does facebook weird you out?

[duovamp]

I rest my case.

[slunken]

Originally Posted by duovamp

Sounds like you just have crappy friends then. Or friends who aren't real friends so much as people who vaguely don't mind wasting time alongside you. I'm okay with not having those sorts of people in my life. As for the social events, if I have to hear about something that someone said someone said someone said someone said was happening, what is the incentive to attend? Do I want to go to a high school boy's graduation party in Nebraska I haven't heard about?

I think deep down this is a question of lifestyle. There must not be much diversity in the life of a banker. I dunno about grad parties but here's a good example: A good friend of mine from Indiana (about 3 hours away) moved to California for 5 years. When he moved back to Indiana (which I found out about via FB) he had an art opening for his new work. I probably would not have found out about that show through word of mouth. His new work was amazing and we re-connected in a sense and are close friends again.

Originally Posted by duovamp

How does it seem desperate? It sounds like you're grabbing left and right for people. It's not a numbers game. Quality of friendship is what actually means something to me. If you feel otherwise, then you're allowed.

I'm not at all arguing about levels of friendship. I'm talking about events that I may not have heard about or have forgotten about. Whether or not I enjoy them alone or with friends or crappy friends or fake friends is not what I'm talking about at all. I really don't need the support of company to pursue my interests in the arts.

[barden]

Originally Posted by duovamp

Myspace was older and less popular. Obviously if given the chance Myspace could've been a great tool for this sort of thing. So could Google Calendar.

The endless attention whoring and desperate pokings just make people who rely entirely on Facebook to support their social lives look utterly pathetic.

it's nice that you can not only target specific people with invites, but gauge the events numbers based on their response / interest. It's already a social hub so the thought of a migration over to something else again, or using a specific service just to market events, is tedious. I can just quietly infiltrate peoples current social circles and plans anyway. if I do it right, then the public aspect of confirming themselves for my event will make them look cool.

there are other things, but at the moment, this is the one that works best for what I am looking for I guess.
It's rad cause I can get about 8000 city relevant invites to an event in a few hours through a little established network I have.

[duovamp]

This party has been marked as: Facebook members ONLY.

[duovamp]

I have to party eeevery daaaayyy.

[BumbleBeeMouth]

Originally Posted by barden

also, today on facebook i read a weird status about the weekend from my boss.
When i went to the studio this eve I asked him about it and so I got to hear this funny story: SA has our own idols comps too. Anyway, one guy called 'Elvis Blue' or something who either won one year or was a finalist, was performing at the same local festival as my boss was playing, who is in one of SA's bigger 'rock' bands (they're like QOTSA, they're toured europe a few times). Anyway, so some guys bet him he wouldn't fuck with this Elvis Blue guys set, and he was so wasted, so he walked up while the guy was performing and puked all over his equipment, intentionally.
It has made quite a scene, apparently.
It's kinda out of character for him, he's mostly a soft spoken nice guy.
I was amused, and found out the scoop thanks to facebook.

"hey man how was your weekend?"

no one really answers that question anymore because they've written about it on facebook BEFORE ANYONE HAS ASKED!!!

[barden]

just this week i also got back in touch with a guy i know who lives in Amsterdam, and had lost touch with him years ago.
He asked me if i was married yet and I realised this was a realistic expectation and felt weird.
Anyway, he's back here in November or something so we're going to meet up again and thats cool.

[barden]

Originally Posted by BumbleBeeMouth

"hey man how was your weekend?"

no one really answers that question anymore because they've written about it on facebook BEFORE ANYONE HAS ASKED!!!

i ask that question all the time!

[slunken]

If I only relied on word-of-mouth through my close circle of friends I would find myself doing the same things week in and week out most likely. What duovamp is arguing against (to me) is the same as arguing against going to any website for information or picking up a flyer for any information or reading an email etc

[duovamp]

wat

[slunken]

i don't know

[Nimrod's Son]

i have 70,000 posts on a messageboard for a band i don't even like

so no, facebook doesn't weird me out

[barden]

Originally Posted by duovamp

I have to party eeevery daaaayyy.

"Partying is misunderstood by 99% of the populace.
Accordingly, it is rarely done properly and has never received the respect it deserves.

Partying is: “forgetting who you are while remembering what you are”.

It is the complete loss of the social conditioning that makes adult life monotonous and depressing and has the power to be a transformational spiritual experience."

Here’s how you do it:

http://www.decentralizeddanceparty.c...rty-manifesto/

[duovamp]

Originally Posted by barden

"Partying is misunderstood by 99% of the populace.
Accordingly, it is rarely done properly and has never received the respect it deserves.

Partying is: “forgetting who you are while remembering what you are”.

It is the complete loss of the social conditioning that makes adult life monotonous and depressing and has the power to be a transformational spiritual experience."

Here’s how you do it:

http://www.decentralizeddanceparty.c...rty-manifesto/

This is how I do it.

[barden]

pretty similar!!

[BumbleBeeMouth]

Originally Posted by barden

pretty similar!!

that is such a microcosm of life!

fuck yeah that guy, but i dont know why.

[BumbleBeeMouth]

Originally Posted by barden

i ask that question all the time!

answer dood

[barden]

Originally Posted by BumbleBeeMouth

that is such a microcosm of life!

fuck yeah that guy, but i dont know why.

[Trotskilicious]

Marge you know that every time I learn something new it pushes something old out of my head? Remember when I took that home wine making course and forgot how to drive?
YOU WERE DRUNK!!!
And how.

[duovamp]

Originally Posted by Trotskilicious

Marge you know that every time I learn something new it pushes something old out of my head? Remember when I took that home wine making course and forgot how to drive?
YOU WERE DRUNK!!!
And how.

loooool

[Trotskilicious]

Originally Posted by duovamp

That line of bullshit comes up every time.

"I just use it to get party invites."
You can get party invites without Facebook. Easily.

The advent of Facebook is the first time I've ever been invited to parties. Thank goodness for "send to all".

"I just use it to get girl/boyfriends."
You can "hook up" or find a mate quite easily without Facebook. Everyone can.

I can't do either and fuck you it's not easy at all.

"I just like looking at pictures of people mindlessly for hours because I'm a nosy, insecure piece of shit."
You should evaluate whether or not this is a good decision.

I don't do this.

[duovamp]

But is Facebook helping you or making you worse?

[Trotskilicious]

it's just an MB with your own custom guestlist

[Trotskilicious]

i dunno how much it's changed communication really tbh, other than introducing the phrase "Oh yeah I saw you post that on facebook" to our lexicon

[Trotskilicious]

if you're super worried about # of friends and who is friends with who and who won't be friends with you and etc you're using it wrong

[exactlythesame]

that means everyone is using it wrong

except the smart ones who troll it

[Mablak]

I've had a facebook account for like 4 years, never sent anyone a message. I've pretty much only checked it when I was unsure when some event was. I have trouble understanding how anyone could have enough stuff going on in their life to need to spend hours on there. But then again, anyone having more than a handful of close friends is mind-boggling to me as well.

[Trotskilicious]

being a dick about it is a good idea tho

[ohnoitsbonnie]

Human facebooks weird me out

[ilikeplanets]

as opposed to...?