why is it that when someone dies, people expect a handout?

Caine Walker · 07-23-2008, 08:40 AM

your thoughts?

duovamp · 07-23-2008, 08:45 AM

What do you mean? Is this like Person A loses Person B and expects Person C to be nice to him or her? Or is it a case of Person A loses Person B and wants the leftover cash from Person B?

spring · 07-23-2008, 08:46 AM

did you kill Eulogy?

Cool As Ice Cream · 07-23-2008, 08:46 AM

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Originally Posted by spring

did you kill Eulogy?

i'm expecting a handout!

waltermcphilp · 07-23-2008, 08:48 AM

funeral costs?

when my aunt was on her death bed she accused my dad of owing her like $8,000 she lent him like 10 years ago. my dad doesn't remember nor is there any proof outside of her word, but being the guy he is and not wanting to argue with a dying person he agreed to pay it. isn't that messed up?

Mo · 07-23-2008, 08:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by waltermcphilp

funeral costs?

when my aunt was on her death bed she accused my dad of owing her like $8,000 she lent him like 10 years ago. my dad doesn't remember nor is there any proof outside of her word, but being the guy he is and not wanting to argue with a dying person he agreed to pay it. isn't that messed up?

That's just stupid and greedy - I mean, what would she do with 8,000 bucks in heaven?

waltermcphilp · 07-23-2008, 08:53 AM

exactly. and like my dad has the money to just pull out of his ass?

GlasgowKiss · 07-23-2008, 08:57 AM

your dad needs to grow a fucking pair.

At least piss on her grave or something. Avenge him.

waltermcphilp · 07-23-2008, 09:00 AM

her funeral is this saturday. i will hold it til then.

Caine Walker · 07-23-2008, 09:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by duovamp

What do you mean? Is this like Person A loses Person B and expects Person C to be nice to him or her? Or is it a case of Person A loses Person B and wants the leftover cash from Person B?

person A lost person B and expected person C to want something, because everyone else in person As family are a bunch of greedy bastards. but person C didn't want anything at all, and it never even crossed his mind. the fact that person A was being a dick out of nowhere about person C being "cooperative" or he "won't see shit" left person C sort of in shock, and more hurt about the situation than what the intial death of person B caused.

in a few words, my extended family are a bunch of redneck jerks.

Caine Walker · 07-23-2008, 09:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spring

did you kill Eulogy?

eulogy is alive and well.

spring · 07-23-2008, 09:10 AM

you're person C, you're person C!

sorry, i've obviously had way too much coffee this morning

Caine Walker · 07-23-2008, 09:12 AM

actually, my dad is person C. person A is his step brother. person B, the deceased, is my grandma.

i 've not had enough coffee this morning. actually none at all. this must be fixed.

Starla · 07-23-2008, 09:35 AM

the only thing that bothers me about when people die is how some families start going through all of the dead persons things right away before they are buried. my ex's family cleared out his entire grandpa's house as he was still laying in the funeral home and everyone fought over what they wanted.
in my family tradition we hold on to the things of the person who passed on, and a year later have a give away ceremony - giving away all their things to friends and other family.
we have big wakes too, that can last up to 3 days or more, depending.

Caine Walker · 07-23-2008, 09:49 AM

three days? good god. the one tomorrow is four hours.

Thaniel Buckner · 07-23-2008, 09:51 AM

i thought the thread title was alluding to say, the formation of a memorial charity.

inheritance money is nice to have and ok to inquire about but fucking selfish to be affected by the news of not getting.

skipgo · 07-23-2008, 10:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Starla

the only thing that bothers me about when people die is how some families start going through all of the dead persons things right away before they are buried. my ex's family cleared out his entire grandpa's house as he was still laying in the funeral home and everyone fought over what they wanted.
in my family tradition we hold on to the things of the person who passed on, and a year later have a give away ceremony - giving away all their things to friends and other family.
we have big wakes too, that can last up to 3 days or more, depending.

i had a friend who killed himself, and a bunch of our other friends fought over his stuff. He'd loaned out a lot of expensive musical equipment; a marshall amp/cabinet, his les paul, a four track, a lot of other stuff. I don't know why his friends got it instead of his family. But anyway, it was disgusting to see them fighting over this stuff before the guy was even buried. Made me rethink who my friends were. I like your family's tradition of waiting a year. Very good way to show respect.

My husband's uncle died last year, and he was giving stuff away beforehand, as he knew he was dying. That was really sad.

Eulogy · 07-23-2008, 10:18 AM

my grandma's been working on her will for a while now. and she's got no health problems. whenever they work on it, it's depressing for everyone involved...but it's probably a better way to do it. :-/

people suck sometimes.

Starla · 07-23-2008, 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Caine Walker

three days? good god. the one tomorrow is four hours.

yeah. the first day is visitation/drumming ceremony
second day is a dinner for the family and another ceremony
third is the last ceremony and burial/cremation
later on - more food and usually people get extremely drunk at these
it's custom to bring the family food, liquor, tobacco, sage, etc.

Starla · 07-23-2008, 11:10 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by skipgo

My husband's uncle died last year, and he was giving stuff away beforehand, as he knew he was dying. That was really sad.

yes it is

my brother was doing the same thing.

