breaking up with people after years of dating - Page 2

Dead Frequency · 05-31-2012, 07:07 PM

Life is like a sewer. What you get out of it depends entirely on what you put into it.

BlissedandGone2 · 05-31-2012, 07:38 PM

sad thread is sad.

I dated a girl for 3 years and then we split up. 2 years later and I still don't know what to do about it. From afar, she seems happier than ever, so that's good I guess.

Shallowed · 05-31-2012, 07:45 PM

Longest relationship I've been in was 1.5 years. It ended in 2009 and I haven't been in contact with her since 2010.

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Originally Posted by redbreegull

she did not accept we were breaking up

Ouch. She sounds rather crazy. It's sad when relationships trainwreck like that.

Shallowed · 05-31-2012, 07:49 PM

I've always found it weird that with relationships, you can go from being acquainted with someone to being madly in love with them to not wanting to know them. It's a rollercoaster.

reprise85 · 05-31-2012, 08:32 PM

thin line between love and hate. i fully believe that to be true

i find that the more i can get away from that love/hate, the opposite is really apathy.

duovamp · 05-31-2012, 08:34 PM

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Originally Posted by reprise85

thin line between love and hate.

What.

reprise85 · 05-31-2012, 08:37 PM

it takes a comparable amount of mental energy to love or hate someone. letting it go/moving on involves the withdrawing of that energy and re-investment in something else.

imo

reprise85 · 05-31-2012, 08:42 PM

this is just a small study, but FWIW: http://www.independent.co.uk/news/sc...te-976901.html

Gossamer · 05-31-2012, 08:43 PM

yeah I feel pretty sad tonight.

I don't think she has been taking our break up very well and she was really upset with me for ending it. We had broken up about 2 years ago and it was her decision at the time but this time it was mine and I think she thought we could get through anything.

reprise85 · 05-31-2012, 08:46 PM

Shallowed · 05-31-2012, 08:59 PM

It feels bad now but sooner or later this will all be in the past and you'll have both forgotten about the pain.

duovamp · 05-31-2012, 09:01 PM

What's her number? I'll cheer her up.

duovamp · 05-31-2012, 09:02 PM

If it makes you feel any better, someone's gonna cheer her up.

duovamp · 05-31-2012, 09:02 PM

And that someone... is me.

Shallowed · 05-31-2012, 09:09 PM

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Originally Posted by duovamp

If it makes you feel any better, someone's gonna cheer her up.

You should try cheering up Gossamer too.

duovamp · 05-31-2012, 09:17 PM

Yeah I'll zug ya deek, Goss, idgaf.

reprise85 · 05-31-2012, 09:22 PM

cue trots saying gossamer doesn't deserve to be sad since he initiated the breakup

Starla · 05-31-2012, 11:45 PM

Is there someone else in the picture? A lot of people jump the gun on ending long term relationships when they have someone else in mind.

BlissedandGone2 · 05-31-2012, 11:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Starla

Is there someone else in the picture? A lot of people jump the gun on ending long term relationships when they have someone else in mind.

but also, if you have someone else in mind, that can be a pretty good indication that your relationship isn't in such a solid position

hnibos · 06-01-2012, 12:01 AM

I think the feeling of love or whatever is cyclical and people freak out during one of the downturns but that's just my theory and it's based off zero experience, so, yeah.

Esty · 06-01-2012, 12:46 AM

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Originally Posted by BlissedandGone2

sad thread is sad.

I dated a girl for 3 years and then we split up. 2 years later and I still don't know what to do about it. From afar, she seems happier than ever, so that's good I guess.

Good for her

mercurial · 06-01-2012, 01:12 AM

christ, this thread is the worst thing.
mods pls lock.

Starla · 06-01-2012, 06:59 AM

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Originally Posted by BlissedandGone2

but also, if you have someone else in mind, that can be a pretty good indication that your relationship isn't in such a solid position

But that doesn't always mean the relationship is over.

I don't think people are "dating" when they are living with one another either.

Starla · 06-01-2012, 07:12 AM

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Originally Posted by hnibos

I think the feeling of love or whatever is cyclical and people freak out during one of the downturns but that's just my theory and it's based off zero experience, so, yeah.

I agree.... the initial feelings of falling in love causes different chemicals in our body to release like norepinephrine and dopamine which creates a sort of high. Some people continue feeling this for up to a year or so when everything is exciting and new. When the excitement starts to fade, then some people think they are not in love anymore, so they leave the relationship and start all over again with someone else.

Trotskilicious · 06-01-2012, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by reprise85

cue trots saying gossamer doesn't deserve to be sad since he initiated the breakup

what? shut the fuck up.

Trotskilicious · 06-01-2012, 09:37 AM

guy is a shameless egotist though we all know that

sickbadthing · 06-01-2012, 10:30 AM

Are we going to see tits or what this thread is horrible

duovamp · 06-01-2012, 12:00 PM

Or cocks. Whatev.

KrazeeStacee · 06-01-2012, 12:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Starla

I agree.... the initial feelings of falling in love causes different chemicals in our body to release like norepinephrine and dopamine which creates a sort of high. Some people continue feeling this for up to a year or so when everything is exciting and new. When the excitement starts to fade, then some people think they are not in love anymore, so they leave the relationship and start all over again with someone else.

Yeah this is a shame...it just turns into a cycle. Relationships take a lot of work and most of that work starts after the whole "honeymoon" period. It just comes down to whether or not you're both willing to put in the time and have patience, understanding and grow together.

