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03-27-2016, 01:29 AM | #511 | |
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as i said, it's a matter of picking the path of least resistance for yourself, regardless of the cost (and even if somebody else has to pay the price of that). i don't find intimacy easy to achieve but when i do get there with someone, i couldn't imagine just cutting someone off emotionally like that. it's like at once, the razor slices through and you no longer owe each other anything at all, not even sympathy. that's even worse than the actual desire for seperation |
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03-27-2016, 03:20 AM | #512 |
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god damn you all are fucked up
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03-27-2016, 09:12 AM | #513 | |
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03-27-2016, 04:45 PM | #514 | |
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03-30-2016, 08:51 PM | #515 |
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I can't get over how cringey some online dating profiles are.
my favs are people who post a selfie with reflective sunglasses as a profile pic , revealing their stretched out arm holding the phone while their face looks totally cool and effortless. so pathetic. also, i just scrolled through a profile of one girl who 'wrote a poem for her eternal loved one when he comes', it was just fucking priceless. I wait here for u to come by the sea shore U tell me to take the stars But they feel so close when U here |
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03-30-2016, 09:03 PM | #516 | |
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my favorite tinder profile I have seen so far:
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03-30-2016, 09:14 PM | #517 |
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I've heard girls on Tinder are not likely to swipe in the desired direction if you have selfies as your photos
You need to create the illusion you are sociable or something But it's Tinder... |
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03-30-2016, 09:16 PM | #518 |
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I feel like the best strategy would be to use all pictures of yourself with other girls
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03-30-2016, 09:20 PM | #519 |
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yeah this is exactly the kind of shit i'm talking about. it's all such an obtuse, stupid fucking game. we are all rats dragging our feet through the maze cause we get to that sweet piece of ... cheese though right
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03-30-2016, 09:21 PM | #520 |
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Jeez I do a lot of drugs, even though it's Wednesday not Saturday I still am high or otherwise. I feel a lot of things right now, and it's strange to be both scared and mellow, happy and despondent all at the same time. Exhale.
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03-30-2016, 09:22 PM | #521 |
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it also drives me crazy that texting with a person these days is an affair that lasts a whole day through, and sometimes more
because everybody needs to show anybody that they lead such an amazingly full, rich and busy life. they don't check their phone any second lol, do you? what a loser! i mean i text somebody and i fucking KNOW they got it the same second and read it, but they'll still wait two hours before they launch a response my way. it makes mind numbing small talk last forever and it's wearing out my sensitive soul |
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03-30-2016, 09:24 PM | #522 | |
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how important is it to be in a relationship, why do we put so much value on this |
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03-30-2016, 09:24 PM | #523 | ||
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I also think it's funny when people write incredibly snarky, judgemental shit about who they find to be an acceptable mate and it's pretty obvious they are looking to date themselves, e.g. Quote:
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03-30-2016, 09:29 PM | #524 | |
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but the loneliness of living by yourself is unbearable to me, especially after being with someone who deeply cared for me for so long, which is something i'm not sure you've yet experienced (to clarify in advance, i don't mean this in a bad way at all, nor to claim superiority) |
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03-30-2016, 09:31 PM | #525 |
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You're right I'm too inexperienced to give a real opinion of value on this
But your problem seems to be you are not okay with yourself or your life without a partner. How can you expect someone to find that attractive |
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03-30-2016, 09:33 PM | #526 |
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I only ever really think about dating and sex whenever I meet some girl by accident that fucks my shit up
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03-30-2016, 09:35 PM | #527 | |
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on the internet it's like the anonymity just brings out the most superficial look at me I'm so cool and no one is good enough for me bullshit in everyone. Beyond hooking up or dating I am pretty sure most people on tinder at least are there for people to hot or not validate them and make them feel good with vain pursuit |
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03-30-2016, 09:35 PM | #528 |
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it's not that you're too inexperienced to have an opinion, it's that you can only really understand how painful it is to live your life alone after you've had someone you built your life around walk away.
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03-30-2016, 09:45 PM | #529 | |
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03-30-2016, 09:51 PM | #530 | |
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I think by the time you get to our stage, where you emerge from an abusive childhood into an extremely traumatic adolescence (which is just about guaranteed, isn't it), then live through drug addiction, rehabilitation, trial and error with medication and forming a trusting relationship with a therapist, the overriding instinct is to suppress our feelings, or distract ourselves from them with food, shopping, obsession, rumination etc. Because the truth is that there is nobody in our lives who can say "I was there. Now I am here. Follow me, trust me." I actually think we are part of the first generation to get the appropriate kind of therapy at the right time, to make full recoveries from our trauma (in the sense that we make life goals, short and medium term goals, and can constantly work towards them and follow through with our plans...not in the sense that we are healthy well balanced individuals, or emotionally resilient!) and pass on some kind of hope to those younger than us. And we are (I mean, you and I) particularly fortunate because our upper middle class backgrounds have afforded us opportunities that most people don't have - just having the level of education we do, and being raised in an environment that while abusive, was also one that valued knowledge and education and rewarded academic achievement, meant that we constantly seek out new information, almost involuntarily. And that has allowed us to take hold of opportunities that many others with our abuse/trauma background, never know about. Anyway. Enough rambling... |
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03-30-2016, 09:53 PM | #531 | |
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If you're so funny Then why are you on your own tonight? And if you're so clever Then why are you on your own tonight? If you're so very entertaining Then why are you on your own tonight? If you're so very good looking Why do you sleep alone tonight? |
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03-30-2016, 09:56 PM | #532 |
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sad veiled bride please be happy
handsome groom give her room loud loutish lover treat her kindly though she needs you more than she loves you fuck |
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03-30-2016, 09:56 PM | #533 |
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It's funny how people interpret those particular lyrics because it always seemed to me that he's obviously talking about himself there and it's self-deprecating
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03-30-2016, 09:57 PM | #534 |
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THARS A CLUB IF YOUD LIKE TO GO
YOU COULD MEET SOMEBODY WHO REALLY LOVES YOU SO I GO AND I STAND ON MY OWN AND I LEAVE ON MY OWN AND I GO HOME AND I CRY AND IW NT TO DIEIEIEIEIEIEEEEEEEEEE |
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03-30-2016, 09:59 PM | #535 | ||
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also, i'm far more candid on this board than in any other area of my life. outwardly i try to appear less fucked up, so hopefully i'm not a red flag of a person when i meet a date or whatever. but with all that said, yeah, i don't see much 'point', for a lack of better word (or at least my inability to find one) in going through life alone, not being able to share what's important to you, and all those precious little moments of nothing at all. it's a "if a tree falls down in the forest" kind of thing. just having someone be there for you, and being able to be there for someone, makes everything worthwhile. without that, it all just feels like masturbation. |
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03-30-2016, 10:01 PM | #536 |
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Yeah I really don't like that worldview but you do you I guess
I understand love and marriage because you ran into this person that absolutely changed your life. But to actively seek it is weird to me. |
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03-30-2016, 10:02 PM | #537 |
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Must feel pretty good then. zing
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03-30-2016, 10:02 PM | #538 |
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too late
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03-30-2016, 10:03 PM | #539 |
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03-30-2016, 10:05 PM | #540 | |
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also reprise to thread but I believe love and sex light up the same pleasure centers in our brain that go off when we eat delicious food or take drugs. |
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