guys I'm confused

[blackfaerie]

nimmy likes a variety of poon.

Originally Posted by neopryn

try a therapist

edit: this was before i read the second post, now he sounds like me

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[blackfaerie]

bitchin' camero!

hey hey now netphoria, he could still turn out to be an asshole!

i'd just wait it out without giving any implication of intimacy if you can do that. Just try not to get really wasted around him and do something you'd regret. Sounds like a nice guy, but if he starts to get clingy and weird kick him to the CURB!
but anyway, try to be understanding and not jump to conclusions. he's probably interested in more than just fucking you, so when you start to feel weird just get up to go to the bathroom and take a breather or something?....i dunno. some girls just need an asshole boyfriend and the contrast of a giant argument to make up sex for it to feel worth it.

[scouse_dave]

hi

[wHATcOLOR]

how big is the office you work in anyhow

[bardy]

I dunno, probably between 40-50 people. we are all kind of segregated into our own departments though of about 10 people

[wHATcOLOR]

he's not in your 10 person department, right?

[bardy]

Originally Posted by big white horse hung

he's not in your 10 person department, right?

we aren't in the same department-- I only see him in the office if we are having cake for someones birthday or I happen to walk by him on the way out of the buildling.

[Nimrod's Son]

Originally Posted by yo soy el mejor

this is like the third time in this thread that nimrod tries to show off how much he knows about women and the stuff they do. if he knows so much then why isnt he with one? i bet it's not his own choice.

i'm with more than one, which is better.

[wHATcOLOR]

Originally Posted by bardy

we aren't in the same department-- I only see him in the office if we are having cake for someones birthday or I happen to walk by him on the way out of the buildling.

well at least that's the case. i tend to agree with ace on this, though i can't be as gung-ho because i've crossed that line. though to a lesser degree sort of. my office is a massive four buildings with a few thousand people, and this girl works in a different building across the street, and we said up front that we had to make sure it didn't cross the line into unprofessional, and we had known eachother for many months before we met up outside of work.

[bardy]

yeah I know it's probably not a good idea, and that's why this is going very very slow. I mean we havent even kissed or anything; it's just friends at the moment. And I am going to guess it's going to be 'just friends' for a while because right now I don't even know if I like the guy. Also I think the situation/company I work in/for might be a little more laid back than where both you and Ace work--not that it means what I'm doing is okay. He has worked there for a couple years and for some reason he seems to think that there isn't anything wrong with it. I kind of want to ask him if he's ever done this before but I dont need to interrogate the guy yet and I dont really want to imply I want to date him.

If this did turn into something else, would you guys keep it a secret for a while (6 months or so) or be upfront about it in the beginning? That's what seems to be the controversy when I've heard about the relationships that have developed where I work.

[wHATcOLOR]

hmm. i can't answer that last question, cause i just really don't like the idea of doing it at all anymore, it just doesn't seem wise. it's hard when you work so many hours that there's no time to meet people outside of work, but... let's just say here i am i hoping my reputation as a manic mushroom tapper doesn't spread throughout the company.

[bardy]

yeah definitely. I have tried taking some random classes to meet people but it seems so logical that I'm going to only really make friends at work. That is pretty much all I do, anyway. And in your situation with the long hours it's probably even more so. I guess the ideal situation would be to meet a friend of a coworkers but I've kinda fucked that up since the only one near my age is the dude that likes me. I think hooking up with one of his friends would be an equally bad/dramatic idea.

Oh well I'll just keep it in my pants. =P

[Elvis The Fat Years]

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[celluloid_love]

Originally Posted by Nimrod's Son

being an asshole is more fun and nets more ass

nice guys are suckers

the Netphoria ethos

[Argh]

lol@ nimrod making himself out to be a hotshot stud

too obvious hes full of shit though, the clerks avatar of the movie guy just gives it away

[BlueStar]

Take things as slow as possible and keep them on more of a friend level until you figure shit out or move in January (or whenever it is that you are moving to Fresno). As for meeting someone outside of work, you just have to put yourself out there - go out and do things on your own (i.e. museum, bar, etc.) and you'll meet people/potential dates.

[Oblivious]

this is probably a bit late and i didn't bother reading anything past the first page, but it seems like you're lonely and bored, brady. it also seems like you're not into this guy too much besides for needing someone to hang out with. i would suggest on holding out for something more meaningful even if you're just looking for someone to hang/screw around with. somebody that you at least like! i mean if you don't even like the guy all that much why bother with the fuss of dating/fucking around with someone that you have to work with? surely you can hold out for something more wothwhile. though i do detect a trace of desperation in you at times. i just don't think it would be a good idea to to be anything beyond buddies with this guy unless you think that more good than bad could come out of it.

[bardy]

went out with him and his roommate tonight, no hooking up. I think we're in the clear, folks.

[Future Boy]

dont go out with him again.

[JapanAlex]

Originally Posted by Nimrod's Son

i've been telling you fuckers for years that the assholes get all the pussy

no it's just men with conviction

[Future Boy]

they just happen to be assholes.

[hnibos]

so netphoria, how do you go from being a nice guy to an asshole, without having a moral dilemma

???

[Dead Frequency]

Originally Posted by hnibos

so netphoria, how do you go from being a nice guy to an asshole, without having a moral dilemma

???

Beer!

[Thaniel Buckner]

Originally Posted by bardy

oh well he just invited himself over. and his self esteem bothers me. he's always like "are you sure you want to hang out? would you tell me if you didn't want to?" and I'm like SHUT UP STOP MAKING ME UNCOMFORTABLE

you mean he perpetually seeks validation from others?

like you?

[Ever]

Cool

[bardy]

oh lol @ this thread. I have been dating that guy for like a year and a half now. I just wasn't used to guys who were nice to me and didn't derive all their humor from making fun of other people. Our relationship isn't perfect (he takes baby steps and is having a quarter/mid/whatever life crisis) but he is my best friend and I don't know what I would have done without him. Also lol@ kristin's post in this thread.

and we are back to working in the same office!! and I think we waited like 6 months before we told anyone at the office and noone seemed to really care. They made sure we wernt near each other/in the same department when I moved back to sacramento though.

[Floppy Nono]

what a happy ending!

[Eulogy]

bardy quit netphoria?