Looking for quality men...

[D.]

Ok, here I am posting a romance ad but, maybe this has its advantages. I can post in some detail who I am looking for, a little about myself and maybe someone out there is looking for me.

I am 49. I feel its best to be open and up front and save each other some time. If you reply, I expect a picture in your first email.

Just a normal masc guy here looking for the same. I'm gay, but pretty much just a straight guy who likes other guys. I'm not into the gay scene, and I'm not into guys who you can tell are gay. Obviously this makes it difficult to find guys. I hate shopping, can't stand drama, and couldn't care less about fashion. What I'm looking for is a laid back guy who is into guys without being "gay" - if that makes any sense at all. I know it's a long shot, but I'm hoping there's somebody out there. Ideally, I'm looking for someone that I could potentially be in a relationship with, but that has to start with a friend so that's what I'd like first.

I find it hard to meet masculine gay men that are outside the bars and the scene. So, went to an internet site, "adam" and was shocked at what I saw. So many men into destructive behavior with drugs, anything goes sex and amazed at how high the percentage of the guys are admittedly positive. I can only imagine the true percentage with men who don't know and/or lying.

I require mutual STD testing to take any relationship past dating.

I value people. I am loyal, monogamous and have never cheated on a partner. I consider others feelings and like people who can communicate and share what is on their mind.

I have time to date, and get to know someone. I am not so wrapped up in a job or friends that I can't make time for the most important person in my life. (I work days and you should too) I put my partner first, and friends have their respectable place in my life, but I don't sleep with them.

I'm an IT professional, but not a computer geek or gamer. I actually like to get away from the technology. I have a simple flip phone, no data plan or smart phone. I am not a fan of texting, and if you are unable to talk on the phone and only text, then don't bother responding to this ad.

I like a man who takes care of business and has a job, drivers license, car, a place to live and can have a checking account....you know, the things normal adults our age have. I am not interested in meeting men that are living with their ex, or their wife. No bisexual or curious men. I have no tolerance for men doing pussy and cock.

I like hanging out at home, or going out to explore....day trips, casinos, camping, antique shops, movies, as long as its something we both enjoy. In my spare time, I have also renovated many old homes, and have experience in several construction trades.

I also like spending time with people who are not financially challenged and are able to go out to dinner once in a while and/or go out and have a drink. I am not being a snob, just being honest. If you work a minimum wage job, we aren't compatible.

I am also drug and disease free. I expect the same. Not even weed. I am not going to debate how you're a functioning drug user. I don't tolerate drugs in my life or those I associate with. It's a waste of time, lives and money.

I have a motto "You tell me the truth and we can work through anything and I will fight with you in your corner till the end, but you lie to me and we are done."

I love making my partner happy. I am versatile. I believe a relationship is not something hard, or something that has to be constantly worked on like some people say. If it's right you blend with that person and if mutually into each other, it's never work to be with your best friend and share a life together.

I am looking for a man who is reasonably fit, height/weight prop. and is open to a relationship and has a heart. I'm generally attracted to caucasian men 30-45. You should be able to express yourself, listen and care about others. If you can cook that would be great too, lol. I want a man of substance, integrity, knows loyalty and is monogamous. I want to build a life together outside the bars and the scene, there is so much more to life, lets do it together.

A meeting for me is a casual date over some coffee or a drink, nothing expected and casual in nature. (t-shirt & jeans). Be yourself, honest and don't try to impress. I am down to earth and like people who are comfortable in their own skin.

[Eulogy]

this doesn't seem all that weird/funny to me

[Eulogy]

oh except the comment about bisexuals is pretty

[pavementtune]

He is just honest. He doesn't want a bisexual or weed smoking parnter. I don't want a bisexual partner either, why is that ?

[vixnix]

He sounds like an inflexible control freak. Hopefully he finds somebody as judgmental as him and they can be happy together.

It also sets off alarm bells for me that he's 49 but is generally only interested in guys 30-45.

[Eulogy]

Originally Posted by pavementtune

I don't want a bisexual partner either

why not?

[D.]

I'M NOT WEIRD FUNNY OR

I'm just looking for a non-gay gay life partner.

[D.]

I am human and I need to be loved, just like everybody else.

[D.]

SING ME TO SLEEP

[Dead Frequency]

Originally Posted by pavementtune

He is just honest. He doesn't want a bisexual or weed smoking parnter. I don't want a bisexual partner either, why is that ?

What about a partner who likes the weeds?

[Nimrod's Son]

this thread is a poor attempt to be the new sbt. there can be only one sbt.

[Eulogy]

Originally Posted by pavementtune

Since I have never been in a straight-bisexual relationship, I guess it's sort of a fear-of-the-unknown prejudice.
Scenario: My partner is bi, we've been together for 10 weeks, all is fine, sex is great too. Then one day, I get the feeling he isn't enjoying sex as much as I am and as he usually does. And - stupid as I am - I ask myself "Could it be that he would prefer a penis and no boobs right now?"

So I don't think I could handle a longer relationship with a bisexual partner.

that is not all that different than asking if a straight partner would enjoy a different pair of boobs more than yours.

[Eulogy]

Originally Posted by pavementtune

For me it is. Because I'm not that insecure to compare my boobs with others. Also boobs are boobs, whatever size or form. Wondering if he'd rather have sex with a man right now, I wouldn't handle very well.

you realize this is still insecurity though, right?

[Eulogy]

i mean i sort of get it. but i think it's more something we're socialized to feel and less a legitimate worry.

[porte peinte]

a good man is hard to find

[pavementtune]

It is. As I said, it's stupid to ask yourself that. But I know I am stupid enough...But if I'd fall in love with a bisexual guy, so be it.

[Shallowed]

Originally Posted by D.

Obviously this makes it difficult to find guys.

No fucking kidding. He's not giving himself that many options with all his criteria.