guys I'm confused - Page 2

RopeyLopey · 08-18-2006, 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by bardy

well im more confused now than when this started

thanks netphoria!

you're welcome - have a great sex!

08-18-2006, 10:01 PM

assholes get more tail but nice guys get stable girlfriends

Nimrod's Son · 08-18-2006, 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by The_Ace_of_Aces

assholes get more tail but nice guys get stable girlfriends

untrue. whenever an asshole is the slightest bit nice the girl will swoon and forgive everything else, whereas a nice guy gets taken for granted

pink_ribbon_scars · 08-18-2006, 10:04 PM

i'm not too wise, but i think that this is the wisest advice: listen to yourself. that might mean that if you don't think you want to date this guy, you shouldn't jump into it. don't date him just because you feel like he is good and you should. i don't think it will be difficult to only be his friend; things haven't really gone too far yet. if he doesn't want to be your friend then he probably won't be a good person to date later anyway, that's my opinion at least. it sounds like you work with him, and that's reason enough to take it slow. i have made so many rash decisions, and decisions based upon what others thought, and i regret the majority of those decisions. i wish i had listened to myself more. you won't always be right, but why not listen to youself? don't be a chicken. you know what is right for you better than anyone else. that's one of the only things that i have learned in the last few years. have some confidence in your opinions and desires.

good lucky, lady. it is difficult.

Future Boy · 08-18-2006, 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by bardy

I'm sure he can tell I'm very uncomfortable around him sometimes.

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Originally Posted by bardy

and his self esteem bothers me. he's always like "are you sure you want to hang out? would you tell me if you didn't want to?"

You act like you dont want him around, and get irritated because hes asking you if you want him around? God damn girl, you arent into him, cut the poor bastard loose, go out and find some jerk to fuck.

Just make sure its not Nimrod.

Future Boy · 08-18-2006, 10:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Nimrod's Son

untrue. whenever an asshole is the slightest bit nice the girl will swoon and forgive everything else, whereas a nice guy gets taken for granted

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ammy · 08-18-2006, 10:40 PM

oh this is what he meant.

my opinion? you obviously don't want this. end it.

bardy · 08-18-2006, 11:20 PM

ugh I am really cranky right now from being up since 1:30am so I dont think my judgement now is the best

but anyway he stopped by to say whats up and hang out with me for an hour or so. I think he realized I was kinda tired/cranky and is going to call me to hang out tomorrow afternoon. Maybe I wont be such a bitch when I wake up tomorrow morning.

Orenthal James · 08-18-2006, 11:57 PM

everyone dies alone. unless you are in a cult

Nimrod's Son · 08-18-2006, 11:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Orenthal James

everyone dies alone. unless you are in a cult

not suicide bombers, unless they're really bad at it

jared · 08-19-2006, 12:03 AM

also Alzheimer's patients

KrazeeStacee · 08-19-2006, 12:15 AM

There's a big difference between being nice and being insecure...guys who are insecure and are always "are you sure? are you sure?" are really unattractive.

Anyhow I say just tell him up front how you feel...like Liz said, if he's not willing to be your friend at least then you know he wasn't really all that great to begin with.

Argh · 08-19-2006, 12:21 AM

wait so baden is gay?

The Jesus · 08-19-2006, 08:11 AM

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Originally Posted by bardy

... what's wrong with me.

You're an attention whore.

RockLobster · 08-19-2006, 08:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Nimrod's Son

i've been telling you fuckers for years that the assholes get all the pussy

every male netphorian should read the game by neil strauss

laradelocke · 08-19-2006, 08:24 AM

You like bad boys. It's okay to admit it.

pale blue eyes · 08-19-2006, 08:48 AM

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Originally Posted by ammy

my opinion? you obviously don't want this. end it.

I missed your initial post about this guy but I'd have to agree with Ammy. It sounds like you're way too used to dating assholes and now you've met this stereotypical "nice guy" who you are sort of pursuing despite the fact you obviously have no interest in him. He's nice but so what. It doesn't mean you have to snatch him up now and hope that you eventually develop some affection for him. You could just be friends or coworkers or whatever and if one day some switch is flicked somewhere and his current blandness becomes endearing then by all means go get him. I just don't see the point in wasting your time and effort on something now that won't make you happy. You haven't been in California all that long. I'm sure there is more than one guy out there who falls between human equivalent of rice and complete jerk.

