What is your biggest regret?

[Nimrod's Son]

Originally posted by mpp



wow, i can't imagine how much that must suck

Yeah, at least you'd get her stuff and can play the whole "widower" card with the ladies.

[dishpan]

Originally posted by Nimrod's Son
Yeah, at least you'd get her stuff and can play the whole "widower" card with the ladies.

agreed. since we werent married yet and she didnt have a will, legally it was all to her parents. they were really understanding though, they involved\consulted me in almost every decision in the hospital and with the funeral and all that. and they let me have whatever i want of hers, to this day. everyone who knew us just considered us married, even all the parents, and that was really evident during her eulogies. but it sucks when i have to explain stuff to people who dont know, because i feel like i am a widower but i have to explain why. sigh
dan

[AndySlash]

Originally posted by obscured01

- Never getting the guts to meet my father. I've always said I'll take the initiative to meet him later, when I get married, when I have a home and something to show for myself, so I could say "yeah, look at me, I turned out okay, even without you" - yet I think I've waited so long I don't think I could ever take that initiative now, because I don't know if I ever will get to that point where I am proud enough of myself and my life to say that to him.

Have you never seen him? I've never seen/talked to my biological father- he left my mom during pregnancy. I've often thought about what you're saying , but in the end I end up saying I don't care. No point in caring if he doesn't, you know?

My regret is probably getting back together with my ex numerous times after breaking up. Should have stayed apart the first time. I'd probably be having a successful relationship with someone else if I did.

[Nimrod's Son]

Originally posted by dishpan



agreed. since we werent married yet and she didnt have a will, legally it was all to her parents. they were really understanding though, they involved\consulted me in almost every decision in the hospital and with the funeral and all that. and they let me have whatever i want of hers, to this day. everyone who knew us just considered us married, even all the parents, and that was really evident during her eulogies. but it sucks when i have to explain stuff to people who dont know, because i feel like i am a widower but i have to explain why. sigh
dan

Wait, you didn't have her lick the envelopes for the wedding invitations, did you?
http://www.cnn.com/SHOWBIZ/9712/26/s...san.george.jpg

[dishpan]

Originally posted by Nimrod's Son
Wait, you didn't have her lick the envelopes for the wedding invitations, did you?

i'm the biggest seinfeld fan on earth, but i'm getting sick of this joke.

[obscured01]

Originally posted by AndySlash


Have you never seen him? I've never seen/talked to my biological father- he left my mom during pregnancy. I've often thought about what you're saying , but in the end I end up saying I don't care. No point in caring if he doesn't, you know?

No, I've never seen or spoke to him before. I have a picture of him holding me when I was a day old that my mother kept... that's all I have though. My father did the same thing... although he did come to the hospital when I was born, and he did pay child support, every single month for 18 years, so I've got to give him credit for that.

Your attitude is kind of how I always felt about it... why should I want to meet or see him if he obviously doesn't want to meet or see me?

Although I don't want to go through my whole life saying I've never meet or seen my father...

[AndySlash]

Originally posted by obscured01
No, I've never seen or spoke to him before. I have a picture of him holding me when I was a day old that my mother kept... that's all I have though. My father did the same thing... although he did come to the hospital when I was born, and he did pay child support, every single month for 18 years, so I've got to give him credit for that.

My mom has a pic of my father from their job at Pizza Hut back in the day- before I was born, obviously- and I know that he is/was a police officer in Little Rock. You're lucky about the child support thing, my mom had to fight for it. And even after we started getting it- I was 14 by then- because we had been on welfare we only saw $50 of it a month.

So I'm a little less worried about whether I live my life without ever seeing him. But I do go through phases where I get curious. Maybe when I'm older my curiosity will get the best of me. Who knows?

What bothers me more is that my last name is not my father's or my mother's maiden name- it is of a man my mom married hastily late in her pregnancy, and of course they divorced within a year. I've contemplated changing it many times to my mom's maiden name, but it seems such a hassle. I've decided I don't want my wife to take my name and ideally I'd like to give my kids my mother's maiden name, but I can see how that might be a problem later on. :/

[noir cat]

1. Dwelling on regrets.

2. Not being an active person and being the weight that I am. Although it's not all my fault b/c my family shut me off to the world for most of my life until I started doing something about it around the age of 18. By then it's too late and I already have all these horrible habits that are hard to break.

3. Not being able to kill my family due to consequences (like being in jail for life, electric chair and so on).

4. Not being able to live up to my intellectual potential, again #2.


And.

Originally posted by obscured01
Well, I'd written out, like 2 paragraphs of shit and then the server decided to forget I was logged in and deleted everything I wrote. So blah. That is so damn annoying!

That's what the back button is good for. It's happened to me a couple of times, but the back button usually helps. Keep that in mind for the future, I know how frustrating it is. : )

[noir cat]

Also the way I lost my virginity.

And that I went to a shitty high school instead of a magnet school. I really should have went to an art school.

[obscured01]

Originally posted by AndySlash


My mom has a pic of my father from their job at Pizza Hut back in the day- before I was born, obviously- and I know that he is/was a police officer in Little Rock. You're lucky about the child support thing, my mom had to fight for it. And even after we started getting it- I was 14 by then- because we had been on welfare we only saw $50 of it a month.

So I'm a little less worried about whether I live my life without ever seeing him. But I do go through phases where I get curious. Maybe when I'm older my curiosity will get the best of me. Who knows?

What bothers me more is that my last name is not my father's or my mother's maiden name- it is of a man my mom married hastily late in her pregnancy, and of course they divorced within a year. I've contemplated changing it many times to my mom's maiden name, but it seems such a hassle. I've decided I don't want my wife to take my name and ideally I'd like to give my kids my mother's maiden name, but I can see how that might be a problem later on. :/

I totally understand about the curious part... I think that's the main reason I really have any interest in meeting him.

Edit: - Before you got married, you might change your name to your mother's madien name... then your kids would have that, and it wouldn't be something you were uncomfortable with.

Aaah yes... the name thing is a mess. I was kind of in the same situation. My father gave me his last name, so I had my mother's lastname (MacLeod, which was actually her ex husband before my father's name) hypanated with my father's last name (Garcia) so my name was Sarah MacLeod-Garcia .... until my mom got super angry with him, and had my name just changed to MacLeod - which is fine, because I think it's a cool name, and we stayed in contact with my mother's ex husband's father, so I didn't mind having that name. Actually I think it's kind of sad that when I marry, I'll loose that name, because the name from that branch will die with me because there's no other children or anything.

[obscured01]

Originally posted by undivinemartyr
1. Dwelling on regrets.

And.
That's what the back button is good for. It's happened to me a couple of times, but the back button usually helps. Keep that in mind for the future, I know how frustrating it is. : )

I have a bad habit of dwelling on regrets

And I hit the back button!! All the text I wrote was gone... I hate that, it's uber annoying.

[NeverTonightA]

dwelling on shit is also my problem.

esp. girls i didn't go out with in middle and high school, i always think my life would have been different if i had trusted people more and stopped listening to my friends.

too late....