is 4 years diffrence between a girl and a boy too big??

Pumpkinpie · 10-13-2002, 11:16 AM

so i have seen this girl 2 times (though she went with a friend aswell) and we have been talking and she is really lovely....the thing is she thinks she is too old for me, i am 22 and she is 26 but she looks and seems to be 20 or 21.....but i don't know why she thinks like that, i mean 4 years! isn't Paul McCartney together with someone who is like 25-30 years younger than him? maybe that's an exception but......i think it's silly she thinks like that....i mean is she looking for the perfect guy? there must be worse things than the age diffrence.....i think we are on the same level so......she said she was looking for something serious, but i am too!!
well thanks for answers

lucky_13 · 10-13-2002, 11:57 AM

i think once you're in your twenties age differences become less creepy. however, its rare that the girl is significantly older in relationships. if she was really into you though she would overlook the age difference. if she makes a big deal of it she's not worth your time.

mirrar · 10-13-2002, 12:42 PM

I think they key is that you both have to be comfortable with the age difference, which would make it fine. If she's not okay with it, then it won't work, regardless if it's an acceptable amount of years or not.

bonsor · 10-13-2002, 12:46 PM

i dont even care about this stupid question anymoe.

sickbadthing · 10-13-2002, 01:07 PM

If there's more than 2 years difference, you are a creep.

aldango · 10-13-2002, 01:14 PM

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Originally posted by lucky_13
i think once you're in your twenties age differences become less creepy.

Yeah.

Heh, I know this freshman (high school) who was going out with a guy who was 21 this summer. Hilarious.

bonsor · 10-13-2002, 01:23 PM

There's a girl in my lab group who's 17. She's dating a 25 year old guy who's engaged. She sees nothing wrong with it.

My frist girlfriend dated the guy before me when she was 14 and he was 18.

It used to bother me tremendously, but I've become so accustomed it happening around me that I've just learned to accept it.

But if I ever have a kid, I'd rather have a boy, specifically for this reason.

Travis Meekz · 10-13-2002, 01:26 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by lucky_13
i think once you're in your twenties age differences become less creepy. however, its rare that the girl is significantly older in relationships. if she was really into you though she would overlook the age difference. if she makes a big deal of it she's not worth your time.

this is all true

Sepiae · 10-13-2002, 01:29 PM

My parents got married the day after my dad turned 22. My mom was 25. They just celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary.

When I was 15, I tried to date an older guy. Did not work at all.

Four years when it is 22 and 26 isn't a big deal. When it is 15 and 19 it is. If you two are looking for pretty much the same thing, why not?

10-13-2002, 02:26 PM

4 years is the cut off for me.

10-13-2002, 02:31 PM

Only if the guy is 16 and the girl is 12.

Random Female · 10-13-2002, 03:27 PM

What Rhino said. and the other person. After you're 20, that all kind of goes away because most 20 year olds are adults and can mingle effectively in the adult world. If this is true for you, then you could probably be fine with dating people up to 10 years older than you. Older than that and you have the whole "i'm dating an old person" thing to deal with, and that's simply NOT a good thing unless it's just for fun.

MstrGhost · 10-13-2002, 04:05 PM

10 + 14

Apart · 10-13-2002, 04:05 PM

girls like that are low self esteem attention cunts. and obviously since you're asking here on netphoria, no...there aint a damn thing wrong with it!! hehehe. its cool to be slutty. strike a pose

DeviousJ · 10-13-2002, 04:59 PM

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Originally posted by Mirror_Untrue
I think they key is that you both have to be comfortable with the age difference, which would make it fine. If she's not okay with it, then it won't work, regardless if it's an acceptable amount of years or not.

This is pretty much it. The age difference might mean you're moving in different circles, and that your outlook is different, but so long as it doesn't bother you and you're good friends, what's the problem?

Pumpkinpie · 10-13-2002, 05:01 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by lucky_13
i think once you're in your twenties age differences become less creepy. however, its rare that the girl is significantly older in relationships. if she was really into you though she would overlook the age difference. if she makes a big deal of it she's not worth your time.

well, she told me also that she was fed up with guys.....and she asked me what i was looking for aswell...."marriage? children?" i didn't say anything, if i would say yes on those questions.....maybe i would scare her, i mean what if she just wanted to date someone?? then she told me that was exactly what she was looking for...but i am looking for that aswell...aren't everyone who is looking for a longterm gf or bf, wanting that?? maybe you just think "not yet".....
and well, she isn't worth my time? maybe not, but she must be worth a try no? maybe she doesn't trust guys so she want to take it slow.....and i am serious with my feelings for her, i have to be patient, it's not like i meet lots of girls like her in a lifetime.....

anyway, we have met 2 nights in a row.....and i send her a SMS today, but she said she didn't want to have any pressure, she isn't here to meet any guys just to have fun with friends ( she is here on holiday, so she will only be here for 2 weeks)....but she said that we would probably run into each other.......