RockLobster · 08-19-2006, 08:49 AM

you will end up a fat single mom.

laradelocke · 08-19-2006, 08:50 AM

I read that as you will put your end up a fat single mom.

blackfaerie · 08-19-2006, 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by RopeyLopey

the only women I'd listen to around here would be oblivious, pale blue eyes, beef curtains, or alisonmonster. all other ones seem to be crazy one way or another.

i am not crazy.

RockLobster · 08-19-2006, 08:53 AM

crazy girls are good in the sack.

alexthestampede · 08-19-2006, 08:57 AM

i think it is meant to be. the guy sounds really nice. it is understandable that you are nervous about him after the relationships youve reported on here. you defend yourself by saying theyre mutually casual when its obvious that the guy is using you and youre too into him and hoping for more. if you want something good youll have to work for it, and this could be the guy you marry one day.

Sepiae · 08-19-2006, 09:11 AM

I think you're looking for problems. Maybe it is a diversion from other stuff or it's comforting to have something to obsess over.

bardy · 08-19-2006, 09:57 AM

I think I just have a really annoying fear of intimacy. I don't even really feel comfortable when my family members are "sweet" to me and I dont ever say "I love you too" on the phone when my family members say it because it makes me nervous. I guess that's why in highschool/college I hung out with a group of guys that treated me like the little sister they never wanted and pursued guys who never going to tell me how beautiful and intelligent I was unless they were drunk and wanted to have sex.

sppunk · 08-19-2006, 10:08 AM

Update: Brady DID NOT add a penis to her collection last night. However, things are looking up (if you know what I mean ... ) for this afternoon.

blackfaerie · 08-19-2006, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by bardy

I think I just have a really annoying fear of intimacy. I don't even really feel comfortable when my family members are "sweet" to me and I dont ever say "I love you too" on the phone when my family members say it because it makes me nervous. I guess that's why in highschool/college I hung out with a group of guys that treated me like the little sister they never wanted and pursued guys who never going to tell me how beautiful and intelligent I was unless they were drunk and wanted to have sex.

wow, you're level of self-loathing astounds even me.

08-19-2006, 10:47 AM

Yeah especially since she is attractive, intelligent, educated, and working a professional job and you're... well you know.

Shapan · 08-19-2006, 10:53 AM

you dont like him.

bummer for him, you should just drop it before he gets led on etc etc.

you dont have to be a complete asshole to get girls, you just cant become their bitches.

oh and i didnt read the second page when i posted the previous 3 lines, but my opinion hasnt changed much.

blackfaerie · 08-19-2006, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Boner

Yeah especially since she is attractive, intelligent, educated, and working a professional job and you're... well you know.

no, i don't know.

please inform me.

Argh · 08-19-2006, 11:29 AM

so barden is gay?

08-19-2006, 12:21 AM	#43
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08-18-2006, 10:01 PM	#32
The_Ace_of_Aces Posts: n/a	assholes get more tail but nice guys get stable girlfriends

08-18-2006, 10:04 PM	#34
pink_ribbon_scars At the beginning Location: GJ 1214 b Posts: 10,760	i'm not too wise, but i think that this is the wisest advice: listen to yourself. that might mean that if you don't think you want to date this guy, you shouldn't jump into it. don't date him just because you feel like he is good and you should. i don't think it will be difficult to only be his friend; things haven't really gone too far yet. if he doesn't want to be your friend then he probably won't be a good person to date later anyway, that's my opinion at least. it sounds like you work with him, and that's reason enough to take it slow. i have made so many rash decisions, and decisions based upon what others thought, and i regret the majority of those decisions. i wish i had listened to myself more. you won't always be right, but why not listen to youself? don't be a chicken. you know what is right for you better than anyone else. that's one of the only things that i have learned in the last few years. have some confidence in your opinions and desires. good lucky, lady. it is difficult.

