Does anyone actually go on dates anymore?

Aeroplane · 12-12-2006, 05:17 PM

Y'know, regular dating - not exclusively - but where one picks up the other and you go to dinner, or see a movie, or what not and get to know each other first and see how it goes, etc etc. And does anyone date multiple people? Does this approach even work anymore? And if you're not interested, how do you say, "I don't want to go on dates with anymore" without sounding like an asshole?

I think this form of dating isn't common anymore - you meet someone you like (how does THAT even happen? where?) and bam, you're "dating" exclusively.

Confused. As usual.

House of Bread · 12-12-2006, 05:22 PM

I have recently, but it was after I made out with her. I made a thread about it a few weeks ago. But normally...........no.

Trotskilicious · 12-12-2006, 05:24 PM

i got a phone number from this girl in my french class that totally dug me and she was all flirting with me all the time. so we were supposed to study for a midterm and i never called her and then i dropped the class and never saw her again

Aeroplane · 12-12-2006, 05:25 PM

yeah, see, the physical usually happens first now. which is fine. but what if you're not sure you want to get physical - you want to get to know them first. it's like the physical is expected right away now.

alisonmonster · 12-12-2006, 05:26 PM

i've never dated like that before, though my b/f once did the lava life thing and dated a lot of women- maybe 15-20 dates though nothing ever came of them.

Aeroplane · 12-12-2006, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Trotskilicious

i got a phone number from this girl in my french class that totally dug me and she was all flirting with me all the time. so we were supposed to study for a midterm and i never called her and then i dropped the class and never saw her again

yeah, school had better opportunities for meeting people. i never got the "senior scare" as seniors unattached scramble to find their "someone". they say you'll have a lot less choice after graduating. and it's true.

Aeroplane · 12-12-2006, 05:30 PM

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Originally Posted by alisonmonster

i've never dated like that before, though my b/f once did the lava life thing and dated a lot of women- maybe 15-20 dates though nothing ever came of them.

so how did you two meet then?

Trotskilicious · 12-12-2006, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Aeroplane

. they say you'll have a lot less choice after graduating. and it's true.

wow i have no choice now...

i should kill myself today.

House of Bread · 12-12-2006, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by alisonmonster

i've never dated like that before, though my b/f once did the lava life thing and dated a lot of women- maybe 15-20 dates though nothing ever came of them.

I've never heard the word "lava life"

I don't know what it means, but I want to live the lava life!

Aeroplane · 12-12-2006, 05:35 PM

http://www.lavalife.com/

BlueStar · 12-12-2006, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Aeroplane

Y'know, regular dating - not exclusively - but where one picks up the other and you go to dinner, or see a movie, or what not and get to know each other first and see how it goes, etc etc. And does anyone date multiple people? Does this approach even work anymore?

I think this form of dating isn't common anymore - you meet someone you like (how does THAT even happen? where?) and bam, you're "dating" exclusively.

I don't think that is uncommon, but that is based solely on the fact of that is how I dated (pre-marriage) and how my friends date. I always considered everything to be unexclusive until an exclusivity talk (typically months after the first date) had been had.

Quiet CD · 12-12-2006, 05:55 PM

I've never dated like that. All the long term relationships i've been in have come out of friendships first... even the more casual ones too.

BlueStar · 12-12-2006, 05:56 PM

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Aeroplane · 12-12-2006, 06:00 PM

smells of desperation to me

Trotskilicious · 12-12-2006, 06:03 PM

it can't come off more desperate than a man bringing a dog to a bar.

Karl Connor · 12-12-2006, 06:05 PM

usually when "seeing somebody" its with group of friends and that in and of itself is a date. conversely, i've been on a few genuine single dates (coffee, movie, fucking) but that sort of hinders it in the long run because it makes it difficult to integrate her into my group of friends. but then again i dont see how a girl would have fun drinking busch light and playing xbox anyway so whatevs

redbull · 12-12-2006, 06:05 PM

alisonmonster · 12-12-2006, 06:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Aeroplane

so how did you two meet then?

we met where we worked. He did the lava life thing a few years before we met. He said the people were nice, but they never clicked.

