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01-30-2012, 09:31 PM | #211 |
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Luke de Spa already clarified this issue about attraction. no one is saying it's wrong to be attracted to someone, or even to be attracted based solely on how someone looks.
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01-30-2012, 09:32 PM | #212 |
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you are taking something which was 75% for amusement 100% seriously.
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that doesn't really clarify anything. but ok. |
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01-30-2012, 09:41 PM | #214 |
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Eulogy, if you want a feminism primer, apparently this blog has helped some people:
http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com Honestly the problem seems to come from the fact that you all think we live in a basically equal society. When you discuss porn and viewing images of women you talk about it as a sex/gender-neutral issue, like it's generally the same experience for a man as a woman. This is not how it plays out in real life. I'm not sure where to start if that is the case because it is like we live on two different planets. |
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It's not like there aren't feminist movements around that share my viewpoint here. And I think your thought processes resemble uptight, sex negative, women-should-remain-in-the-home-and-deny-their-existence-as-sexual-beings puritanism than anything that would be helpful to women in society, practically speaking. |
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01-30-2012, 09:58 PM | #217 |
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i drew a comparison. i was not asserting that she actually embraces puritanism. learn to read.
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01-30-2012, 09:59 PM | #218 |
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i think this is a productive interesting thread i wish we wouldn't get so angry at each other
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01-30-2012, 10:09 PM | #219 |
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i think what bothers me is that i'm willing to listen to them, but neither of them will really make any arguments. instead charmbag sends me to some horribly constructed blog that gives me a definition of objectification and the male gaze and answers questions like "if women like sex then what's wrong with rape? isn't it just rougher sex?"
yeah that's really what i need here. |
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I would like to be able to discuss sex and these particular topics openly. I do not support legislation of censorship or any other kind of restrictive social law. I advocate for all manner of gay/lesbian and genderqueer rights and sexuality. I'm not sure why this is synonymous in your mind with a republican mindset just for QUESTIONING something just because you don't personally see the problem with it. |
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01-30-2012, 10:16 PM | #221 |
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Also, what I personally think is helpful to women is to be listened to and have their experiences respected. I try to do that when I talk to other women even if we disagree. You seem to discount the fact that feminism and these particular ideas have helped ME and many other women deal with a lot of shit, and validated our feelings. I don't appreciate you ignoring the fact that I am a woman too. If you want to be prescriptive about what would help women, why am I not included in that?
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01-30-2012, 10:16 PM | #222 |
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Well you really need to re-read the thread, Eulogy. You came in around page 5 or 6 and reiterated pretty much completely what trots said 6 pages ago. A productive discussion folowed, and all your points were addressed by me by Charmbag by LDS, even ****** had a couple good posts if you read into them. Stop repeating this nonsense that any of us said sex was bad or demeaning on its own.
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01-30-2012, 10:17 PM | #223 |
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charmbag's position is based on an emotional reaction which she can't seem to channel into any sensical argument. She thinks that we are closed to her point of view, but the truth is that she is so reactionary and absolute in her assertions about the objectionable nature of a nude female that she comes across as having some major sexual repression issues, not an intelligent point.
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01-30-2012, 10:18 PM | #224 |
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rbg the adults are talking
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01-30-2012, 10:19 PM | #225 |
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mayfuck you are a moron, go away
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The only reason (probably not the only reason but don't get hung up on that) porn exemplifies male-centric sexuality is because the majority of porn consumers are men. This is not inherently indicative of misogyny. Men just are generally more visual in their sexual self-stimulation and masturbate with greater frequency. Your stance against violence in all forms is a little strange too. All forms? What about where the woman is dominant? And what do you suggest people who are into BDSM do? Avoid doing what they want because you don't like the idea of sexual violence in any context? And I even hesitate to use the word "violence" because a consensual sexual act that two people enjoy participating in together really shouldn't be considered violence just because it would appear to be just that in a different context. Does this mean that sometimes an unhealthy person will view something out of that context and in a really horrid light? I suppose it does. But that's a problem with that person and should be dealt with accordingly. I think an analogy can be made to the people who say women who dress certain ways are "asking for it" and all that nonsense. Blame the rapist/person who views porn or the existence of BDSM communities in the wrong way. Not the people participating in it because they see it as an expression of their sexuality that they enjoy. Quote:
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no one is going to demean you for not participating in or viewing porn (and if it seems like i have done that then i apologize because that isn't fair). on the other side of that coin should be the idea that you shouldn't demean women who genuinely want to participate in or view porn. denouncing all pornography as anti-women does exactly that. |
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however i do think women have some advantage by being able to be passive about prospective partners while on the other hand a passive male is going to be
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01-30-2012, 10:44 PM | #230 |
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01-30-2012, 10:50 PM | #231 |
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i dunno i have the right to be who i am right
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01-30-2012, 10:54 PM | #232 |
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Is it okay if I just take on one point at a time? Having a simultaneous discussion about S&M and porn and hypersexualization and and and is kind of hard.
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01-30-2012, 11:05 PM | #235 |
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and why do you, once again, ignore most of my specific questions??
it really makes it seem like this is all empty academic rhetoric. which i'm sure is isn't. but you need to couch your arguments in tangible things instead of abstract ideas. |
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01-30-2012, 11:09 PM | #236 |
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Ayo why women gotta put me in a corner when they want to be feminists?
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01-30-2012, 11:15 PM | #237 |
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Jesus fuck this thread was 1 page yesterday. Cliff Notes anyone?
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01-30-2012, 11:16 PM | #238 |
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01-30-2012, 11:17 PM | #239 |
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charmbag hates all pornography
i think she should be more discerning julio got the bat signal rbg said some weird things trots expressed interest in having a more thoughtful conversation than we're usually capable of having basically it |
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01-30-2012, 11:27 PM | #240 |
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People who hate/dismiss all pornography have serious, serious issues
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