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[yo soy el mejor]

hahaha

[smashingjj]

Originally Posted by Ihaguitar

Any girls want to fuck?

Sure! Asl?

[Disco King]

Originally Posted by Elphenor

it's more the physical touch aspect that's uh far out

I've had a high guard for my personal space all my life, I'd like to be a cactus, relaxing into casual physical contact with a person in public and such was very different for me

Yeah, PDA is something I'm not really into. Even with just platonic physical touch, I feel like I can always sense my female friends chuckling because I give them weak-ass grandma hugs that are engineered specifically to minimize the the surface area making contact with the other person.

Physical contact in public can also just be inconvenient. Like, how walking and not bumping into other people suddenly becomes that much harder when you have your arm around your date's waist or shoulders and essentially have to telepathically link minds if you want to be on the same page about which direction to avoid oncoming pedestrians in.

Originally Posted by reprise85

today my manager playfully poked me in the back and my body recoiled internally and went numb for about 10 minutes

Yeah, I even feel kinda alarmed when somebody taps my shoulder or something to get my attention.

Though probably not for the same reasons. I don't associate physical touch with trauma, I'm just not used to it.

[Disco King]

Originally Posted by fuzzyroes

hahaha it's a bit of a sausage fest around here lately

Yeah, there isn't usually such a dearth of people who want to have forum sex.

[LaBelle]

Had a lot of lasagna for lunch and going to a pizza party tonight.
Already rerouting my morning running course cause the usual ain't gonna cut it.

[buzzard]

I had a fettuccine carbonara made with alternapasta my lifehomie whipped up out of arrowroot flour or some such nonsense as that and it was actually pretty good.

Pleasantly surprised that I was able to eat healthier without it being an experience brimming with sadness at the could-have-beens.

[TuralyonW3]

you know Generation Z hardly ever has sex anymore

[vixnix]

My first boyfriend, I was 17 and he was 18 and he would just not let up, ever. First meal at his mother's house (he usually lived with his Dad, across town), his sister remarked drily that he wouldn't be hungry for dinner because he had been so busy eating my face. His sister was in my year at school, and a fellow prefect, so it was really awkward. But I couldn't bear the thought making his family more comfortable at the expense of hurting my boyfriend, after all the shit he had already lived through, in his family. So I just sat there with his gangly arms and legs wrapped around me while he ate my face in front of his mother and her new husband and his brothers and sister. Good times. We were always had our arms wrapped around each other when we walked, too. I think we were both so miserable at that point in our lives, and had so much childhood trauma, we were just like clinging to each other like sad little children.

[vixnix]

Originally Posted by TuralyonW3

you know Generation Z hardly ever has sex anymore

The cynic in me thinks that it's because they have 24-7 access to brand new porn on their phones and amazon to deliver vibrators and other masturbation aids to their front door, so DIY gratification is kind of deluxe now and real sex seems backward and primitive in comparison.

I'm so old, and from the ends of the earth, so that we didn't have those choices. If you wanted to have sex with something other than your hand and your imagination, you had to go out and meet some people and lower your standers a bit. You know, the old fashioned way.

[fuzzyroes]

Originally Posted by Disco King

Yeah, there isn't usually such a dearth of people who want to have forum sex.

I know man. I definitely missed out on the glory days when all of the Netphorians were hooking up with each other

[redbreegull]

Originally Posted by vixnix

The cynic in me thinks that it's because they have 24-7 access to brand new porn on their phones and amazon to deliver vibrators and other masturbation aids to their front door, so DIY gratification is kind of deluxe now and real sex seems backward and primitive in comparison.

I'm so old, and from the ends of the earth, so that we didn't have those choices. If you wanted to have sex with something other than your hand and your imagination, you had to go out and meet some people and lower your standers a bit. You know, the old fashioned way.

I think it's actually because young people today are living far more isolated, disconnected lives than in the past. It's not just sex which has disappeared, it's basically all real life forms of socialization. This makes kids depressed and anxious, which just perpetuates the cycle.

[LaBelle]

Turns out having loads of pizza on top of loads of lasagna was a deliciously poor idea, I feel i'm about to die.

[LaBelle]

Corn & bacon pizza was particularly ruinous. =|

[Disco King]

Originally Posted by vixnix

I think we were both so miserable at that point in our lives, and had so much childhood trauma, we were just like clinging to each other like sad little children.

