Women and/or fems of netphoria, what have been your most positive dating experiences

[Eulogy]

Originally Posted by vixnix

I had a friend who was in bed a with a guy after a few dates and she had her top off and reached down and he was limp. . That was pretty off putting for her.

So a dude has to have a boner instantly after seeing boobs or it's over?

[fuzzyroes]

Good point Eulogy... Sometimes women/men have FAR too high of expectations in their minds of what it takes to get a partner excited

[Dogfighter28]

I think it's best to wait until the moment is right to go for physical acts whether that be a kiss or something more

That could mean two days or two weeks. If it's more than that maybe you're just friends. But that could develop into something romantic later. What's the rush?

Me and my boo went to the drive in on our second date. For some reason we discussed how we didn't like the idea of strip clubs but we weren't morally opposed to them. Then hanging out with some very nerd-bro friends that night, we got dragged to The Cheetah, which is a high end gentlemans club.

I always dip out when these dudes go to these joints but since we were both going together it made it okay. In fact I made the first move there, at the front while strippers were all up in our grill. We made out for like 10 mins, dropping ones in between. She told one of them we were engaged to see if we would get free shit but all we got was a naked hug. Well, I guess that was decent.

While in the bathroom some guy at the urinal goes "you guys have any New Years resolutions? Mine is to CUM MORE"

All in all, I'm glad I went but those places are exactly what I thought they'd be

#banana
#nimrodsson
#brolo

[The exploding boy]

Originally Posted by vixnix

I had a friend who was in bed a with a guy after a few dates and she had her top off and reached down and he was limp. . That was pretty off putting for her.

Your friend sucks .

I know personally any first time with any girl ive been with i was too nervous for instant erection. if i was to pick all the worst sex i've had it would invariably have to be any first time with someone new.... It's any wonder any of them still went out with me. There's this ex i was with for two years, morning after, a friend calls her. I can tell the friend is asking about the date but she's trying not to let me know. At some point she just says "six.." After she hung up i said "she asked you to rate me out of ten in bed didn't she?" she smiled, embarrassed and didn't deny it. Well for any first with me, i figure i'll take a passing grade gladly actually.... I've crashed and burned worse...

[vixnix]

Originally Posted by Eulogy

So a dude has to have a boner instantly after seeing boobs or it's over?

She was really pretty and sweet with great boobs and they'd been fooling around in his bed for a while before she took her top off. She had been totally infatuated with this guy because he was arty and took great photos and was a great conversationalist, but she never got over that. She wasn't thick at all but she did have big boobs for a petite girl.

I've always been thick and have never expected erections, but I'm never confident enough with my body to really go for it, so by the time a guy has the pluck to lead the action he usually has an erection anyway, so I've only experienced boner package once. And that was during a really awkward threesome, and it was really embarrassing but the whole thing was embarrassing anyway!!

[Eulogy]

Was she wet enough for penetration at the time he was limp?

I dunno people are just so weird and passive aggressive about boning.

[The exploding boy]

Some poeple like thick girls/boys...or don't care either way.

I think it's not so much about weight for a lot of people, its how you wear the weight. Some wear 20 extra pounds like they're 40 over. Some are 60 pounds overweight and look just fine.

Anyway if this guy was arty an a great conversationalist, he's probably was the nervous type in bed... Not being shitty about a guy's lack of erection goes a long way to ensure it'll be better the second time around. Also, that's what handjobs and blowjobs are for? did she at least TRY anything?

[yo soy el mejor]

a limp dick never hurt nobody

[yo soy el mejor]

Originally Posted by The exploding boy

Anyway if this guy was arty an a great conversationalist, he's probably was the nervous type in bed...

wow. what an assumption!

[Eulogy]

Yeah most dudes have forearms

[Shallowed]

[The exploding boy]

Originally Posted by Eulogy

Was she wet enough for penetration at the time he was limp?
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This is the annoying double standard i have to say. A girl expects a guy to be hard, a guy doesn't expect a girl to be aroused (i mean you'd want her to of course but it's not biologically necessary). there's lube for that worst case. The girl doesn't have to really be into it for sex to happen. The guy has to. Its not even being into it even, just nerves or stress. Or being relaxed enough. That's why usually my first times with anyone have been not so good, because you WANT it to be good and you make a thing of it in your head whereas sex is not supposed to be something you think about...biologically it's gonna happen if you let it. But then you get in the way.

My first relationship, she had this thing where she expected me to want to do it everyday pretty much otherwise it was like, don't you like me anymore? But how many times did we have sex when she CLEARLY wasn't really into it? It was kinda fucked that way. she needed me to desire her but i wasn't supposed to expect her to want sex. It was all for her self esteem.

