wack.

[yo soy el mejor]

Originally Posted by Aeris Hilton

You can't meet the right woman until you work to make yourself into the right man

Just something to think about

- <3 ~Aeris~

sean, i admire your wisdom. it touches me.

[yo soy el mejor]

Originally Posted by Order 66

i'm probably the last guy who should give life advice but as somebody whose seeing alot of late 20s/early 30s marriages fizzle out, alot of them didn't live together beforehand. i would think it's best next time to shack up a good 6-12 months beforehand, just to test things out. or thats what i'm going to do when i meet the right woman (which is pretty LOL, but a hypothetical)

what if it's someone you've already met?

[hnibos]

hey order 66

[hnibos]

Originally Posted by Bread Regal

due to my own cowardice, i have led her to believe certain things about my feelings which are simply not true.

i have been ambivalent about the relationship for a good portion of the time we've been together, and i haven't been honest with my lukewarm feelings. she was (reasonably) under the impression that i was in it for the long haul, but it's nearly impossible for me to envision the future i want for myself, much less a future for myself that she is a part of.

we discussed the prospect of a trial separation and going to couples therapy once a week, but i came to the conclusion that no trial separation of any length or therapy of any kind was going to help me make the decision.

to continue the relationship without making an emotional commitment has the same material consequences as purposefully leading her on. and a commitment needs to be made either way. so instead of committing to the idea of staying (impossible), i committed to the idea of leaving.

i think it's for the better. we have no children, we're still relatively young. there was no right time to fire this cannon.

I am pretty much in the same situation except I'm more of a coward and haven't left yet. So, you could be shittier.

[teh b0lly!!1]

Originally Posted by Bread Regal

due to my own cowardice, i have led her to believe certain things about my feelings which are simply not true.

the most important question is how old are you both, and does she still stand a chance to meet someone else and\or have a kid (assuming she wants to have one)

people break up and that's fine but if she spent most of her adult life with you and 'cemented her fate' it's kind of a different story

[Bread Regal]

we have been married less than two years and we are in our late twenties.

it's not too late for anything.

The billy the oldest person here is in his 40s which is not too late to meet someone else and have kids
Exactly how old do you think ****** is

[teh b0lly!!1]

i was talking about his wife

[teh b0lly!!1]

biological clock ticking and all that

[teh b0lly!!1]

bonsoir i hope you feel better man, you really shouldn't feel so bad
it almost seems like divorce nowadays is more common than folks actually staying together

Originally Posted by teh b0lly!!1

it almost seems like divorce nowadays is more common than folks actually staying together

[Bread Regal]

[Bread Regal]

Originally Posted by teh b0lly!!1

you really shouldn't feel so bad

[Bread Regal]

probably gonna go to the nude beach on saturday.

bringin the tanning oil.

[Bread Regal]

and my math books.

[Cool As Ice Cream]

Originally Posted by Bread Regal

i think it's for the better. we have no children, we're still relatively young. there was no right time to fire this cannon.

sorry to hear that, jobo.
i think you're right. it definitely sucks, but it's probably for the better.

[teh b0lly!!1]

Originally Posted by Bread Regal

stfu scotty

[Adult Head]

trial by separation

[Trotskilicious]

Originally Posted by Bread Regal

we have been married less than two years and we are in our late twenties.

it's not too late for anything.

women need to be knocked up before then, it's your responsibility as a man to see this through

[Trotskilicious]

the most important question is if you are leaving her now after she has withered away and no longer able to bear fruit of her loins, the only purpose of a woman

[Trotskilicious]

bioglogicical clock and all

[teh b0lly!!1]

i despise the fact that everybody thinks they need to have children so the sarcasm is spot on

but most people seem to find this subject extremely important.
so from that point of view i was trying to see if bonsoir has that reason to feel so shitty about himself