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03-27-2018, 05:48 PM | #31 |
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what does the monk have to do with it?
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03-27-2018, 07:21 PM | #32 |
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03-27-2018, 09:41 PM | #33 | |
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03-27-2018, 11:22 PM | #34 | |
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The first few weeks are the hardest. It helped me to start a new habit at the same time. Preferably something fun that’s not a “self help” sort of chore. Example: Not only are you now not drinking, but now you are collecting comics, or something. I’ve heard gamecubes are pretty cheap right now, might be time to give video games another try |
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03-27-2018, 11:30 PM | #35 |
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Thanks for the advice. I'm 9 days sober and counting. I've been gaining some realizations and have been getting down to the bottom of why I drink so much and how I'd rely on it as a crutch to cover up confidence or anxiety issues.
One thing that helps me is remembering that I'm in control of my own mind, and if I'm struggling and feeling like drinking I just think " so what, you're too weak? Not in control of your faculties?"and then I think "no man, fuck that". It's sort of like that old adage of the angel and devil on both shoulders. I kind of just look at it as a challenge. It's been going well, but I've been literally not hanging out with anyone outside of work. I think a big test will be going out with friends and restraining from it. We'll see how it goes. Right now I'm quite honestly taking it 1 day at a time. But I really am doing a lot more soul searching this time than the last time I tried. |
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03-27-2018, 11:31 PM | #36 |
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Also, don’t be afraid to ask someone for help.
And preferably not one of your current “friends.” Think of it this way: the people around you who have let it get this bad have enabled you and have not had your best interests in their hearts. It was very hard for me to give up my drinking buddies. Some of them I can’t even talk to anymore, and haven’t seen them in years and years. Alcoholism is an all-consuming disease and so don’t be surprised (or take it too personally) when your drinking buddies are likely to be more loyal to their own illness than to you |
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03-27-2018, 11:33 PM | #37 |
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i know why they fight. because they're both chauvinistic rich-boy (aka from well-to-do parents) underachievers who both want others to believe they're the sensitive type and so they accuse the other of what they both are.
meanwhile fuzzyroes is the same (but not with rich parents; just clarifying because he might latch on to this) except way more into the blind 182 mindset and has absolutely no redeeming qualities. at least ryan and johnny seem to have some people who like them. |
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03-27-2018, 11:36 PM | #38 |
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This might sound weird, but whenever I'd get on the bus, or go somewhere like a town or a city over I'd always have to have a few beers for the journey. Part of it is that I don't have a vehicle right now and taking the bus is always a bit of a shit-show with all of the cretins and non desirables, so drinking a few beers makes me feel more comfortable.
But that's been the one thing I've nipped in the bud. Going out, spending a day out and not drinking a drop. For so long I just felt that alchohol was necessary for social anxiety, and it worked really well for awhile but then it didn't. I actually feel more sociable now that I'm sober... It's kind of weird cause I would've expected and was worried about the total opposite happening. |
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03-27-2018, 11:38 PM | #39 |
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welcome to the bus
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03-27-2018, 11:40 PM | #40 | |
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03-27-2018, 11:43 PM | #41 | |
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03-27-2018, 11:45 PM | #42 |
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( I say sober lightly, because i realize it's only been a little over a week... I suppose you can't even call that "sober" but I'm trying to build upon whatever crumbs I can find)
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03-27-2018, 11:47 PM | #43 |
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We’re all building on our own crumbs, it’s ok
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03-27-2018, 11:49 PM | #44 |
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I’m an introvert so when I stopped drinking I was totally fucked. Suddenly I realized every last friend I’d made in the last decade was through alcohol. I was paralyzed at the thought of being around humans — let alone NEW, strange humans — without at least some booze to grease the interaction
Slowly, slowly, however, I was able to meet myself. I realized there was a personality under the haze, one worth sharing with people in the light of sobriety. I don’t know what the answer is for you but you gotta find some new people, man |
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03-27-2018, 11:51 PM | #45 | |
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03-28-2018, 12:02 AM | #46 | |
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03-28-2018, 12:07 AM | #47 |
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I know man, it’s hard it’s like the worst thing of all time. But you’re gonna do it, you want to live, I can tell.
Is there anyone at all in your life you could at least talk to about how much you want to stop drinking? All it takes is one close relationship where you can feel safe to open up about it Worst case scenario there’s always AA or whatever the canadians call that shit, it helps some people a lot |
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03-28-2018, 12:14 AM | #48 |
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Yeah, I have some people to turn to for sure. It might be a little tricky to separate the drinking, but I think it's possible. It might be like walking a tight-rope, but I'm not getting any younger. It's time I take accountability with where I'm at in life as opposed to hiding in the bottom of a bottle hoping that my luck might change.
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03-28-2018, 12:15 AM | #49 |
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Anyways, thanks for the talk man. It feels good talking to someone who knows how it feels and has come out the other side.
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03-28-2018, 12:20 AM | #50 |
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Fucken :hugs: man, it’s hard. Anytime you want to talk about it on here, I’m game
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03-28-2018, 04:56 AM | #51 |
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drinking is cool. don't give up!
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03-28-2018, 07:40 AM | #52 |
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if your not seeing eels on the ceiling and newts in the walls, your not really drinking.
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03-28-2018, 10:46 PM | #53 |
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I usually drink until I stop seeing shit.
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03-28-2018, 11:29 PM | #54 |
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03-29-2018, 08:04 AM | #55 |
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Sure, you pay.
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03-29-2018, 11:49 AM | #56 |
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03-29-2018, 11:58 AM | #57 |
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03-29-2018, 04:00 PM | #58 |
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03-29-2018, 07:32 PM | #59 |
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i'll never forget in a magazine in the 90s (probably rolling stone) there was a short list of steven tyler's favorite drinks and he listed "vulva nectar"
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03-29-2018, 07:33 PM | #60 |
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