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11-22-2018, 01:01 PM | #3331 |
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the only thing is that the walls in her house are really thin so we have to be basically silent or she will shush me.
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11-22-2018, 01:04 PM | #3332 |
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Glad everyone’s having sex
If you ever have problems with vaginal dryness i can share 3 quick cures from David Avocodo Wolf |
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11-22-2018, 01:06 PM | #3333 |
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Quick Tip #1
You look at his hair |
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11-22-2018, 01:09 PM | #3334 |
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Easy Tip #2
Chocolate is an octave of sun energy |
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11-22-2018, 01:10 PM | #3335 |
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Quick/Squishy #3
Yep u guessed it |
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11-22-2018, 01:16 PM | #3336 |
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Leaves just enough to the imagination. Tasteful.
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11-22-2018, 02:37 PM | #3337 |
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Re sex stories:
I almost never talk about sex, because even though my progressive intellectual side says that it's something we should be able to talk about openly without shame, my visceral feelings, which are much stronger, finds that stuff uncomfortable to talk about. Also, I always feel like it seems inherently crude or objectifying or immature for men to talk about sex or enjoying sex or wanting sex, even completely consensual and non-manipulative sex that treats the sex partner with respect. It's probably this double-standard I have and can't shake even though I recognize it, because if a woman talks about sex, I just reason that "she's comfortable and empowered and frank and isn't ashamed of her sexuality" or whatever. Pretty much the only time sex comes up in my real-life conversations with friends is when my female friends bring it up. I don't think men talk to each other about sex as often as movies make it seem. Why? Because straight men don't want to think about their straight male friends boning. We don't need that imagery. When it comes up in conversations with female friends, it's always them who steer the conversation that way. I mean, it'd be really creepy if I just decided to start talking about sex with my female friends. But a lot of them seem to like talking about it and their hookups and preferences. I usually don't really know what to add to the conversation. |
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11-22-2018, 02:54 PM | #3338 | |||
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There was this girl I went on a date with who liked biting when we kissed. She ghosted me, and I hadn't heard from her for months. I ran into her at an event. I didn't see her, but she came up behind me to talk to me to apologize for ghosting me, telling me she was going through some things, and that she'd like to reconnect. I said "sure."
So, I texted her maybe a couple of days later, and she never responded. Uh, why make the effort to come up to me then? It's not like we awkwardly made eye contact and she felt compelled to just say those things out of politeness. I didn't even know she was there until she got my attention. I don't get how other people's brains and logic work. Trying to decipher behaviour that inconsistent is just a headache. Quote:
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11-22-2018, 03:00 PM | #3339 |
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I don't mind the slap. I'm very direct, and it's served me well, both in obtaining what I want and avoiding what I don't. I don't care how it appears to anyone who isn't involved, as long as nothing harms anybody. But I think that's an atypical approach.
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11-22-2018, 03:03 PM | #3340 |
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As for just being clear about hookups, a friend of mine with an FWB says himself that even though he and his FWB only meet for sex, and she's down to come over every time he ask, in order to not be offensive, he still has to be tactful about it and have the invitation be under the pretense of "seeing his dogs" or something. Even though they are hooking up, and both know they are hooking up, I guess she doesn't like that to be explicitly stated? I think some women who enjoy casual sex can't admit that's what they are after due to slut-shaming, so there has to be some other pretense during which sex "just happens." I hear a lot about Tinder hookups being with women whose profiles specifically state "not here for hookups," so maybe that declaration is less of a statement of their intent, and more of a way to avoid being labelled things like "slut," which patriarchal society applies to women who enjoy sex on their own terms? But then if we acknowledge that sometimes people's stated intents are different from what they really want, we creep into dangerous territory of "women don't say what they mean, so you have to ignore their words sometimes," which is in itself very rape-culturey.