Caine Walker · 07-23-2008, 11:11 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Starla

yeah. the first day is visitation/drumming ceremony
second day is a dinner for the family and another ceremony
third is the last ceremony and burial/cremation
later on - more food and usually people get extremely drunk at these
it's custom to bring the family food, liquor, tobacco, sage, etc.

sage?

are you a witch?

Starla · 07-23-2008, 11:12 AM

no lol

alexthestampede · 07-23-2008, 11:16 AM

are you a medicine woman?

alexthestampede · 07-23-2008, 11:16 AM

hey-uh hoy-uh hey-uh hoy-uh

Starla · 07-23-2008, 11:23 AM

nice try - unfortunately that means nothing

aurel · 07-23-2008, 11:36 AM

Power handjobs are a great aid in bereavement counselling.

ravenguy2000 · 07-23-2008, 02:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Caine Walker

person A lost person B and expected person C to want something, because everyone else in person As family are a bunch of greedy bastards. but person C didn't want anything at all, and it never even crossed his mind. the fact that person A was being a dick out of nowhere about person C being "cooperative" or he "won't see shit" left person C sort of in shock, and more hurt about the situation than what the intial death of person B caused.

sorry i've never been too good with algebra

Nimrod's Son · 07-23-2008, 03:20 PM

I'm more pissed that the government thinks it has a right to your stuff when you die instead of your kids.

Nimrod's Son · 07-23-2008, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by alexthestampede

are you a medicine woman?

My grandmother was

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07-23-2008, 08:45 AM	#2
duovamp Immortal Location: trawling Atlantis (◕‿◕✿) Posts: 28,997	What do you mean? Is this like Person A loses Person B and expects Person C to be nice to him or her? Or is it a case of Person A loses Person B and wants the leftover cash from Person B?

07-23-2008, 08:46 AM	#3
spring die 'til it doesn't hurt Posts: 7,484	did you kill Eulogy?

07-23-2008, 08:48 AM	#5
waltermcphilp Socialphobic Location: I DO C-C-C-COCAINE Posts: 11,156	funeral costs? when my aunt was on her death bed she accused my dad of owing her like $8,000 she lent him like 10 years ago. my dad doesn't remember nor is there any proof outside of her word, but being the guy he is and not wanting to argue with a dying person he agreed to pay it. isn't that messed up?

07-23-2008, 08:53 AM	#7
waltermcphilp Socialphobic Location: I DO C-C-C-COCAINE Posts: 11,156	exactly. and like my dad has the money to just pull out of his ass?

07-23-2008, 08:57 AM	#8
GlasgowKiss Quaid Hates You Location: Hollywood Posts: 14,179	your dad needs to grow a fucking pair. At least piss on her grave or something. Avenge him.

07-23-2008, 09:00 AM	#9
waltermcphilp Socialphobic Location: I DO C-C-C-COCAINE Posts: 11,156	her funeral is this saturday. i will hold it til then.

07-23-2008, 09:10 AM	#12
spring die 'til it doesn't hurt Posts: 7,484	you're person C, you're person C! sorry, i've obviously had way too much coffee this morning

07-23-2008, 09:12 AM	#13
Caine Walker Braindead Posts: 15,512	actually, my dad is person C. person A is his step brother. person B, the deceased, is my grandma. i 've not had enough coffee this morning. actually none at all. this must be fixed.

07-23-2008, 09:35 AM	#14
Starla ***** Posts: 12,640	the only thing that bothers me about when people die is how some families start going through all of the dead persons things right away before they are buried. my ex's family cleared out his entire grandpa's house as he was still laying in the funeral home and everyone fought over what they wanted. in my family tradition we hold on to the things of the person who passed on, and a year later have a give away ceremony - giving away all their things to friends and other family. we have big wakes too, that can last up to 3 days or more, depending.

07-23-2008, 09:49 AM	#15
Caine Walker Braindead Posts: 15,512	three days? good god. the one tomorrow is four hours.

07-23-2008, 09:51 AM	#16
Thaniel Buckner Minion of Satan Location: kicksville Posts: 7,060	i thought the thread title was alluding to say, the formation of a memorial charity. inheritance money is nice to have and ok to inquire about but fucking selfish to be affected by the news of not getting.

07-23-2008, 10:18 AM	#18
Eulogy huh Posts: 54,793	my grandma's been working on her will for a while now. and she's got no health problems. whenever they work on it, it's depressing for everyone involved...but it's probably a better way to do it. :-/ people suck sometimes.

07-23-2008, 11:16 AM	#23
alexthestampede Banned Location: I am from the sea! Posts: 4,964	are you a medicine woman?

07-23-2008, 11:23 AM	#25
Starla ***** Posts: 12,640	nice try - unfortunately that means nothing

07-23-2008, 11:36 AM	#26
aurel Apocalyptic Poster Location: Maximum Homosapien crammed down your HaHa hole. Posts: 2,340	Power handjobs are a great aid in bereavement counselling.

07-23-2008, 03:20 PM	#28
Nimrod's Son Master of Karate and Friendship Location: in your butt Posts: 72,971	I'm more pissed that the government thinks it has a right to your stuff when you die instead of your kids.