Now that I think about it, I did take out one girl who seemed to like hugging the side of my body when we walked in something similar to the manner in which a koala clings to a tree. I actually didn't mind this. Made me feel all manly.

But I feel like it couldn't have been unrelated to the fact that she expressed interest in DDLG dynamics, and I feel like such a thing would be too much damn work. I don't think I really want a partner that I have to be paternal toward rather than just equal with.

Originally Posted by vixnix

The cynic in me thinks that it's because they have 24-7 access to brand new porn on their phones and amazon to deliver vibrators and other masturbation aids to their front door, so DIY gratification is kind of deluxe now and real sex seems backward and primitive in comparison.

I'm so old, and from the ends of the earth, so that we didn't have those choices. If you wanted to have sex with something other than your hand and your imagination, you had to go out and meet some people and lower your standers a bit. You know, the old fashioned way.

Not that I think that the accessibility of porn hasn't affected our brains and behaviours, but I honestly think the lack of sex the kids are having these days has more to do with the fact that all milestones and coming-of-age activities are being postponed and reduced in frequency. Moving out, getting a partner, driving, etc. I feel like this is driven by the economy (baby boomers ruined everything, so it is no longer possible for young people to get on their own feet as early in life), and different life values (personal development and self-discovery and taking the time to do those things being more valued than they were in the past).

Also, I feel like traditional gender relations haven't really caught up with the strides we've made in talking about and establishing consent. It almost feels like people don't really want to acknowledge how antithetical traditional gender relations are to a culture of clear consent, because it would take too much energy to challenge the former. I try to date people with similar progressive values to me, but even they seem to follow and expect the same old gender scripts and masculine/feminine roles that don't seem to facilitate the entire "clear enthusiastic consent" thing well, and it leaves people in a grey area of not knowing how to proceed.

As for the porn thing, when attaining casual hookups is at most people's fingertips, I don't think most people are saying "eh, I don't need sex, I've got enough porn." I don't think anybody really finds porn preferable to sex. And though sex in general is not as prevalent amongst youngsters, when they are having sex, it's more often in the context of hookups rather than relationships than it was in earlier generations. Hookup culture also makes things more confusing to navigate, I think.

Originally Posted by fuzzyroes

I know man. I definitely missed out on the glory days when all of the Netphorians were hooking up with each other

I was being facetious, but that's fine, agree with things I say that are purposefully dumb anyway.

[Disco King]

Originally Posted by LaBelle

Corn & bacon pizza was particularly ruinous. =|

Bacon on pizza always sounds like a good idea to me, but it's always overpowered by the other strong flavours found within a pizza, so I never end up truly appreciating the bacon, anyway.

As for corn, I can't imagine that being good on a pizza, but try anything once.

[redbreegull]

Originally Posted by Disco King

Now that I think about it, I did take out one girl who seemed to like hugging the side of my body when we walked in something similar to the manner in which a koala clings to a tree. I actually didn't mind this. Made me feel all manly.

But I feel like it couldn't have been unrelated to the fact that she expressed interest in DDLG dynamics, and I feel like such a thing would be too much damn work. I don't think I really want a partner that I have to be paternal toward rather than just equal with.



Not that I think that the accessibility of porn hasn't affected our brains and behaviours, but I honestly think the lack of sex the kids are having these days has more to do with the fact that all milestones and coming-of-age activities are being postponed and reduced in frequency. Moving out, getting a partner, driving, etc. I feel like this is driven by the economy (baby boomers ruined everything, so it is no longer possible for young people to get on their own feet as early in life), and different life values (personal development and self-discovery and taking the time to do those things being more valued than they were in the past).

Also, I feel like traditional gender relations haven't really caught up with the strides we've made in talking about and establishing consent. It almost feels like people don't really want to acknowledge how antithetical traditional gender relations are to a culture of clear consent, because it would take too much energy to challenge the former. I try to date people with similar progressive values to me, but even they seem to follow and expect the same old gender scripts and masculine/feminine roles that don't seem to facilitate the entire "clear enthusiastic consent" thing well, and it leaves people in a grey area of not knowing how to proceed.

As for the porn thing, when attaining casual hookups is at most people's fingertips, I don't think most people are saying "eh, I don't need sex, I've got enough porn." I don't think anybody really finds porn preferable to sex. And though sex in general is not as prevalent amongst youngsters, when they are having sex, it's more often in the context of hookups rather than relationships than it was in earlier generations. Hookup culture also makes things more confusing to navigate, I think.



I was being facetious, but that's fine, agree with things I say that are purposefully dumb anyway.

