I'm about to tell my gf to fuck off! - Page 2

bonsor · 05-27-2003, 09:36 AM

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Originally posted by Human Replica Droid
No way! Read the bitch's email and don't feel sorry for it.

The point ISN'T that he's reading her mail, the point is... she's emailing her ex. Who gives a damn how he found out? What's worse? Someone snooping through your spam, or finding out you might be being cheated on?

if you can't respect someone by staying out of their shit, then it's over. being in a relationship with someone you can't respect is just unhealthy.

bonsor · 05-27-2003, 09:37 AM

and infidelity is something completely different. that's a matter of trust, and trusting anyone to do anything is one of the stupidest things you could ever do.

Human Replica Droid · 05-27-2003, 09:38 AM

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Originally posted by ******
if you can't respect someone by staying out of their shit, then it's over. being in a relationship with someone you can't respect is just unhealthy.

Well, I agree - it's probably better for them to just break up, because it's obviously too screwed up at this point to last. However, I'm saying his was the lesser of two evils.

beef curtains · 05-27-2003, 09:43 AM

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Originally posted by Squashing Pineapples
because she knows that he will never travel from California to Seattle just for her.

You live in Seattle? Have you posted under another name??

obscured01 · 05-27-2003, 10:19 AM

Everyone does stupid things. It just depends on how commited both of you are to trying to fix the problems in the relationship and make things better. Incidents like this can really make or break you two as a couple... yeah both things are bad to do, yeah they can screw everything up, but if both of you work hard to be honest with eachother from now on and if you two want the relationship to work, everything can be a-ok.

You sound like you really love her, which is awesome and she's lucky to be loved so much. Just make sure you're not wasting your time and energy on someone who doesn't love you or care for you as much and who isn't truly sorry for what she did.

Ugly · 05-27-2003, 11:20 AM

If you kill her it’ll show how much you love her. Just like O.J. He really loved Nicole and he proved it too.

Affect · 05-27-2003, 12:15 PM

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Originally posted by Human Replica Droid
No way! Read the bitch's email and don't feel sorry for it.

The point ISN'T that he's reading her mail, the point is... she's emailing her ex. Who gives a damn how he found out? What's worse? Someone snooping through your spam, or finding out you might be being cheated on?

Sounds like something you've had experience with. Otherwise you wouldn't rationalize it.

shaniqua · 05-27-2003, 01:33 PM

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Originally posted by dusty
i agree.
i love how everyone else on this board (brad aside) thinks that there is nothing wrong with snooping into a significant others' things.

not really.

actually, i broke up with my last boyfriend partly because he was going through my emails and private livejournal entries because he'd figured out my password. i was PISSED.

it is forgiveable, though. eventually.

Human Replica Droid · 05-27-2003, 01:35 PM

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Originally posted by Affect
Sounds like something you've had experience with. Otherwise you wouldn't rationalize it.

AND I also wouldn't be so "Amen!" about it.

sickbadthing · 05-27-2003, 01:43 PM

I bet there's a circus perfoming dwarf involved in all of this somehow.

Lie · 05-27-2003, 02:58 PM

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Originally posted by sickbadthing
I bet there's a circus perfoming dwarf involved in all of this somehow.

The ex-boyfriend?

sickbadthing · 05-27-2003, 03:02 PM

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Originally posted by Lie

The ex-boyfriend?

Man I'd be writing him e-mails too. Who doesn't want to cuddle with a dwarf?

cap'n jazz · 05-27-2003, 03:04 PM

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Originally posted by shaunna

actually, i broke up with my last boyfriend partly because he was going through my emails and private livejournal entries because he'd figured out my password.

oh, my ex-girlfriend did that! whatacunt.

Nimrod's Son · 05-27-2003, 03:05 PM

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Originally posted by cap'n jazz

oh, my ex-girlfriend did that! whatacunt.

You guys should make your passwords more complex then "smashingpumpkins".

cap'n jazz · 05-27-2003, 03:08 PM

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Originally posted by sickbadthing

Man I'd be writing him e-mails too. Who doesn't want to cuddle with a dwarf?

http://www.whatareyouchicken.com/images/hmm.jpg

cap'n jazz · 05-27-2003, 03:11 PM

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Originally posted by Nimrod's Son
You guys should make your passwords more complex then "smashingpumpkins".

Whatever!

neopryn · 05-27-2003, 04:11 PM

Fuck bitches.

TheJoker · 05-27-2003, 10:24 PM

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Originally posted by neopryn
Fuck bitches.

but life ain't nothin but bitches and money

Random Female · 05-27-2003, 10:42 PM

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Originally posted by Squashing Pineapples

I don't thing so, you know why? She didn't seem surprised AT ALL that I read her emails, which leds me to the point that it was her intention in the first place.

