Bad Mood

murgle · 01-14-2004, 01:29 PM

I'm in a bad mood. And here's why:

My boyfriend called me (he just got off work). He and I are talking about the rest of his shift, the fog last night, etc etc. He then brings up that his roomate IMed him this morning... she said that if I were going to be staying over at their place much this summer, then I would need to pay rent.

First of all, this comes out of fucking nowhere: I am the nicest I can be to her, I don't eat her food, I don't wake her up when she's sleeping, I'm not particularly loud or obnoxious, and so forth.

Yes, over the past month, I've been over there frequently... but I've only spent the night there twice. (My birthday and my boyfriend's birthday)

Since she brings it up so abruptly and the way she did (She didn't say anything like: Kate sure has been staying at the house a lot.. or Mention that she has a problem with it until NOW... 4 months after they started sharing this aparment), my boyfriend immediately gets defensive about it, which causes her to back off.

This is why I am in a bad mood. I know that none of you care, probably, but I needed to vent, and I have no one else/no place else.

C33 · 01-14-2004, 01:41 PM

sucks.

Nimrod · 01-14-2004, 01:42 PM

Nobody care.

partialbirth · 01-14-2004, 01:45 PM

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Originally posted by Nimrod
Nobody care.

I care, I just don't know what to say or how to help...but I DO feel for you...

I CARE

meow · 01-14-2004, 01:51 PM

if you are staying there, why shouldn't you chip in for rent? you are using electricity, water, perhaps cable and the internet.

You shouldn't get to be there for free.

ammy · 01-14-2004, 02:05 PM

i agree with meow, it sucks to be renting a place and then all of a sudden your roommate has turned into two poeple not just one..

rubber · 01-14-2004, 02:18 PM

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Originally posted by meow
if you are staying there, why shouldn't you chip in for rent? you are using electricity, water, perhaps cable and the internet.

You shouldn't get to be there for free.

I agree if you are staying over night there a lot or using a lot of shared stuff. Otherwise a person is entightled to have visitors even if they are frequent.

AndySlash · 01-14-2004, 02:22 PM

Your boyfriend and his roomie need to come up with an agreement (in writing, maybe) about what is and what is not OK in regards to "frequent visitors". The sooner they do this, the better. It shouldn't be too hard at this point for them to be able to sit down and actually talk about it. Take care of the problem before it's a fucking mess.

lawson · 01-14-2004, 02:29 PM

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Originally posted by Ammy
i agree with meow, it sucks to be renting a place and then all of a sudden your roommate has turned into two poeple not just one..

especially if that person is a boy/girlfriend and the other roomate doesnt have one. when you've had a bad day and you just want to go home and be alone and then you have your roomate and his damn girlfriend giggling and you just want to die.

so im guessing she didnt want to be a bitch, but then she reached a breaking point with it and figured well im not gonna tell him she can't come over, so at least da bitch can pay.

im still waiting for that from my girlfriend's sisters, but really they all have visitors so much and we tend to stay in her room anyway. but when it happens i'll cough it up. actually i was thinking i'd pay their next water bill at least

Amazing Disgrace · 01-14-2004, 02:35 PM

baby killer.

guz · 01-14-2004, 02:41 PM

it doesn't matter if you hardly sleep over, it's the daytime that you being there would actually matter. she'd have been better off bringing it up that it was a problem, rather than jumping to the rent issue, but she does have the right to be bothered about this.

-adamson · 01-14-2004, 03:38 PM

i think it's just all part of living with roommates. sometimes one roommate has a partner and sometimes they don't.

if you don't want to deal with the things that come with roommates then you shouldn't live with them. and i don't want to hear a bunch of stuff about how you can't afford an apartment without having a roommate. there are plenty of nice apartment complexes that offer discounts to students or people who fall below a certain salary - you just have to find them.

house rules are a good idea, if all parties agree to live by them.

my vote is for the roommate who brought it up to get out and find a new place, because she clearly isn't into having roommates. if the situation were reversed and the complaining roommate was the one with the partner, would she ask her partner to pay rent? doubtful.

mewl · 01-14-2004, 03:44 PM

uhm, do you live someplace else and just go other there to hang out with your boyfriend? i don't see why you should pay anything. the bitch needs to back off.

murgle · 01-14-2004, 04:05 PM

(1) She (roomie) has a boyfriend who stays over occaisonally.
(2) I'm over there during the day when she's at work and my boyfriend is not.
(3) I have my own place to live, and for most of the time, I am in Austin and he is in the DFW area. The time that we actually DO get to spend together is limited.

If I were staying there constantly, spending the night, showering there daily, eating food, etc. etc. then I would pay rent or at least chip in for utilities. She could just be in a bad mood because my boyfriend and I see each other a lot and she hasn't seen her boyfriend in a week.

guz · 01-14-2004, 04:09 PM

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Originally posted by murgle
The time that we actually DO get to spend together is limited.

Quote:

Originally posted by murgle
She could just be in a bad mood because my boyfriend and I see each other a lot and she hasn't seen her boyfriend in a week.

murgle · 01-14-2004, 04:17 PM

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Originally posted by guz

we've seen each other a lot this past month... we wont get to spend that much time with each other until spring semester is over- so we try to see each other as much as we can when I AM in town

meow · 01-14-2004, 06:54 PM

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Originally posted by Ammy
i agree with meow, it sucks to be renting a place and then all of a sudden your roommate has turned into two poeple not just one..

