Sacrifice

[vixnix]

Originally Posted by ilikeplanets

It's hard enough being a mother and housemaiden, I can't imagine piling on top of that the stress of being stuck with some whiny man I didn't find attractive 100% of the time. Unless he was rich.

I've heard that men only leave a marriage when they have another partner already, and that women leave when they're unhappy. And that it's usually the woman in a heterosexual relationship, who chooses to separate.

I've also heard that married men live longer than single men...but that single women live longer than married women.

So I think you are part of a large group of women who feel the same way - they ran the numbers, and the marriage wasn't worth it.

I have threatened to walk out many times...I think the first 10 years of raising kids together is the hardest. It feels easier now, and the idea of us driving a sensible toyota corolla to watch our kids play cricket on a saturday morning, and saving up for our retirement together, and going to Friday evening organ recitals at the cathedral because they're free and the kids are old enough to stay at home by themselves...it all seems less depressing now, than it did five years ago. It was hard to look forward to anything, then - everything was so hard, and we were constantly fighting.

I can't imagine navigating my way through a blended family situation, and I'm very grateful I don't have to do that, at the moment. I have a few friends who five years back, were 'happily' married and who are now divorced and living with partners and dealing with step child/step parent dynamics. It sounds hard.

But you are an only child, and so is your daughter. So even if you do nothing, you'll inherit your parents estate when they die, and she'll inherit it from you. You're not a maiden in that sense...more like an heiress :P

ol muggins here is one of three children and has two kids to think about. If I don't save for my retirement, my kids will have to pay for me. That is a terrifying and shitty thought. I'd sacrifice just about anything, including being alive, to spare them that burden.

[vixnix]

Originally Posted by Disco King

I thought we established that it's the baby boomers and Gen X that were terrible and have ruined shit for millennials.

yes, I believe the millennials did establish that, for themselves

everyone else remains sceptical

[vixnix]

Originally Posted by Shallowed

I'm really sorry that you had to sacrifice a lot to get to where you are, but maybe rather than lashing out at millennials who have nothing to do with your hardship, making meaningless and irrelevant generalisations about them, and chastising them for not wanting to go through the same hardships that you personally happened to face, you should point the finger at the actual circumstances that led you to and put you in that hardship.

oh shut up

[Shallowed]

ok

[FoolofaTook]

lol

[FoolofaTook]

So what generation do you belong to Vixnix?

[Alice]

Is everyone having a good time?

[Alice]

Is anyone having a good time?

[vixnix]

i'm a xennial

[vixnix]

and i am having a good time

[MyOneAndOnly]

i remember when i used to be told on here that I was an old fart. happened daily. Back in the Aughts when we all had hope.

now you is all old.

LOL

[ilikeplanets]

Del
Pointless and awkward

[Disco King]

Originally Posted by vixnix

yes, I believe the millennials did establish that, for themselves

everyone else remains sceptical

I dunno, there are all those shitty neoliberal policies that boomers voted for after they ended their hippy phase, reregulating everything and cutting social safety nets and all that shit. And now the economy sucks and it can measurably be traced to the policies of that era.

I dunno specifically about the political impact of Generation X, but anecdotally, people from this generation seem to be more narrow-minded and dull than people even older than them. I have no idea why, you'd think pogoing to all that '90s anti-commercialism alt-rock is supposed to make one all woke and shit, but yet…

I'm just generalizing for shits mostly, because I think that arbitrarily splitting people who are continuously being born every day into "generations" and assigning them personality traits based on those groupings amounts to something maybe marginally more reliable than astrology. But it's fun to stereotype people.

[Disco King]

"The world is passing through troublous times. The young people of today think of nothing but themselves. They have no reverence for parents or old age. They are impatient of all restraint. They talk as if they knew everything, and what passes for wisdom with us is foolishness with them. As for the girls, they are forward, immodest and unladylike in speech, behavior and dress."

—Peter the Hermit, A.D. 1274)

"I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond words... When I was young, we were taught to be discreet and respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly wise [disrespectful] and impatient of restraint".

—Hesiod, 8th century BC

[vixnix]

Originally Posted by MyOneAndOnly

i remember when i used to be told on here that I was an old fart. happened daily. Back in the Aughts when we all had hope.

now you is all old.

LOL

Lol indeed!

[smashingjj]

i quit facebook

[Funbags]

Funny how the older generations chastise the younger generations as if they weren't literally responsible for raising them. "How come you didn't do a better job of being raised, idiots!"

[Run To Me]

Sorry i dont understand the complaint of this thread

Something about the childless youngins don’t have enough pain, or something? And you don’t like it when they vape? Did you spend too much time on the internet and transfer your frustration at an entire demographic somehow

[Run To Me]

Oh wait, i get it

Birthdays. Yeah it sux doesn’t it. It’s ok, soon it will be just the nondescript middle of another year of your life again

[FoolofaTook]

EVERYONE BORN BETWIXT 1980 AND 2010


F U!!!!!!

[smashingjj]

so far I've always disliked most people, but especially those 5-10 years younger than me.

I wonder if I'll hate 30 somethings in ten years

[smashingjj]

Originally Posted by FoolofaTook

EVERYONE BORN BETWIXT 1980 AND 2010


F U!!!!!!

agreed

[FoolofaTook]

fuck em. fuck em all. rich or poor, big or small, smooth or furry: FUCK YOU!!!

[FoolofaTook]

My life sucks.

I hate others!!!

[Funbags]

Originally Posted by vixnix

You don’t know anything about it you damn millenials

I thought this was a joke. Are you being serious?

[FoolofaTook]

HBD Funbags!

[MplsTaper]

It is time for Gen X and Gen Y to join forces in destroying the Baby Boomers. We must not tolerate all of this petty infighting.

Happy Birthday Funbags!

[smashingjj]

Yes, Happy Birthday Funbags, we all love you!

[Disco King]

Originally Posted by Funbags

Funny how the older generations chastise the younger generations as if they weren't literally responsible for raising them. "How come you didn't do a better job of being raised, idiots!"

Lol, reminds me of my parents.

>Destroy any possibility of me developing healthy self-esteem by being overly critical of my every action, screaming at and hitting me for the most trifling mistakes
>prohibit any expression of emotion by punishing me more if I cried, became upset, or let even the mildest expression of discontent show in my facial expressions
>Hold me to perfectionist standards and make their acceptance of me conditional on my conforming to them
>Be prone to unpredictable bouts of anger, causing me to always be on guard and always be walking on eggshells

>WHY CAN'T YOU OPEN UP MORE TO US AND BE ASSERTIVE

Every. Damn. Time.

[Mals Marola]

they don't love you like i love you

bags