She knows I'm freaking jelous. Maybe she was testing HOW jelous.

aww, she knows you're jealous, so it makes it OK? She didn't seem surprised, but what if she did? What the fuck? Take responsibilities for your own actions. Be the better man, etc etc. I agree with some of the others... you never snoop in another adult's personal things.

neopryn · 05-27-2003, 10:59 PM

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Originally posted by TheJoker

but life ain't nothin but bitches and money

That was my 2nd choice for a reply.

meow · 05-28-2003, 01:12 AM

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Originally posted by ******
trusting anyone to do anything is one of the stupidest things you could ever do.

you are so right

Squashing Pineapples · 05-28-2003, 01:58 AM

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Originally posted by Random Female
aww, she knows you're jealous, so it makes it OK?

That's not the point. And if I know that she likes hurting me because of my jealousy problem, that I don't wanna be with her. But that is not the situation...

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Originally posted by Random Female
She didn't seem surprised, but what if she did?

Then she would have a pretty great reason to break up with me, and I would have to accept that.

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Originally posted by Random Female
I agree with some of the others... you never snoop in another adult's personal things.

Yeah, I kinda agree with that too. But I also believe that you just don't leave your opened diary on your bed if you don't want another person to read. Some people (like me) are curious by nature and it's not really a matter of "trust"...

Squashing Pineapples · 05-28-2003, 02:06 AM

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Originally posted by shaunna
actually, i broke up with my last boyfriend partly because he was going through my emails and private livejournal entries because he'd figured out my password. i was PISSED.

Yeah, but in your case he had to figure out your password because you didn't give him, so it was likely that he was sitting in front of the computer trying to figure out your password to know the 'hidden' stuff about you. I would be pissed off too.

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Originally posted by shaunna
it is forgiveable, though. eventually.

It is. If you guys loved each other for real, you can always have ability to forgive.

Squashing Pineapples · 05-28-2003, 02:15 AM

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Originally posted by blackfaerie
how much do you care for her?

A lot! She's like the other half of my own life!

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Originally posted by blackfaerie
what exactly did she say in the emails? i'm not asking for juicy details, i'm just curious as to what she said to him that got you so pissed off.

Her ex-boyfriend was telling how he miss sex and 'cuddling' with her. And she replied that she could use some 'cuddling' (only) with him and invited him to her birthday which is in like 5 days.

She said to me in the phone that she knows that he would NEVER go visit her because he lives like 1000 miles away and she believes that they'll never meet each other ever again. That's why she keeps feeding their realtionship (if there's one). Plus, she only said 'cuddling' and she says there's nothing wrong with that.

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Originally posted by blackfaerie
or is it just the fact that she was talking to him in the first place?

No. This really doesn't bother me as long as they remain friends only. I don't have the right to say who she can be friend with.

Squashing Pineapples · 05-28-2003, 02:20 AM

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Originally posted by Affect
Not true. She's done shit like this in the past. He's known about it.

No. She never really cheated on me. That story was that she shared a bed (they only slept) with a gay guy she that went to her college and had no place to sleep. I freaked out at the time, but now I see that it wasn't really a big deal. In fact I've slept with girls before, and that doesn't mean sex.

Squashing Pineapples · 05-28-2003, 02:26 AM

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Originally posted by obscured01
Everyone does stupid things. It just depends on how commited both of you are to trying to fix the problems in the relationship and make things better. Incidents like this can really make or break you two as a couple... yeah both things are bad to do, yeah they can screw everything up, but if both of you work hard to be honest with eachother from now on and if you two want the relationship to work, everything can be a-ok.

That's exactly the way I think.

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Originally posted by obscured01
You sound like you really love her, which is awesome and she's lucky to be loved so much. Just make sure you're not wasting your time and energy on someone who doesn't love you or care for you as much and who isn't truly sorry for what she did.

I really love her, and I do know she loves me back for real. That's why we can always work things out when things go bad.

FearFactory · 05-28-2003, 03:00 AM

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Originally posted by Squashing Pineapples

Yeah, I kinda agree with that too. But I also believe that you just don't leave your opened diary on your bed if you don't want another person to read. Some people (like me) are curious by nature and it's not really a matter of "trust"...

I disagree.

Just because someone left an open diary does not mean that you have to read it. It is still an invasion of privacy unless she specifically tells you that it's okay. Did she ever read you excerpts from the diary? No? I didn't think so. dusty has 4 backpacks of her personal writings at my house right now. She asked me not to read them, and I haven't even been tempted. In fact, now is the first time I really even thought about the fact that they were here.