Affect · 10-13-2002, 05:07 PM

No, it's not a problem at all.

Pumpkinpie · 10-13-2002, 05:14 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Sepiae
My parents got married the day after my dad turned 22. My mom was 25. They just celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary.

hey could you please tell her this?

she is looking for someone to be really serious with (marriage, children) i guess she hasn't been lucky with the guys she has been with before....she also told me her biological clock was ticking, and she is 26! i asked if she liked older guys but no, only guys in her own age......

El Scorcho · 10-14-2002, 02:48 PM

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Originally posted by sickbadthing
If there's more than 2 years difference, you are a creep.

WORD!

Squashing Pineapples · 10-14-2002, 04:44 PM

age isn't a big deal if you are not a pedophile

10-13-2002, 11:16 AM	#1
Pumpkinpie Pledge Location: Spain,Europe Posts: 68	is 4 years diffrence between a girl and a boy too big?? so i have seen this girl 2 times (though she went with a friend aswell) and we have been talking and she is really lovely....the thing is she thinks she is too old for me, i am 22 and she is 26 but she looks and seems to be 20 or 21.....but i don't know why she thinks like that, i mean 4 years! isn't Paul McCartney together with someone who is like 25-30 years younger than him? maybe that's an exception but......i think it's silly she thinks like that....i mean is she looking for the perfect guy? there must be worse things than the age diffrence.....i think we are on the same level so......she said she was looking for something serious, but i am too!! well thanks for answers

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10-13-2002, 11:57 AM	#2
lucky_13 Apocalyptic Poster Location: for joke! Posts: 2,235	i think once you're in your twenties age differences become less creepy. however, its rare that the girl is significantly older in relationships. if she was really into you though she would overlook the age difference. if she makes a big deal of it she's not worth your time.

10-13-2002, 12:42 PM	#3
mirrar Braindead Location: in our bedroom, after the war. Posts: 19,826	I think they key is that you both have to be comfortable with the age difference, which would make it fine. If she's not okay with it, then it won't work, regardless if it's an acceptable amount of years or not.

10-13-2002, 12:46 PM	#4
bonsor Minion of Satan Location: midwest Posts: 8,771	i dont even care about this stupid question anymoe.

10-13-2002, 01:07 PM	#5
sickbadthing Out fart the hottie! Location: I have super gonorrhoea Posts: 24,316	If there's more than 2 years difference, you are a creep.

10-13-2002, 01:23 PM	#7
bonsor Minion of Satan Location: midwest Posts: 8,771	There's a girl in my lab group who's 17. She's dating a 25 year old guy who's engaged. She sees nothing wrong with it. My frist girlfriend dated the guy before me when she was 14 and he was 18. It used to bother me tremendously, but I've become so accustomed it happening around me that I've just learned to accept it. But if I ever have a kid, I'd rather have a boy, specifically for this reason.

10-13-2002, 01:29 PM	#9
Sepiae is a modern day sex camel Location: Boston, baby Posts: 7,662	My parents got married the day after my dad turned 22. My mom was 25. They just celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary. When I was 15, I tried to date an older guy. Did not work at all. Four years when it is 22 and 26 isn't a big deal. When it is 15 and 19 it is. If you two are looking for pretty much the same thing, why not?

10-13-2002, 02:26 PM	#10
Ugly Posts: n/a	4 years is the cut off for me.

10-13-2002, 02:31 PM	#11
Mr. Rhinoceros Posts: n/a	Only if the guy is 16 and the girl is 12.

10-13-2002, 03:27 PM	#12
Random Female Apocalyptic Poster Location: white folks' ghetto, San Diego Posts: 2,005	What Rhino said. and the other person. After you're 20, that all kind of goes away because most 20 year olds are adults and can mingle effectively in the adult world. If this is true for you, then you could probably be fine with dating people up to 10 years older than you. Older than that and you have the whole "i'm dating an old person" thing to deal with, and that's simply NOT a good thing unless it's just for fun.

10-13-2002, 04:05 PM	#13
MstrGhost Apocalyptic Poster Location: Portugal Posts: 2,805	10 + 14

10-13-2002, 04:05 PM	#14
Apart Apocalyptic Poster Posts: 1,039	girls like that are low self esteem attention cunts. and obviously since you're asking here on netphoria, no...there aint a damn thing wrong with it!! hehehe. its cool to be slutty. strike a pose

10-13-2002, 05:07 PM	#17
Affect Fuck Location: xxx Posts: 5,360	No, it's not a problem at all.

10-14-2002, 04:44 PM	#20
Squashing Pineapples Banned Location: I'm outta here! Posts: 2,774	age isn't a big deal if you are not a pedophile