Rarely · 12-12-2006, 06:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Trotskilicious

i got a phone number from this girl in my french class that i totally dug me and flirted with all the time. so we were supposed to study for a midterm but she never called and then i dropped the class and never saw her again

fixed

Mayfuck · 12-12-2006, 06:10 PM

*hands in pocket* Hey, uh, Phil, I was just wondering if you weren't um busy tonight, maybe you and I could, you know, hang out tonight or see a movie or something, *kicks dirt* aw jeez I'm not very good at this

Trotskilicious · 12-12-2006, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Rarely

fixed

you better go back and proofread your really awesome burn dude.

Aeroplane · 12-12-2006, 06:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mayfuck

*hands in pocket* Hey, uh, Phil, I was just wondering if you weren't um busy tonight, maybe you and I could, you know, hang out tonight or see a movie or something, *kicks dirt* aw jeez I'm not very good at this

pinkberry. you pay.

Nimrod's Son · 12-12-2006, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Trotskilicious

it can't come off more desperate than a man bringing a dog to a bar.

You're such a fucking moron. It's a dog-friendly bar, idiot. There are other dogs there. So my dog enjoys himself and I have some cocktails.

I really don't see where your anger comes from.

Oh, the never getting laid. Right.

Nimrod's Son · 12-12-2006, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Aeroplane

yeah, see, the physical usually happens first now. which is fine. but what if you're not sure you want to get physical - you want to get to know them first. it's like the physical is expected right away now.

Seeing as how you're gay, there may be a slight difference in heterosexual relations

Trotskilicious · 12-12-2006, 06:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Nimrod's Son

You're such a fucking moron. It's a dog-friendly bar, idiot. There are other dogs there. So my dog enjoys himself and I have some cocktails.

works every time

rarely needs to take notes

Aeroplane · 12-12-2006, 06:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Nimrod's Son

Seeing as how you're gay, there may be a slight difference in heterosexual relations

yes and no. i think there are different sections of both straight and gay "communities" that date differently. in the end, it's all the same. i don't see how it's that much different.

Nate the Grate · 12-12-2006, 06:33 PM

You know, I've been seriously considering asking this girl out on a date recently, like the whole dinner and movie type thing. But I have absolutely no idea how, seeing as she's always with her friends. Still, I keep thinking about it. But now it's the end of the semester, so unless I act soon I guess I'll have to forget about that for a while.

rocksteady · 12-12-2006, 06:36 PM

nice cross-thread flamebaiting, brendan.

Kanan Road · 12-12-2006, 06:39 PM

For every girl that whines about guys not taking them out on dates, I hear other girls laugh about the standard "dinner and a movie" date. Maybe I'm just old school and traditional, but I love dinner dates. Hearing girls complain about the simple wine and dine makes me cold to women. STFU and stop complaining because I don't see anyone else stepping up to hit your pussy, bitch.

Nimrod's Son · 12-12-2006, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Nate the Grate

You know, I've been seriously considering asking this girl out on a date recently, like the whole dinner and movie type thing. But I have absolutely no idea how, seeing as she's always with her friends. Still, I keep thinking about it. But now it's the end of the semester, so unless I act soon I guess I'll have to forget about that for a while.

"hey, would you like to go out this weekend? maybe catch a movie?"

real difficult

12-12-2006, 05:17 PM	#1
Aeroplane Minion of Satan Location: fine. i must finally admit it: LA, CA Posts: 8,587	Does anyone actually go on dates anymore? Y'know, regular dating - not exclusively - but where one picks up the other and you go to dinner, or see a movie, or what not and get to know each other first and see how it goes, etc etc. And does anyone date multiple people? Does this approach even work anymore? And if you're not interested, how do you say, "I don't want to go on dates with anymore" without sounding like an asshole? I think this form of dating isn't common anymore - you meet someone you like (how does THAT even happen? where?) and bam, you're "dating" exclusively. Confused. As usual.

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12-12-2006, 05:22 PM	#2
House of Bread FKA Siamese33 Location: Brooklyn Posts: 5,198	I have recently, but it was after I made out with her. I made a thread about it a few weeks ago. But normally...........no.

12-12-2006, 05:24 PM	#3
Trotskilicious Banned Location: I believe in the transcendental qualities of friendship. Posts: 39,602	i got a phone number from this girl in my french class that totally dug me and she was all flirting with me all the time. so we were supposed to study for a midterm and i never called her and then i dropped the class and never saw her again

12-12-2006, 05:25 PM	#4
Aeroplane Minion of Satan Location: fine. i must finally admit it: LA, CA Posts: 8,587	yeah, see, the physical usually happens first now. which is fine. but what if you're not sure you want to get physical - you want to get to know them first. it's like the physical is expected right away now.