08-18-2006, 10:40 PM	#37
ammy yer mom Posts: 23,180	oh this is what he meant. my opinion? you obviously don't want this. end it.

08-18-2006, 11:20 PM	#38
bardy Immortal Location: helllllloooooo!! Posts: 20,799	ugh I am really cranky right now from being up since 1:30am so I dont think my judgement now is the best but anyway he stopped by to say whats up and hang out with me for an hour or so. I think he realized I was kinda tired/cranky and is going to call me to hang out tomorrow afternoon. Maybe I wont be such a bitch when I wake up tomorrow morning.

08-18-2006, 11:57 PM	#39
Orenthal James Minion of Satan Location: standard hotel accommodation Posts: 9,411	everyone dies alone. unless you are in a cult

08-19-2006, 12:03 AM	#41
jared Apocalyptic Poster Location: sacramento, ca, usa Posts: 2,193	also Alzheimer's patients

08-19-2006, 12:15 AM	#42
KrazeeStacee Immortal Location: Sherwood Forest Posts: 21,292	There's a big difference between being nice and being insecure...guys who are insecure and are always "are you sure? are you sure?" are really unattractive. Anyhow I say just tell him up front how you feel...like Liz said, if he's not willing to be your friend at least then you know he wasn't really all that great to begin with.

08-19-2006, 08:24 AM	#46
laradelocke Apocalyptic Poster Location: Somewhere in N.C..my Irish skin getting burnt on a daily basis Posts: 3,128	You like bad boys. It's okay to admit it.

08-19-2006, 08:49 AM	#48
RockLobster Socialphobic Location: I am from the sea! Posts: 12,773	you will end up a fat single mom.

08-19-2006, 08:50 AM	#49
laradelocke Apocalyptic Poster Location: Somewhere in N.C..my Irish skin getting burnt on a daily basis Posts: 3,128	I read that as you will put your end up a fat single mom.

08-19-2006, 08:53 AM	#51
RockLobster Socialphobic Location: I am from the sea! Posts: 12,773	crazy girls are good in the sack.

08-19-2006, 08:57 AM	#52
alexthestampede Banned Location: I am from the sea! Posts: 4,964	i think it is meant to be. the guy sounds really nice. it is understandable that you are nervous about him after the relationships youve reported on here. you defend yourself by saying theyre mutually casual when its obvious that the guy is using you and youre too into him and hoping for more. if you want something good youll have to work for it, and this could be the guy you marry one day.

08-19-2006, 09:11 AM	#53
Sepiae is a modern day sex camel Location: Boston, baby Posts: 7,660	I think you're looking for problems. Maybe it is a diversion from other stuff or it's comforting to have something to obsess over.

08-19-2006, 09:57 AM	#54
bardy Immortal Location: helllllloooooo!! Posts: 20,799	I think I just have a really annoying fear of intimacy. I don't even really feel comfortable when my family members are "sweet" to me and I dont ever say "I love you too" on the phone when my family members say it because it makes me nervous. I guess that's why in highschool/college I hung out with a group of guys that treated me like the little sister they never wanted and pursued guys who never going to tell me how beautiful and intelligent I was unless they were drunk and wanted to have sex.

08-19-2006, 10:08 AM	#55
sppunk Netphoria's George Will Location: Fenway Park Posts: 34,833	Update: Brady DID NOT add a penis to her collection last night. However, things are looking up (if you know what I mean ... ) for this afternoon.

08-19-2006, 10:47 AM	#57
Boner Posts: n/a	Yeah especially since she is attractive, intelligent, educated, and working a professional job and you're... well you know.

08-19-2006, 10:53 AM	#58
Shapan Socialphobic Location: intellectual hobo Posts: 11,826	you dont like him. bummer for him, you should just drop it before he gets led on etc etc. you dont have to be a complete asshole to get girls, you just cant become their bitches. oh and i didnt read the second page when i posted the previous 3 lines, but my opinion hasnt changed much.

08-19-2006, 11:29 AM	#60
Argh Apocalyptic Poster Posts: 1,438	so barden is gay?