Stop making excuses as to why you think that what you did was right. Stand up like a real man and admit that you are at fault. The things she said to her ex may have been wrong, but you had no right to view them without her permission.

Squashing Pineapples · 05-28-2003, 03:33 AM

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Originally posted by FearFactory

Stop making excuses as to why you think that what you did was right. Stand up like a real man and admit that you are at fault.

I've never said I did the right thing. I was just pointing out that it wasn't entirely wrong.
Believe me, I would be mad if someone read my emails too. But I wouldn't make it easier from anyone to read it. Not that there is something there that would compromise me though...

Jaggie · 05-28-2003, 04:17 AM

I think its all kinda a mess. You shouldn't ever feel the need to spy on her and you shouldn't have had to stumble onto what you did. Why did you look at her e-mail? Obviously you felt you couldn't trust her. That alone means your relationship is quite shallow. The fact that your invasion yielded the results it did says even less about your relationship. She wants to get back together with her ex just to cuddle? That's kinda strange to me. It seems that trust has broken down on so many levels as to be nearly irreparable. If you really want to save your friendship, I'd amicably get out of the relationship now, as it's only going to go down hill. Consider this, even if she forgives you and you forgive her, what will you think the next time she looks at a guy? What will she think the next time she sends an e-mail? You have justified in your own mind why you were right in doing what you did, and in an effort to mend the relationship you are justifying what you found. That's pretty sad. I hope you're able to find a resolution that makes you happy though.

STFU · 05-28-2003, 09:05 AM

I agree with some. You had a problem with jealousy prior to this incident. She, wanting to cuddle with her x is just wrong. Searching for stuff that might make you feel right in your suspicion is wrong. I firmly believe in separate spaces. Or are you looking for evidence so you can be the one to end the relationship. This is better than her ending it, right?

05-27-2003, 11:20 AM	#36
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05-28-2003, 04:17 AM	#59
Jaggie Ownz Posts: 914	I think its all kinda a mess. You shouldn't ever feel the need to spy on her and you shouldn't have had to stumble onto what you did. Why did you look at her e-mail? Obviously you felt you couldn't trust her. That alone means your relationship is quite shallow. The fact that your invasion yielded the results it did says even less about your relationship. She wants to get back together with her ex just to cuddle? That's kinda strange to me. It seems that trust has broken down on so many levels as to be nearly irreparable. If you really want to save your friendship, I'd amicably get out of the relationship now, as it's only going to go down hill. Consider this, even if she forgives you and you forgive her, what will you think the next time she looks at a guy? What will she think the next time she sends an e-mail? You have justified in your own mind why you were right in doing what you did, and in an effort to mend the relationship you are justifying what you found. That's pretty sad. I hope you're able to find a resolution that makes you happy though. __________________ i To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 5 or greater. You currently have 0 posts. all my years, been chasing all my fears To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 5 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

05-28-2003, 09:05 AM	#60
STFU Demi-God Location: Ouachita Mountains Posts: 438	I agree with some. You had a problem with jealousy prior to this incident. She, wanting to cuddle with her x is just wrong. Searching for stuff that might make you feel right in your suspicion is wrong. I firmly believe in separate spaces. Or are you looking for evidence so you can be the one to end the relationship. This is better than her ending it, right? __________________ I wish I knew what I was looking for. Whatever it isn't I've found that many times.

05-27-2003, 09:37 AM	#32
bonsor Minion of Satan Location: midwest Posts: 8,771	and infidelity is something completely different. that's a matter of trust, and trusting anyone to do anything is one of the stupidest things you could ever do.

05-27-2003, 10:19 AM	#35
obscured01 Minion of Satan Location: DFW Tejas Posts: 9,693	Everyone does stupid things. It just depends on how commited both of you are to trying to fix the problems in the relationship and make things better. Incidents like this can really make or break you two as a couple... yeah both things are bad to do, yeah they can screw everything up, but if both of you work hard to be honest with eachother from now on and if you two want the relationship to work, everything can be a-ok. You sound like you really love her, which is awesome and she's lucky to be loved so much. Just make sure you're not wasting your time and energy on someone who doesn't love you or care for you as much and who isn't truly sorry for what she did.

05-27-2003, 01:43 PM	#40
sickbadthing Out fart the hottie! Location: I have super gonorrhoea Posts: 24,316	I bet there's a circus perfoming dwarf involved in all of this somehow.

05-27-2003, 04:11 PM	#47
neopryn let's see your penis! Location: i had a few beers, but i'm cool to drive Posts: 31,862	Fuck bitches.