i'm angry

[reprise85]

when is the last time you were really angry and why

[ilikeplanets]

What are you angry at?

[ilikeplanets]

I got mad at my neighbor for guilt tripping my roommate into letting her borrow his car literally every day for the past month. I let her keep mine overnight for about a week but then she noticed the tags were all expired and gave it back. Fair enough, she carries weed a lot so I understand the caution. But as she is setting up the meeting to give me my car back she lets us know that she'll return it "whenever we're ready to help again" by constantly giving her rides or letting her borrow my roomie's car every day during the day. Ugh how the fuck can she expect that?

[ilikeplanets]

My roommate giving her a ride entails: taking her kids to school at 7, taking her to work at 9....picking her up 2 and picking her kids up around 4. He's also driving the kids to their sports games and doctor's appointments. For literally nothing in exchange. Free favors are fine in moderation but this is a bit much imo

[reprise85]

sun sentinel kept sending me bills i didnt owe
i called every time i got a bill, 4 times, and they kept saying they had fixed it
finally i emailed and they did fix it. when i emailed i said when my term was up i wanted my subscription to end
then my term was up and i emailed them again to make sure they would stop
then yesterday i got another bill. i emailed them again saying i already requested it to be stopped.

she said ok we'll stop it but you owe $3 something (for 3 papers BTW, the original deal i got was $13 for 6 months of sat-sun and there was no way i'd pay the full price)

it's not about the money it's about them stringing my account along and not stopping it when i said to and then trying to bill me when they just tried to force me to continue. i am so glad they dont have me debit card on file. they sent me a $90 bill ffs

she just emailed me and said they never got my requests (bullshit, i emailed her specifically and she RESPONDED!) but whatever we'll see if i get another bill. she said she returned my balance to 0

[reprise85]

Originally Posted by ilikeplanets

I got mad at my neighbor for guilt tripping my roommate into letting her borrow his car literally every day for the past month. I let her keep mine overnight for about a week but then she noticed the tags were all expired and gave it back. Fair enough, she carries weed a lot so I understand the caution. But as she is setting up the meeting to give me my car back she lets us know that she'll return it "whenever we're ready to help again" by constantly giving her rides or letting her borrow my roomie's car every day during the day. Ugh how the fuck can she expect that?

expired tags = an arrest waiting to happen. dont you carry weed constantly?

[ilikeplanets]

Not on the road unless there's a decent reason. I also don't drive much anyway cuz my tags are expired and have a Texas plate in 'Bama.....and no insurance or gas money. Fuck

[Order 66]

the mailman or whoever tossed out the mail in the mailbox including the bills. i usually pay them in cash at the grocery store ... can pay online but totes forgot my username and pw.

[reprise85]

Originally Posted by ilikeplanets

Not on the road unless there's a decent reason. I also don't drive much anyway cuz my tags are expired and have a Texas plate in 'Bama.....and no insurance or gas money. Fuck

speechless

Originally Posted by Order 66

the mailman or whoever tossed out the mail in the mailbox including the bills. i usually pay them in cash at the grocery store ... can pay online but totes forgot my username and pw.

that's really fucked up

[Order 66]

its kind of my fault for only opening it once a month. but assuming it was junk mail they were cramming in there they could just not put that shit in there. trying to pay online with at&t can be such a pain in the ass jesus

[hnibos]

Almost everyday at work because I have really dumb coworkers. I don't know if I have a low tolerance for bullshit because I'm angry all the time or if I have a high tolerance for bullshit because I always just grin and bear it.

[Shallowed]

Last time would have been Christmas Night, at a party of a family friend. I'm not related to anyone there but our families are very close with each other that we might as well be family. Basically got blown off by a couple of guys who are in my age bracket. They left without telling me, I texted the one that wasn't driving to ask him where they went, he responded to a friend of his, I asked if I could come, got no response.

Next day I texted him a "sup", got a response, asked him what he got up to, no response.

I feel really distant from these guys now, we used to be like this

http://onegayatatime.files.wordpress...s_optimist.jpg

[vixnix]

I got angry at my kids yesterday because they hold all their tension in at school and then come home and get all feral as they unwind. It's very trying.

[Luke de Spa]

i was angry at my GP back in december for misdiagnosing my melanoma as benign on two separate occasions, the first almost a year before it was finally biopsied

didn't last long. face the facts, then adapt etc. etc.

