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Old 12-25-2015, 05:28 PM   #91
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My parents never threatened to leave or divorce each other, but they did fight a lot, and never really seemed to get along. But I'm glad they stayed together. Pretty sure my kids will be glad that I stick it out with their Dad.

And duo, you'll find out when your kids are the ages that mine are, and your wife hates you because you don't help out enough. It happens. A lot of men are broken, that way.

 
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Old 12-25-2015, 05:31 PM   #92
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Obviously porn kills love because here you are bitching about porn on Christmas instead of making dinner.

 
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Old 12-25-2015, 05:39 PM   #93
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Wasn't Xmas yesterday for her

 
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Old 12-25-2015, 05:40 PM   #94
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I don't know when Australians do it.

 
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Old 12-25-2015, 05:40 PM   #95
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Vix you need to see a fucking therapist

 
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Old 12-25-2015, 05:53 PM   #96
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is this before or after they get to emerald city?
no it's in the prison


 
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Old 12-25-2015, 05:59 PM   #97
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I'll just add that all that shit my parents did, playing me against each other, exposing me to their personal problems I had no place knowing about... they would straight up deny it all, not because they are liars, but because they truly do not see any of that. people can be remarkably blind when emotions are involved

 
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Old 12-25-2015, 07:01 PM   #98
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it's boxing day here. which means leftovers, quiet kids, and cricket. yussssss. just got the bbq started. we had $100 worth of lindt chocolates in our stockings. it's a bit of a budget blowout christmas.

my youngest saw his dad and me kissing in the hallway last night, he said "i saw you!". usually I'd push him away and say "don't", but we'd been drinking $200/bottle wine and veuve all afternoon at my friend's house, because her husband is a sommelier. so i was drunk. i guess after all these years he's learned how to pick the right moments.

 
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Old 12-25-2015, 08:24 PM   #99
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did anyone get any $40 undershirts for christmas

 
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Old 12-25-2015, 08:36 PM   #100
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LOL no, definitely not. Lots of on-special underwear and socks though. The chocolate and wine were definitely an extravagance.

I bought a whole bunch of stuff from this great website, Sports Direct. So much cheaper than the stores here. But I think your in-store prices are probably better than ours.

And then I went to an outlet store to buy chucks and found that the Lindt store had half price chocolate. Bonus.

 
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Old 12-25-2015, 10:11 PM   #101
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I'll just add that all that shit my parents did, playing me against each other, exposing me to their personal problems I had no place knowing about... they would straight up deny it all, not because they are liars, but because they truly do not see any of that. people can be remarkably blind when emotions are involved
It's hard for me to talk specifically about my parents because when I say one of them was abusive sexually, people discount anything else that happened. Of course that was terrible for me but I really feel like I was more damaged by never seeing any kind of strong bond between my parents and always wondering why they were even married. I straight up asked my mom that once, when I was about 10, and she slapped me.

My mom told me she finally starting thinking of divorce when the housing crisis happened and she realized they'd have to sell their house and move into a two bedroom apartment. She couldn't stand the idea of actually having to live with him in close proximity all the time. Plus my entire family was questioned by police about some stuff and all the shit that had happened kinda got thrown in her face at that point.

So fucking glad that is all over with.

 
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Old 12-25-2015, 10:32 PM   #102
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I love my parents and I appreciate all that they have given me. But who knows, maybe I wouldn't be so mentally screwed up if things had been different growing up. My sister and I both have a lot of neuroticisms and mental issues. I do often wonder if I might be better adjusted had that not been my reality.
i feel the same way. it's hard to deal with, because it makes me feel tremendous amounts of guilt (which i already have in spades being a very anxious person) but even though i blame them for a lot, i really do still appreciate all they'd done for me.
issues with parents are hard to live with. powerful feelings both ways, and you're in the heart of that contradiction

 
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Old 12-25-2015, 10:32 PM   #103
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F man, this place really is the most depressed collection of individuals on the Internet

 
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Old 12-25-2015, 10:57 PM   #104
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wrap this sheepskin around your shoulders
and tell me everything you have to tell

it is only us here

 
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Old 12-25-2015, 11:26 PM   #105
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Old 12-26-2015, 02:41 AM   #106
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my youngest saw his dad and me kissing in the hallway last night, he said "i saw you!". usually I'd push him away and say "don't".
Why wouldn't you let him see you two being affectionate?

 
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Old 12-26-2015, 03:22 AM   #107
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not sure if I just wrote that poorly, but I meant that I usually push my husband away...if I don't mind my husband kissing me, which is rare, but it does happen...then it doesn't worry me if my kids (or anyone else for that matter) sees it happening...

 
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Old 12-26-2015, 03:51 AM   #108
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My parents have been unhappy for my entire life at least and just split up last year. They stuck together (1) because of my sister and I, and (2) because neither of them make very much money. Sometimes things were fine, but other times life at home was miserable because of them. They both mellowed a bit with age, but when I was little the way they would fight was really frightening. They threatened to divorce each other all the time and neither one of them really made any effort to keep their problems out of the realm of their childrens' lives. My sister and I were raised hearing them savagely bad mouth each other behind each others' backs. I was aware that my father chronically cheated on my mom by the time I was 7 or 8, and that in turn my mom withheld physical intimacy as a weapon against him. I know they slept in the same bed at some point when I was a little kid but I can't really remember it. They definitely used us against each other although they would deny this and I honestly think they are too blind to the truth of what went on to realize it. Anyway I'm not too bitter because as fucked up as they are, at the end of the day I know that they stayed together because they thought it was better for me and my sister like that... my dad was really messed up by his own parents' divorce, and my mom grew up with an abusive stepfather. I love my parents and I appreciate all that they have given me. But who knows, maybe I wouldn't be so mentally screwed up if things had been different growing up. My sister and I both have a lot of neuroticisms and mental issues. I do often wonder if I might be better adjusted had that not been my reality.
I'm sorry you had to go through all of that. Sounds like, in part, a generational problem. I mean, mom and dad go through a certain set of experiences as children, it affects them, they grow up and are supposed to make right, good decisions and have a happy marriage, doesn't work out in part because of the wounds from their upbringings, and then it continues to get passed on down the line to their children.

 
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Old 12-26-2015, 06:41 AM   #109
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Have you heard of Philip Larkin?

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'This be the verse'

They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.

But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another's throats.

Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself.

 
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Old 12-26-2015, 09:29 AM   #110
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not sure if I just wrote that poorly, but I meant that I usually push my husband away...if I don't mind my husband kissing me, which is rare, but it does happen...then it doesn't worry me if my kids (or anyone else for that matter) sees it happening...
Ohhh ok

 
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Old 12-26-2015, 01:34 PM   #111
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I'm sorry you had to go through all of that. Sounds like, in part, a generational problem. I mean, mom and dad go through a certain set of experiences as children, it affects them, they grow up and are supposed to make right, good decisions and have a happy marriage, doesn't work out in part because of the wounds from their upbringings, and then it continues to get passed on down the line to their children.
I mean it's cool, I have a positive relationship with both my parents at this point. I can't say they didn't bend over backwards to give me a good life, and I appreciate it. I kind of think everyone has experienced at least this amount of minor trauma in their childhoods and that's just part of life. Looking at the big picture, the fucked up things that went on in my house growing up register at a fairly mild level of fucked upedness.

 
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Old 12-27-2015, 02:41 PM   #112
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vixnix is cool.

you all be hating' and she's all like nuh uh! take some this poetry shit right here, bitch!

 
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