[Shallowed]

Originally Posted by The exploding boy

The girl doesn't have to really be into it for sex to happen

Well, morally...

[Eulogy]

Well you might be overthinking things too

[slunken]

Originally Posted by The exploding boy

It was all for her self esteem.

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[vixnix]

I guess I was 19 at the time and she was 21 so we'd only been with young guys who got erections over everything and were totally overrun with testosterone. So relative to that it seemed pretty weird.

[yo soy el mejor]

Originally Posted by Shallowed

;_;

[yo soy el mejor]

what a cutie

[Shallowed]

Originally Posted by vixnix

I guess I was 19 at the time and she was 21 so we'd only been with young guys who got erections over everything and were totally overrun with testosterone. So relative to that it seemed pretty weird.

Should have posted that gif in response to this

[yo soy el mejor]

Originally Posted by The exploding boy

This is the annoying double standard i have to say. A girl expects a guy to be hard, a guy doesn't expect a girl to be aroused (i mean you'd want her to of course but it's not biologically necessary). there's lube for that worst case. The girl doesn't have to really be into it for sex to happen. The guy has to. Its not even being into it even, just nerves or stress. Or being relaxed enough. That's why usually my first times with anyone have been not so good, because you WANT it to be good and you make a thing of it in your head whereas sex is not supposed to be something you think about...biologically it's gonna happen if you let it. But then you get in the way.

My first relationship, she had this thing where she expected me to want to do it everyday pretty much otherwise it was like, don't you like me anymore? But how many times did we have sex when she CLEARLY wasn't really into it? It was kinda fucked that way. she needed me to desire her but i wasn't supposed to expect her to want sex. It was all for her self esteem.

the girl expects. the guy doesn't expect. double standards.

this is all just your shitty experience and opinions. but you talk like it's a universal truth.

[Eulogy]

Originally Posted by Poots

There is some disturbing honesty going on in this thread. "My dick don't work when I really like a girl" What the fuck is that?

One person is saying that and it's a pretty widely recognized issue for some people.

[The exploding boy]

Yes. I'm sorry for having no shame. Maybe i'm oversharing but i always like to think if everybody was about sex then it wouldn't be a thing to talk about it more candidly.

To yo soy: no its not universal and i guess i didn't mean to imply it was but yes i am basing on my experiences because i have nothing else to base it on. But im not the kind of person to say "well all girls are/do...so and so" (or guys) even if yes i kinda made it seem this way. I should have prefaced this with "in my experience".

Shallowed: yes morally, which is why i barely ever instigate sex which leads to other problems altogether but I never said i was good a this relationships thing. And cleary I wasn't talking about rape cases....But i doubt anyone in a long term relationship hasn't had sex before and realised during that your partner was humoring you more than anything. It's shitty sex and i try to not have it happen anymore....but it probably will happen at least once at some point in most relationships

[Dogfighter28]

I used to have the opposite problem of being way too excited

Nowadays I feel a lot more relaxed and it's been a whole new world of bow chicka wow wow

I think getting a lot of exercise and taking time to clear my head of anxiety every morning has helped

[slunken]

Originally Posted by Poots

There is some disturbing honesty going on in this thread. "My dick don't work when I really like a girl" What the fuck is that?

its what the scientific community refers to as "maj ween probs"

[slunken]

how long have erectile dysfunction pills been available? i find it hard to believe that it wasn't the first thing scientists wanted to cure - ie super boner pills.

surely since the 1700s right?

[yo soy el mejor]

i get that. boys aren't alone. sometimes us ladies aren't as ostensibly rearin' to go even if we really wanna be.

i guess we can hide it and sneak a wet hand down there if need be. sux to be y'all. don't worry, though. not every girl cares and one day you'll find the right one. and the girls who did care will find their right one.

[Trotskilicious]

I like big girs with a nice shape. I also like women that are taller than me

As far as boners are concerned, people need to be way more honest and understanding thats what i think. Women tend to think its something personal?

[yo soy el mejor]

guys tend to think women tend to think it is something personal, i think.

[slunken]

yo i break em off till the sun come up an that's word

[Trotskilicious]

Originally Posted by The exploding boy

Your friend sucks .

I know personally any first time with any girl ive been with i was too nervous for instant erection. if i was to pick all the worst sex i've had it would invariably have to be any first time with someone new.... It's any wonder any of them still went out with me.

Yeah i never recover from this, never a callback or a 2nd date

As such i never fuck on a first date. Same result woe is me