Friday/Saturday drunk or otherwise thread

[redbreegull]

I think I am going to try and see her again in the next few weeks, and feel it out. Maybe talk to her about what happened. Ask what did it mean that we slept in bed together after I told her I wanted to be with her and after she has expressed all these doubts.

[redbreegull]

Originally Posted by Poots

bonnie is right give her an ultimatum. It's not "rapey" to try to kiss a girl you've been in bed with all night massaging and dry humping it's fucking expected. She was probably wondering what they fuck you were waiting on. Being a timid bitch is not attractive.

rapist alert


lol I mean this is such a rapey thing to say, it's almost like this is an example from a freshman seminar on consent or something

[redbreegull]

if you were real and not a disingenuous sad twerp, I would wish for you to get stabbed by one of your victims

[FoolofaTook]

Originally Posted by Poots

I guess you'll never get accused of rape by your hand so no worries

I think you've got rbg confused with foat. its ok we're both dashing amd dazzling.

[fuzzyroes]

Originally Posted by redbreegull

rapist alert


lol I mean this is such a rapey thing to say, it's almost like this is an example from a freshman seminar on consent or something

He's got a bit of a point. If she slept in the same bed with you and there was arduous touching then she may have been expecting/hoping that it would lead to sex. She could have just said "we cant do anything sexual" out of a morale obligation even though it was what she fathomed would eventually take place that night anyhow.

[redbreegull]

Originally Posted by fuzzyroes

He's got a bit of a point. If she slept in the same bed with you and there was arduous touching then she may have been expecting/hoping that it would lead to sex. She could have just said "we cant do anything sexual" out of a morale obligation even though it was what she fathomed would eventually take place that night anyhow.

no he doesn't. No means no. If a woman tells you not to do something and then you try anyway you belong in a fucking cell

[redbreegull]

also having sex with her would have made me feel much shittier later. I don't want her to cheat on her boyfriend with me, I want her to get rid of him.

[LaBelle]

Originally Posted by redbreegull

no he doesn't. No means no. If a woman tells you not to do something and then you try anyway you belong in a fucking cell

This so much.

[fuzzyroes]

Originally Posted by redbreegull

also having sex with her would have made me feel much shittier later. I don't want her to cheat on her boyfriend with me, I want her to get rid of him.

Why man? it seems like she may have been seeking you out in order to make love with you again to "relive how it feels" so she can have that fresh in her mind to contemplate in the now instead of probably just rationalizing that her old feelings for you may have been nothing but some light-hearted, young-minded nostalgia.

[fuzzyroes]

I'm just not sure I buy this narrative that your old passionate lover decided to seek you out, sleep in your bed, indulge in hours of touching without hoping that sex would be on the table.

[ohnoitsbonnie]

Oh no rbg didn't rape a drunk girl what a pussy

[ohnoitsbonnie]

Originally Posted by fuzzyroes

I'm just not sure I buy this narrative that your old passionate lover decided to seek you out, sleep in your bed, indulge in hours of touching without hoping that sex would be on the table.

Whatever her thoughts, he didn't do the wrong thing in that regard. She had been drinking and cheating is not a picnic. I never advocate for it.

[fuzzyroes]

He played it how I probably would have. But I dunno, considering his actions in hindsight, it sorta seems like he may have missed out on a golden opportunity.

[fuzzyroes]

Oh she was drunk was she?

In that case i think you made the right call RBG

[LaBelle]

Women can seek comfort with someone they feel a connection to without the need for intercourse.
It's weird I know, but that happens.

[LaBelle]

Also "just because you can" is not really a way to have sex that it's gonna be in any way meaningful to both parties involved.

My .2

[fuzzyroes]

Definitely true. I'm generally more happy to get to know someone and try to build a romance that's more special, but I'd be lying if I said things have never happened super fast because of the desire of a girl. There's been times where I wasn't even down for sex but I'd just oblige cause I'd feel like a dick for turning down a girl who was so into me when I kinda like her... Of course in hindsight it never worked out for the best. But we've all seen my face. You don't wanna be some ugly dude hurting a pretty girls feelings.

[FlamingGlobes]

Originally Posted by fuzzyroes

But we've all seen my face. You don't wanna be some ugly dude hurting a pretty girls feelings.

Haha wow

[FlamingGlobes]

fuzzy, if this is you sober, you should be sober more.

[fuzzyroes]

ehhh it's all amalgamations of ones man mind

[FlamingGlobes]

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[fuzzyroes]

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[D.]

Originally Posted by fuzzyroes

If she slept in the same bed with you and there was arduous touching....

ar·du·ous
ˈärjo͞oəs/Submit
adjective
involving or requiring strenuous effort; difficult and tiring.
"an arduous journey"

[fuzzyroes]

giving a 2 hour full body massage isn't some lite, passive walk in the park dude!

[redbreegull]

Lying in bed with her, her wrapping her legs around mine and putting her head on my chest, stroking my head...

was the best thing I have felt in literally years. I don't care that it wasn't sex. Like I said, it honestly felt like sex in terms of how intimate it was. The only way I can make sense of what happened is that we got as close as we could without overstepping her boundaries.

And like I also said, I don't want her to be cheating with me. The bf needs to go if we are going to get together. I'm not interested in that bullshit and I have to protect myself at this point and having some cheating thing or some secret thing would be the worst

[fuzzyroes]

I'm happy for ya man. Nothing feels more awesome than rekindling some intimacy with an old romance for whom you hold in high regard. Even if it is fleeting, and never amounts to more than this recent experience, at least you've found out that the passionate flame inside of you still burns. It's easy to forget that it does sometimes when feeling numb for so long.

[D.]

Originally Posted by fuzzyroes

giving a 2 hour full body massage isn't some lite, passive walk in the park dude!

[redbreegull]

at least you've found out that the passionate flame inside of you still burns. It's easy to forget that it does sometimes when feeling numb for so long.

it was more about finding out that the flame inside her still burns for me... all this fucking agonizing over losing her... and it turns out she feels the same way.

now I guess it could just be even worse if she marries him

[ohnoitsbonnie]

This is me circa forever until I broke free of Avram. Ugh just choose, girl

[ohnoitsbonnie]

Forever until like a year or two ago