That all sounded very Hallmark, but it's true!

redbreegull · 06-01-2012, 01:00 PM

The beginning of relationships are the most fun IMO. Right now I am lucky enough to have been with the same girl for a year and a half, and I think we are still in the infatuation stage

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05-31-2012, 07:07 PM	#31
Dead Frequency Minion of Satan Location: They don't know who did it, but they're looking for hardened criminals Posts: 5,403	Life is like a sewer. What you get out of it depends entirely on what you put into it.

05-31-2012, 07:38 PM	#32
BlissedandGone2 Minion of Satan Location: You don't play guitar hero if you are a guitar hero. Posts: 5,767	sad thread is sad. I dated a girl for 3 years and then we split up. 2 years later and I still don't know what to do about it. From afar, she seems happier than ever, so that's good I guess.

05-31-2012, 07:49 PM	#34
Shallowed Minion of Satan Location: gagged and bound to a chair in a serial killer's basement but still having a sense of humour about it. Posts: 9,224	I've always found it weird that with relationships, you can go from being acquainted with someone to being madly in love with them to not wanting to know them. It's a rollercoaster.

05-31-2012, 08:32 PM	#35
reprise85 Socialphobic Location: Now, I'm not a professional psychologist, but I am an amateur psychologist. And I think that your spontaneous eye-watering may have something to do with your father. Posts: 14,550	thin line between love and hate. i fully believe that to be true i find that the more i can get away from that love/hate, the opposite is really apathy.

05-31-2012, 08:37 PM	#37
reprise85 Socialphobic Location: Now, I'm not a professional psychologist, but I am an amateur psychologist. And I think that your spontaneous eye-watering may have something to do with your father. Posts: 14,550	it takes a comparable amount of mental energy to love or hate someone. letting it go/moving on involves the withdrawing of that energy and re-investment in something else. imo

05-31-2012, 08:42 PM	#38
reprise85 Socialphobic Location: Now, I'm not a professional psychologist, but I am an amateur psychologist. And I think that your spontaneous eye-watering may have something to do with your father. Posts: 14,550	this is just a small study, but FWIW: http://www.independent.co.uk/news/sc...te-976901.html

05-31-2012, 08:43 PM	#39
Gossamer Apocalyptic Poster Location: We got it like three quarters of the way in whilst on vacation last week. Minor success. Unfortunately she is leaving for England in a couple of days. Posts: 3,787	yeah I feel pretty sad tonight. I don't think she has been taking our break up very well and she was really upset with me for ending it. We had broken up about 2 years ago and it was her decision at the time but this time it was mine and I think she thought we could get through anything.

05-31-2012, 08:46 PM	#40
reprise85 Socialphobic Location: Now, I'm not a professional psychologist, but I am an amateur psychologist. And I think that your spontaneous eye-watering may have something to do with your father. Posts: 14,550

05-31-2012, 08:59 PM	#41
Shallowed Minion of Satan Location: gagged and bound to a chair in a serial killer's basement but still having a sense of humour about it. Posts: 9,224	It feels bad now but sooner or later this will all be in the past and you'll have both forgotten about the pain.

05-31-2012, 09:01 PM	#42
duovamp Immortal Location: trawling Atlantis (◕‿◕✿) Posts: 28,954	What's her number? I'll cheer her up.

05-31-2012, 09:02 PM	#43
duovamp Immortal Location: trawling Atlantis (◕‿◕✿) Posts: 28,954	If it makes you feel any better, someone's gonna cheer her up.

05-31-2012, 09:17 PM	#46
duovamp Immortal Location: trawling Atlantis (◕‿◕✿) Posts: 28,954	Yeah I'll zug ya deek, Goss, idgaf.

05-31-2012, 09:22 PM	#47
reprise85 Socialphobic Location: Now, I'm not a professional psychologist, but I am an amateur psychologist. And I think that your spontaneous eye-watering may have something to do with your father. Posts: 14,550	cue trots saying gossamer doesn't deserve to be sad since he initiated the breakup

05-31-2012, 11:45 PM	#48
Starla ***** Posts: 12,599	Is there someone else in the picture? A lot of people jump the gun on ending long term relationships when they have someone else in mind.

06-01-2012, 12:01 AM	#50
hnibos Socialphobic Location: I was just reading, right? Posts: 11,416	I think the feeling of love or whatever is cyclical and people freak out during one of the downturns but that's just my theory and it's based off zero experience, so, yeah.

06-01-2012, 01:12 AM	#52
mercurial $ W▲ G Posts: 6,562	christ, this thread is the worst thing. mods pls lock.

06-01-2012, 09:37 AM	#56
Trotskilicious My Fiesta Name is Pendejo Location: I'm never going outside again unless I need someplace to throw up. Posts: 10,825	guy is a shameless egotist though we all know that

06-01-2012, 10:30 AM	#57
sickbadthing Out fart the hottie! Location: I have super gonorrhoea Posts: 24,242	Are we going to see tits or what this thread is horrible

06-01-2012, 12:00 PM	#58
duovamp Immortal Location: trawling Atlantis (◕‿◕✿) Posts: 28,954	Or cocks. Whatev.

06-01-2012, 01:00 PM	#60
redbreegull Socialphobic Location: listen you beautiful bitch, I'm about to fuck you up with some truth Posts: 11,454	The beginning of relationships are the most fun IMO. Right now I am lucky enough to have been with the same girl for a year and a half, and I think we are still in the infatuation stage