This is a good post, but I think you are wrong that more casual sex is happening today than in past generations. I guess it depends how you define hookup culture, but I have definitely read the baby boomers and gen xers report having more sexual partners than millennials, at least

[Disco King]

Originally Posted by Disco King

when attaining casual hookups is at most people's fingertips

Then again, maybe it isn't at most people's fingertips, despite the proliferation of online dating and hookup apps.

I remember reading some OKCupid market research that showed that, while men tended to rate 50% of men on the site as attractive and 50% as unattractive, women found 20% of men attractive, and 80% unattractive. Similar ratios were found for other dating sites like Tinder and the like.

While I'd initially think that "maybe they find 80% of men on these dating sites unattractive," it turns out that the study also used photos from non-dating social media, and found there was no difference between the dating-site samples and the non-dating-site samples. So, it's not just biased by the kind of men who happen to use dating sites.

Combine that with what we know about how often men get responses and matches versus how often women get responses and matches… and maybe attaining hookups is only easy for half of the population. It seems to fit the pattern we've had about women being more selective that we've seen well before the advent of the proliferation of dating social media and as predicted by parental-investment theory, as well.

[buzzard]

Originally Posted by Disco King

I honestly think the lack of sex the kids are having these days has more to do with the fact that all milestones and coming-of-age activities are being postponed and reduced in frequency. Moving out, getting a partner, driving, etc. I feel like this is driven by the economy (baby boomers ruined everything, so it is no longer possible for young people to get on their own feet as early in life)

I do wonder if cultures within which this milestone delay has been the economic norm for some time are the same for which "love hotels" have been a more widespread fixture throughout the same period.

Meanwhile, as Auckland properties bought for $350k in the early 2000s sell for upwards of $1.5M today, the city's youth continue to bang in parked cars.

[vixnix]

Parked cars? Well aren't teenagers fancy these days. In my days we did it in a cardboard box after walking fifty miles in the snow!

[Shallowed]

Why did you have to walk fifty miles in the snow to get to a cardboard box? Is this a fetish thing?

[FoolofaTook]

Originally Posted by smashingjj

Sure! Asl?

17/Male/New Delhi

[Ihaguitar]

Originally Posted by vixnix

My first boyfriend, I was 17 and he was 18 and he would just not let up, ever. First meal at his mother's house (he usually lived with his Dad, across town), his sister remarked drily that he wouldn't be hungry for dinner because he had been so busy eating my face. His sister was in my year at school, and a fellow prefect, so it was really awkward. But I couldn't bear the thought making his family more comfortable at the expense of hurting my boyfriend, after all the shit he had already lived through, in his family. So I just sat there with his gangly arms and legs wrapped around me while he ate my face in front of his mother and her new husband and his brothers and sister. Good times. We were always had our arms wrapped around each other when we walked, too. I think we were both so miserable at that point in our lives, and had so much childhood trauma, we were just like clinging to each other like sad little children.

At least he wasn't eating your pussy.

[buzzard]

Well, I guess the thread's edge quota has now been filled.

[LaBelle]

[Elphenor]

Originally Posted by pavementtune

elph, just out of curiosity - did you get a temp ban of 48 hours or some such, or did they dish out a perma-ban? I mean I don't assume you board there pulling that on a daily basis

(also what board, music boards still exist???)

oh I'm unbanned now

it is a punk forum of all things to get banned from

like all forums now it's far from discussing the original intended topic though

[buzzard]

Sounds like it's just a forum, to me.

[Elphenor]

Originally Posted by Disco King

At any rate, go hit up that girl at work you've been eyeing.

fuck I'd like to but I haven't even found a good excuse for another conversation

she having a spot of importance at work and me just being someone who unloads trucks makes an occurrence where we'd need to talk pretty rare, the one time we did she seemed as intimidated by me as I was of her, but I just don't know

even though she's like 4 or 5 feet from me for hours of the day, I mean I could totally say hi or WANNA SEE MY PENIS or something casual like that

she is ridiculously adorable with her little push cart secretary laptop and giant glasses

[Elphenor]

Originally Posted by buzzard

Sounds like it's just a forum, to me.

this place is pretty punk all things considered

[buzzard]

Forums with rules and pussyfooted hesitance do not a punk image curate.

[Disco King]

Originally Posted by Elphenor

she is ridiculously adorable with her little push cart secretary laptop and giant glasses

There's your reason to talk to her. You like her glasses.