12-12-2006, 05:26 PM	#5
alisonmonster Minion of Satan Location: gasoline alley Posts: 9,019	i've never dated like that before, though my b/f once did the lava life thing and dated a lot of women- maybe 15-20 dates though nothing ever came of them.

12-12-2006, 05:35 PM	#10
Aeroplane Minion of Satan Location: fine. i must finally admit it: LA, CA Posts: 8,587	http://www.lavalife.com/

12-12-2006, 05:55 PM	#12
Quiet CD Apocalyptic Poster Location: wherever you aren't Posts: 3,241	I've never dated like that. All the long term relationships i've been in have come out of friendships first... even the more casual ones too.

12-12-2006, 05:56 PM	#13
BlueStar Newly independent Location: Some state's capitol building Posts: 7,242	http://www.venusallure.com/index-main.html A Revolutionary Approach The perfect wingman... The perfect wingman is not a man at all. The perfect wingman is a woman. Simply put, a woman knows how to approach other women, what to say to other women, and how to make sure you make the best impression possible with other women. We love what we do and we KNOW how to do it amazingly well! Whether you are new to the area or have lived here your entire life, Venus Allure can help... • We know the BEST PLACES TO MEET WOMEN • We eliminate the guess work, bad pick-up lines, and wasted time by quickly approaching and introducing you to the women you want • We help you be yourself and show off your best qualities • We immediately replace chance with experience and we expand your network giving you the dating “edge" Our clients come from different backgrounds and with varying experiences. However, they all share one thing in common. They are looking for a quick, effective, and FUN way to meet women easily in person. What better way to meet women than through other women? What better way to reveal the real you then with your own personal promotions agent focused on your success?

12-12-2006, 06:00 PM	#14
Aeroplane Minion of Satan Location: fine. i must finally admit it: LA, CA Posts: 8,587	smells of desperation to me

12-12-2006, 06:03 PM	#15
Trotskilicious Banned Location: I believe in the transcendental qualities of friendship. Posts: 39,602	it can't come off more desperate than a man bringing a dog to a bar.

12-12-2006, 06:05 PM	#16
Karl Connor ADMlNISTRATOR Posts: 18,933	usually when "seeing somebody" its with group of friends and that in and of itself is a date. conversely, i've been on a few genuine single dates (coffee, movie, fucking) but that sort of hinders it in the long run because it makes it difficult to integrate her into my group of friends. but then again i dont see how a girl would have fun drinking busch light and playing xbox anyway so whatevs

12-12-2006, 06:05 PM	#17
redbull Immortal Location: like liutenant dan i'm rollin' Posts: 21,035	yes

12-12-2006, 06:10 PM	#20
Mayfuck Banned Location: i'm from japan also hollywood Posts: 57,812	hands in pocket Hey, uh, Phil, I was just wondering if you weren't um busy tonight, maybe you and I could, you know, hang out tonight or see a movie or something, kicks dirt aw jeez I'm not very good at this

12-12-2006, 06:33 PM	#27
Nate the Grate Minion of Satan Posts: 6,212	You know, I've been seriously considering asking this girl out on a date recently, like the whole dinner and movie type thing. But I have absolutely no idea how, seeing as she's always with her friends. Still, I keep thinking about it. But now it's the end of the semester, so unless I act soon I guess I'll have to forget about that for a while.

12-12-2006, 06:36 PM	#28
rocksteady Banned Location: where the women have nothing on but the radio. turned up to ten. too loud for me to think. Posts: 1,211	nice cross-thread flamebaiting, brendan.

12-12-2006, 06:39 PM	#29
Kanan Road Apocalyptic Poster Location: Cloud Number Nine Posts: 1,569	For every girl that whines about guys not taking them out on dates, I hear other girls laugh about the standard "dinner and a movie" date. Maybe I'm just old school and traditional, but I love dinner dates. Hearing girls complain about the simple wine and dine makes me cold to women. STFU and stop complaining because I don't see anyone else stepping up to hit your pussy, bitch.