I dunno, I just don't know how to go about it all this song and dance. Be explicit, get slapped. Don't be explicit, and you're deceptive. Everything is supposed to be clear and enthusiastic, but also I'm supposed to just understand what the other person wants through the nature of the chemistry and read minds. |
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11-22-2018, 03:06 PM | #3341 |
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Now that I state it so blatantly, I realize a lot of my attitude was probably shaped by hanging out with people who were at least a decade older than me and using hard drugs since I was in early high school. This has had its pros and cons in my general worldview, especially now having seen the other side of it.
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11-22-2018, 03:09 PM | #3342 | |
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Oops, sorry, edited things before you responded. But I think most of the post you responded to is in the second part.
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I dunno, I've kinda struggled with the idea that maybe pursuing things I want will just make people momentarily uncomfortable sometimes, but I should just do it anyway. But then I wonder if I'd be contributing to the problem of harassment of objectification if I put my own feelings and intents above other people's feelings like that, not caring if I offend people by asking them if they'd like to hook up. |
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11-22-2018, 03:14 PM | #3343 | |
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If it's just a straight up booty call, I have usually met them online or they are an established FWB and specified the lack of desire for anything emotional beforehand, and have made sure that the feeling is mutual. It's not how I really operate nowadays, but the crowd I ran with in the past was quite spontaneous and uninhibited, so it wasn't much of a struggle. I had sex with many of my friends, too, which is probably not an advisable situation but luckily it didn't cause any problems in my circle. |
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11-22-2018, 03:17 PM | #3344 |
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And no, no one has ever "shamed" me for being comfortable enough to suggest having sex when I want to. But that's probably because I surround myself with like-minded people. I may have been "shamed" insofar as your typical straight-laced perfection seeker wants nothing to do with me, but that's really not shameful! Ha!
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11-22-2018, 07:59 PM | #3345 |
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me reading this thread:
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11-22-2018, 08:15 PM | #3346 |
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is there such thing as good dating advice really
your results will vary |
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11-22-2018, 08:31 PM | #3347 |
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the way people have one night things is they drink... a lot
and it's overrated, at least it was for me |
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11-22-2018, 09:11 PM | #3348 | |
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I don't think I've ever had sex that lasted more than an hour, start to finish. Are you guys setting up some equipment or something??? No seriously, in that case I can imagine music is pretty nice. |
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11-22-2018, 09:22 PM | #3349 |
Just Hook it to My Veins!
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hmm two hours of sex... that means 1 hour 57 minutes of foreplay?
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11-23-2018, 01:27 AM | #3350 |
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drinking vodka cranberries and smoking weed while listening to my bloody valentine and swiping on tinder on a sunny friday evening
feels weird man |
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11-23-2018, 01:35 AM | #3351 |
Just Hook it to My Veins!
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I don't think it's weird for sex to take two hours with someone you have crazy chemistry with? Especially at the beginning of a relationship?
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11-23-2018, 01:39 AM | #3352 |
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11-23-2018, 01:45 AM | #3353 |
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11-23-2018, 01:48 AM | #3354 |
Just Hook it to My Veins!
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haha
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11-23-2018, 02:07 AM | #3355 | |
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I don't even know where I could schedule two hours in a bedroom with a guarantee of not being interrupted, maybe that's colouring my perspective. |
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11-23-2018, 07:46 AM | #3356 |
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Nope, no equipment! I can only speak for myself, but I feel an intense attraction to her. Always have since before we got together. Still can't keep my hands off of her after all this time. I can't say I've ever had this level of attraction with anyone in the past. She's also one of those people who takes her sweet time with just about everything, so it makes sense that our sessions are so drawn out.
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11-23-2018, 07:47 AM | #3357 | |
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11-23-2018, 07:47 AM | #3358 |
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11-23-2018, 11:39 AM | #3359 |
Just Hook it to My Veins!
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is sex even worth it without an hour of foreplay?
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11-23-2018, 12:26 PM | #3360 |
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Not even a little
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