[Sonic Johnny]

Originally Posted by vixnix

I got angry at my kids yesterday because they hold all their tension in at school and then come home and get all feral as they unwind. It's very trying.

So you got angry at your kids for behaving like kids do?

[reprise85]

Originally Posted by Luke de Spa

i was angry at my GP back in december for misdiagnosing my melanoma as benign on two separate occasions, the first almost a year before it was finally biopsied

didn't last long. face the facts, then adapt etc. etc.

well that sucks i'd be angry as fuck

[vixnix]

Originally Posted by Sonic Johnny

So you got angry at your kids for behaving like kids do?

Yes.

[Shallowed]

Hope your kitty makes you less angry :3

[Shallowed]

Originally Posted by reprise85

well that sucks i'd be angry as fuck

I would be too but sometimes you gotta remember that what's done is done and you can't change the past, certainly not by being angry. Being angry can just be a waste of emotional energy.

And I know that this is fucking melanoma we're talking about but if it was me I'd still want to come to terms with it.

[reprise85]

well of course

you're talking to someone who rarely gets angry here

the sun sentinel thing just made me angry because i saw it coming and did my best to stop it and it happened anyway

oh and i was angry for like 30 minutes

[Sonic Johnny]

Originally Posted by vixnix

Yes.

have you read "the myth of sisyphus"?

[vixnix]

Yes. Do you know any parents who never get angry at their kids just for being kids? It can be pretty hard sometimes even when you know it's normal behaviour.

[Luke de Spa]

Originally Posted by Shallowed

what's done is done and you can't change the past, certainly not by being angry. Being angry can just be a waste of emotional energy.

yeah, this. it seemed pretty obvious that the right thing to do was not to be angry, but to find a new GP and make it perfectly clear to my soon-to-be-former doctor exactly why he'd lost me as a patient.

[puts on far-mode hat]

negative emotional responses have long seemed to me to be a kind of pre-linguistic evolutionary vestige. they produce immediate results but, well, we've evolved tools to consider the future, so in most cases it's probably better to use those instead. knowing this, and because my responses these days are weaker than they used to be – if you don't feed a plant it withers, i guess – i wasn't angry for long.

i have instead experienced a lingering disappointment, and i anticipate that lasting for a while longer. that feels kind of halfway between emotion and cognition. i wonder if there's a word for that

[reprise85]

umm metacognition? not exactly what you're talking about but along those lines?

[Bread Regal]

I'm kind of intermittently angry at a friend for lots of things right now. Like too many to list concisely.

[reprise85]

Originally Posted by Luke de Spa

yeah, this. it seemed pretty obvious that the right thing to do was not to be angry, but to find a new GP and make it perfectly clear to my soon-to-be-former doctor exactly why he'd lost me as a patient.

[puts on far-mode hat]

interesting website

[Luke de Spa]

no, not metacognition

generally we separate emotion and cognition into separate categories, right?

something like disappointment seems to be comprised of both. there's an emotional basis that's given detail and complexity via cognition. which would imply that emotion and cognition are really on a spectrum. i haven't really thought about this before so apologies if it's trite, but there are many similar mental states. longing, ennui, hope, cynicism

[Sonic Johnny]

I know parents who get frustrated and/or worn out by the workload of having kids, definitely.

I just... I dunno vix... I don't really know you at all, just from what you've posted on here. You've won me over since you started posting and i'm sorry for being a bit harsh on you when you started posting here (you should have seen what this place was like 4 or 5 years ago, old habits die hard...)

Anyway, I just get this impression that you kind of get hurt by/angry at everything that turns out not the way you'd like it. It seems to me like getting angry at kids for being kids or at some lady from your co-op for not wanting to be friends with you seems really futile y'know? What's that saying like "lord give me the patience to endure those things I can't change , the strength to change those things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference"?

I know you've said before that you can't "just stop wanting" certain things to be a certain way but i'm not sure it's quite that simple. I'm not perfect with achieving that kind of detachment, i'll admit. I'm sorry if this is patronising or anything, its just how it looks from where i'm standing (well.. sitting) and I feel frustrated on your behalf.

Have you read much buddhist philosophy?

[Luke de Spa]

Originally Posted by Sonic Johnny

I'm sorry if this is patronising or anything … Have you read much buddhist philosophy?

lol

[Sonic Johnny]

Not that I have, actually.