Totally.

If she asks your for fifty bucks, either suck it up and fork it over, or GO do things with your boyfriend (movies, coffee, etc) equivalent to the amount of money she is asking.

wild light · 01-14-2004, 09:19 PM

kill her and move in.

Junebug · 01-14-2004, 10:35 PM

if you don't mind my asking, why are you there when the roommate is but your boyfriend isn't? is there any way you could only be there when he's there too? I don't really see a problem if you're spending the night there all the time and stuff, as long as you're not eating her food or using her stuff a lot. But maybe the fact that you're there when he's not makes her feel like she's actually living with you, instead of just seeing you often. or something.

01-14-2004, 01:29 PM	#1
murgle Shaz doesn't fuck around. Location: dallas Posts: 9,260	Bad Mood I'm in a bad mood. And here's why: My boyfriend called me (he just got off work). He and I are talking about the rest of his shift, the fog last night, etc etc. He then brings up that his roomate IMed him this morning... she said that if I were going to be staying over at their place much this summer, then I would need to pay rent. First of all, this comes out of fucking nowhere: I am the nicest I can be to her, I don't eat her food, I don't wake her up when she's sleeping, I'm not particularly loud or obnoxious, and so forth. Yes, over the past month, I've been over there frequently... but I've only spent the night there twice. (My birthday and my boyfriend's birthday) Since she brings it up so abruptly and the way she did (She didn't say anything like: Kate sure has been staying at the house a lot.. or Mention that she has a problem with it until NOW... 4 months after they started sharing this aparment), my boyfriend immediately gets defensive about it, which causes her to back off. This is why I am in a bad mood. I know that none of you care, probably, but I needed to vent, and I have no one else/no place else.

01-14-2004, 01:41 PM	#2
C33 Minion of Satan Location: I'M WORRIED ABOUT COOPER Posts: 7,121	sucks. __________________ To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 5 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

01-14-2004, 01:42 PM	#3
Nimrod Macho Business Donkey Wrestler Location: the cross i'm bearing home 'aint indicative of my place Posts: 5,410	Nobody care.

01-14-2004, 01:51 PM	#5
meow Netflix Me Location: Human Skull! Posts: 27,712	if you are staying there, why shouldn't you chip in for rent? you are using electricity, water, perhaps cable and the internet. You shouldn't get to be there for free.

01-14-2004, 02:05 PM	#6
ammy yer mom Posts: 23,180	i agree with meow, it sucks to be renting a place and then all of a sudden your roommate has turned into two poeple not just one..

01-14-2004, 02:22 PM	#8
AndySlash Posts: 20,262	Your boyfriend and his roomie need to come up with an agreement (in writing, maybe) about what is and what is not OK in regards to "frequent visitors". The sooner they do this, the better. It shouldn't be too hard at this point for them to be able to sit down and actually talk about it. Take care of the problem before it's a fucking mess.

01-14-2004, 02:35 PM	#10
Amazing Disgrace Banned Posts: 466	baby killer.

01-14-2004, 02:41 PM	#11
guz El Gringo Mexicano Location: I'd rather just have dome anyway Posts: 8,599	it doesn't matter if you hardly sleep over, it's the daytime that you being there would actually matter. she'd have been better off bringing it up that it was a problem, rather than jumping to the rent issue, but she does have the right to be bothered about this.

01-14-2004, 03:38 PM	#12
-adamson Pledge Location: in your mind Posts: 145	i think it's just all part of living with roommates. sometimes one roommate has a partner and sometimes they don't. if you don't want to deal with the things that come with roommates then you shouldn't live with them. and i don't want to hear a bunch of stuff about how you can't afford an apartment without having a roommate. there are plenty of nice apartment complexes that offer discounts to students or people who fall below a certain salary - you just have to find them. house rules are a good idea, if all parties agree to live by them. my vote is for the roommate who brought it up to get out and find a new place, because she clearly isn't into having roommates. if the situation were reversed and the complaining roommate was the one with the partner, would she ask her partner to pay rent? doubtful.

01-14-2004, 03:44 PM	#13
mewl Socialphobic Posts: 14,498	uhm, do you live someplace else and just go other there to hang out with your boyfriend? i don't see why you should pay anything. the bitch needs to back off.

01-14-2004, 04:05 PM	#14
murgle Shaz doesn't fuck around. Location: dallas Posts: 9,260	(1) She (roomie) has a boyfriend who stays over occaisonally. (2) I'm over there during the day when she's at work and my boyfriend is not. (3) I have my own place to live, and for most of the time, I am in Austin and he is in the DFW area. The time that we actually DO get to spend together is limited. If I were staying there constantly, spending the night, showering there daily, eating food, etc. etc. then I would pay rent or at least chip in for utilities. She could just be in a bad mood because my boyfriend and I see each other a lot and she hasn't seen her boyfriend in a week.

01-14-2004, 09:19 PM	#18
wild light Pledge Location: lost. help me find a home Posts: 241	kill her and move in.

01-14-2004, 10:35 PM	#19
Junebug Minion of Satan Posts: 7,072	if you don't mind my asking, why are you there when the roommate is but your boyfriend isn't? is there any way you could only be there when he's there too? I don't really see a problem if you're spending the night there all the time and stuff, as long as you're not eating her food or using her stuff a lot. But maybe the fact that you're there when he's not makes her feel like she's actually living with you, instead of just seeing you often. or something.