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07-20-2018, 11:05 AM | #92 | |
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Financial success is most certainly a buffer between women and the men they seek on a long term basis. As a naive guy in my late 20s, I was always annoyed that girls in my circle always liked to hang out because I was into cool music and films, I was making films, or whatever, but they never wanted to get closer. Later when it became apparent some of those girls actually had boyfriends or were engaged to guys who were lawyers or came from families with serious money, and actually kept their boyfriends a secret to manage some sort of weird hip/artistic/street cred, was I forced to wake up. Now I'm in my early 30s, married, and I have a much better "normal" job than I did before. |
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07-20-2018, 11:13 AM | #93 |
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07-20-2018, 11:16 AM | #94 |
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ok i've made a very broad statement because fuzzy talks about becoming a wealthy man and how this will secure him happiness with girls, cause in their 30's they don't care about personality anymore. just make money! (and who cares about needs and healthy communication?)
so is that your sentiment? + do you equate this "wealthy man" thing to having a "normal" job? |
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07-20-2018, 12:32 PM | #95 |
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i met a platonic encounter on craigslist who wanted to meet a girl at putt-putt. afterwards we talked near his car, but luckily i drove there myself and didn't have any reason to go anywhere with him.
he was nice enough, but he didn't make me laugh. plus he was sooo skinny. |
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07-20-2018, 01:15 PM | #96 | |
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Fuzzy is right about at least one thing he has implied: When people get into their 30's they take more seriously finding someone to be with on a long-term basis. At this point the person you end up with will likely be your mate for the long haul or you face finding someone new, settling, and having kids at an older age if things go sour. At this point money becomes a much more pertinent issue than it was previously. I mean all this stuff is obvious, but sometimes not so much until you actually arrive there. Many things matter when it comes to what people look for in another person, but it's without a doubt that in the 30s, money and stability will be the first on the list. Everything else, for MOST people, will be secondary |
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07-20-2018, 01:36 PM | #97 |
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Damn, straight people are so neurotic and weird.
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07-20-2018, 01:43 PM | #98 |
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Women do place more value on financial stability and status in their potential mates then men do, but both men and women consistently name things such as personality, agreeableness, trust, etc. etc. as the most important qualities a mate must have. The things that you see gender differences in (being able to provide, appearance, etc.) are stable differences that you see across culture, but still are only secondary to the things that both sexes look for most in a partner.
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07-20-2018, 01:49 PM | #99 |
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07-20-2018, 01:54 PM | #100 |
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i'm living in the 1960's
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07-20-2018, 01:56 PM | #101 |
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I'm living in Narnia.
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07-20-2018, 01:57 PM | #102 |
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07-20-2018, 01:57 PM | #103 |
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When women get into their 30's they've had a lot of time to realize what is good for them and what they need in a mate.
Many would rather be alone than in the wrong relationship. I guess I am biased in my experience because the kind of person that I like is smart and independant. but seriously, fuzzy's advice is utterly useless to someone like me. |
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07-20-2018, 01:58 PM | #104 |
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07-20-2018, 02:07 PM | #106 |
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I considered something far more detailed and abrasive, had I known you were going to hang it over your mirror I'd of written something more interesting to be remembered by
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07-20-2018, 02:10 PM | #107 |
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07-20-2018, 02:24 PM | #108 |
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07-20-2018, 02:26 PM | #109 |
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07-20-2018, 03:08 PM | #110 |
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so artvase is fuzzy's "intellectual" troll right? where he writes a normal fuzzy post and then checks he used all the words correctly before he presses reply?
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The biggest thing I have noticed about dating in late 20s vs. early 20s is that people's intentions become clearer and they hone in on what they want. There are less greyish situations where it's like we're dating but we don't know what we are, sometimes we sleep together but we're just friends, shit like that. I don't think that hooking up happens significantly less for older millennials (in fact I don't have evidence but in my personal experience and in that of my friends', casual sex and one night stands happen a lot more when you are near 30 than when you are near 20). I just think people are more focused in their intentions, as in "I am looking for someone to go to dinner with and have sex with afterward without any pressure," or "I am looking for a serious relationship with someone who is an optimal interpersonal match" It was a wardrobe, actually. Last edited by redbreegull : 07-20-2018 at 03:26 PM. |
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07-20-2018, 03:23 PM | #112 |
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There is truth in the idea that certain social lines are hard to cross in a variety of contexts, including dating, like a homeless person is probably not going to be desirable to one of the kardashians, but everyone on this board is from a relatively similar socio-economic and cultural background, and in that context what fuzzy is saying is absurd. I'm sure his support of Donald Trump makes him less desirable to partners than ANYTHING else he could say about himself.
I mean it turns out having crippling depression and anxiety + being poor is not really that big an obstacle to making someone like you if you have something to offer them on an emotional level, so I'm just not that worried. |
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07-20-2018, 03:31 PM | #113 | |
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And I hate when I match 18-25 year olds on Tinder. I'm 42, and it's always the same - "age is just a number". Never end up meeting them. |
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07-20-2018, 03:34 PM | #114 |
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age is most certainly not just a number.
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07-20-2018, 03:35 PM | #115 |
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You can change your age preferences on tinder. Like when I used to see 18 year olds on tinder, all I could think about is how I could have worked with them doing homework help when they were in 3rd grade and I was already an adult and that was weird enough for me to not want to look at the dating profiles of 18 year old women anymore
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07-20-2018, 03:37 PM | #116 |
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POF, Tinder, Happn and Badoo. I like Happn best but you don't match many people. But I have met a Brazilian lady twice now and she is very nice.
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07-20-2018, 03:38 PM | #117 |
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07-20-2018, 03:44 PM | #118 |
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And sometimes you message the 18-19 year old you've just matched with and they tell you to "fuck off",
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07-20-2018, 03:55 PM | #119 |
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a 21 yo was persuing me last year and i was convinced it was some kind of fraudster. never met her...
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07-20-2018, 03:56 PM | #120 |
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probably wasn't a fraud but it's the first idea you get
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