self-help thread

[run2pee]

Today: trying to get comfortable with discomfort.

Instead of:

(1) snapguilt reaction to Negative Emotion ("I must be feeling bad b/c I did something bad, let me examine recent events to prove this true");

(2) panic at Negative Emotion, followed with quick-fix attempts to control the brain chemicals (running2beer, running2porn, running2);

(3) suppressed/denied with labels ("that's ungrateful," "that's shameful," "that's ugly")

Treat yourself the way you'd treat a small child throwing a fit. Give yourself permission to feel bad. Identify the Negative Emotion, name it if you can, but stop short at identifying with it. If you can, calmly examine what led to this, without blame, guilt, fear.

What would happen if instead of continually trying to escape bad feelings, you confronted them, with goal of facing reality (recognizing of course the emotions/voice/story you hear right now may not truly--or even remotely--describe what is) with eyes single to Love for the self, and Hope

What kind of reality could be shaped if you invest all that energy dedicated to blaming, shaming, running, suppressing, denying, toward, instead, knowing the Truth, as uncomfortable as it may feel

[Cool As Ice Cream]

Originally Posted by Run To Me

Treat yourself the way you'd treat a small child throwing a fit.

slap it?

[duovamp]

I've been trying to murder away my problems but the parking tickets are starting to bother me.

[teh b0lly!!1]

Originally Posted by Run To Me

Treat yourself the way you'd treat a small child throwing a fit.

Originally Posted by Cool As Ice Cream

slap it?

DISARM U WIT A SMILE
cut u like u want me too
killer in me killer in uuuuuuuuuu

[Cool As Ice Cream]

bribe yourself with ice cream

[Cool As Ice Cream]

buy five leather jackets and wear them all at the same time

[Cool As Ice Cream]

supa kewl

[Cool As Ice Cream]

i can't help myself

[MyOneAndOnly]

it's all bootstraps!

if you're a winner you make it happen!

[yo soy el mejor]

/runs to beer

[teh b0lly!!1]

*```~~<3~~``*** LIK IF U CRI EVRYTMI ***```~~<3~~``*

[Elphenor]

Originally Posted by Cool As Ice Cream

i can't help myself

[teh b0lly!!1]

seriously though i started getting back to meditation recently.

i'm out of anxiety pills and i'm too embarrassed to ask for more and i am under tremendous amounts of stress and needed to find a way to alleviate it. any way. getting drunk wasn't working, so while i was at my sister's i went to the beach every night and meditated for a while on the shore. the ocean is the single most glamorous, most unfathomable, most neverending source of calmness, inspiration and perspective in my life. nothing better. (<-- lol check out this guy)

i basically realized while doing those meditations that i essentially arrived at the idea of achieving Mindfulness on my own. i've never been well versed in yoga or meditation circles. i have no idea what any of those guys are talking about, i only did it on my own without learning what's "proper" meditation. but just by following what felt right to me, i found a way to focus on breathing, letting go, clearing my thoughts, and allowing myself to examine whatever thoughts (often intrusive or undesirable ones) pop into my head, and rather than let them start looping and go in circles, i just let it come and go like a vapor. not trying to sound like Maharishi McCumstain over here, just talking to myself since none of you fucks ever post anything anymore. screw you guys. you're a bunch of worthless fuck monkeys. ohhhhhmmmmm.

[run2pee]

I dunno how to meditate but it keeps coming up as something I should try

Do I need yoga pants? If yes which are highest rated on amazon prime for bros with very small butts pls.

[teh b0lly!!1]

crotchless panties brah

[reprise85]

My new semester starts tomorrow and I am afraid I am going to lose it. Like, stop going and become depressed. Today I had therapy and I couldn't even fucking stay awake so we did some sort of session with me in almost a trance state it was far out, except I can't remember much of course, except realizing I'm supposed to be going to graduate school in a year and not being close enough ready to be done with this major part of therapy I'm at. It was really weird, therapy today.

So I'm going to try to make things groovy and work out but I'm just stressed out. I don't even have my backpack ready for tomorrow. But I don't need much beyond notebooks/pens/folders for these classes.

go self help yourself

[FoolofaTook]

Meditation is the Practice of Death

[buzzard]

The pranayamic ground litmus. Ascetic brace the will ascend.

Converge onto the death ground.

[yo soy el mejor]

i bought a "self-help" book yesterday. i read a few quotes from it and it resonated with me and that's all i need to be interested enough in something. i feel a little sheepish about talking about the "self-help" books i like because of the stupid-ass stigma surrounding them by people who feel above/mock them or view their use as a sign of being unstable or unsure of oneself.

i was thinking today of the time i was in 3rd grade and got laughed at during library class. i had checked out a book called 'dealing with divorce' and the librarian announced it because it was due. i got to thinking that i've always just been a person who wants/needs to understand and read about my feelings in order to process them and anyone who thinks it's silly can go f or help themselves.

[vixnix]

My therapists have had different approaches to negative emotions.

But they all involve acceptance.

Acceptance is gentle though. When you do realise it's ok to have these negative emotions, you stop feeling so shit about them

One therapist said to give the negative emotion a name, and then visualise myself letting it go, and being blown away by the wind. Awww.

Oh, also, medication. Medication helps a lot.