I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me....

I have been seeing this girl for 3 years now. Her name is Ann. I met Ann while I was working in a local record store. We had some small talk and found that we liked a lot of the same music and ended up dating. Forward a year and she moved in with me.

So for the past two years we have been sharing a computer and recently I have noticed that she's staying up late and supossedly doing "homework". I've gotten out of bed a few times to go pee and get some water and she gets so guarded around the computer... and I see her on AIM. Then she has been doing "special projects" for one of her classes and she's staying after school. I'm sitting at home most nights out of the week and I can't get ahold of her because she always has her cell phone off. I have asked her to leave it on but she says she always forgets. She never forgets when her friends want to get ahold of her. She says that she's going to the library (on campus) but I don't think she's really there.

Should I follow her one night? Should I try to snoop into her email? I don't want to make her mad at me but I don't think something is right here.

Opinions are appreciated.

I would just ask her flat out "Are you cheating on me?" Then if she asks why, tell her why you think she is. Of course, this would depend on what type of a relationship you two have... but if you asked her, maybe she'd tell you what was going on.. if she cares anything about the relationship.



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smell her breath when she gets back

Originally posted by bittertrance:
smell her breath when she gets back

I think I know what you're saying but that won't happen because we both happen to find sodomy morally offensive.

Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:
I think I know what you're saying but that won't happen because we both happen to find sodomy morally offensive.

what???

"I don't think something is right here."

Let's see: she's guarded around her instant messages, she never gets ahold of you but always gets ahold of her friends, she'll go off for hours at a time and not tell you where she is ...

Yep, everything seems hunky-dory.

You're probably not a stupid person considering you have the mental capacity to write in fluent English, so stop acting stupid, take charge of your situation, ask her what's up, and--well, I hate to put it this way, but be prepared for whatever she's going to say. Doesn't sound like homegirl's very interested anymore, does it?

Sorry to be so forthright, but if she's supposed to be your best friend (or at least one of them) and she's treating you like this, you have every right to know what's going on, but you can't expect it to be peaches and cream.

Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:

This might be the reason why heh.

Must be an A-rab. Head = Sodomy.

Keep telling yourself that she doesn't believe in sodomy.

Talk to her about everything. Let her know how you feel in a non accusatory way.

Old School magic the gathering rox

Originally posted by sawdust restaurants:
"I don't think something is right here."

Let's see: she's guarded around her instant messages, she never gets ahold of you but always gets ahold of her friends, she'll go off for hours at a time and not tell you where she is ...

Yep, everything seems hunky-dory.

You're probably not a stupid person considering you have the mental capacity to write in fluent English, so stop acting stupid, take charge of your situation, ask her what's up, and--well, I hate to put it this way, but be prepared for whatever she's going to say. Doesn't sound like homegirl's very interested anymore, does it?

Sorry to be so forthright, but if she's supposed to be your best friend (or at least one of them) and she's treating you like this, you have every right to know what's going on, but you can't expect it to be peaches and cream.

I feel that if I have to confront her that I must present some kind of evidence... otherwise it seems like I'm making something out of nothing. It is true that I have questioned her, but she always has (what I may think is) an excuse. I'm getting to the point where I may spend some money for a private detective. We are engaged and are supposed to marry next spring. I don't know if that's going to be the case now though.

Bitches ain't shit...

Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:
I think I know what you're saying but that won't happen because we both happen to find sodomy morally offensive.

so you're convinced that she believes head is morally offensive, but you can't be sure that she's not cheating on you? man, you've got this girl pinned down.

Originally posted by funnygeezus:
so you're convinced that she believes head is morally offensive, but you can't be sure that she's not cheating on you? man, you've got this girl pinned down.

I don't know for sure that she's cheating on me. I have circumstantial evidence. Sodomy on the other hand is something that we both have no interest in because we have no desire to go to hell after we die. Why go to hell for a few minutes of pleasure?

communcation is the key to any relationship.

u can either
A) Ask her flat our

B) Snoop Around to find out A) she is really doing what she says B) She is cheating or C) She catches you and things go bad due to lack of trust

C) You just let it eat you from the inside and see what happens in 2 months

oh deary me...oh deary, deary me...

Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:
I don't know for sure that she's cheating on me. I have circumstantial evidence. Sodomy on the other hand is something that we both have no interest in because we have no desire to go to hell after we die. Why go to hell for a few minutes of pleasure?

now i'm almost sure you're a troll. but for kicks, i'll continue:

hey, head isn't on the big g's top 10 list, adultery is. just out of curiosity, what major religous organization do you give money to each week?

Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:


Sodomy on the other hand is something that we both have no interest in because we have no desire to go to hell after we die. Why go to hell for a few minutes of pleasure?

Um...because hell doesn't exist. The Roman Gods weren't real. The Egyptian Gods weren't real. And your Christian God isn't real.

Originally posted by funnygeezus:
now i'm almost sure you're a troll. but for kicks, i'll continue:

hey, head isn't on the big g's top 10 list, adultery is. just out of curiosity, what major religous organization do you give money to each week?

I'm a Baptist.

isnt that card game considered satanic?

Originally posted by bittertrance:
isnt that card game considered satanic?

I wish

Originally posted by bittertrance:
isnt that card game considered satanic?

i dunno about other people who play, but personally i consider the baron sengir my lord and savior.

Originally posted by bittertrance:
isnt that card game considered satanic?

Nope. Only Dungeons and Dragons, and that's only if you're using the Advanced D & D monster guide. Also, you can use 10 sided die, but the 20 sided die is off limits. It has to do with numerology. Satanists use numbers for contacting demons. Multisided die are one of the ways of doing this. You wouldn't be able to get me within 10 feet of a 20 sided die if my life depended on it. I have no desire to be taken over by a demon.

You are seriously an idiot.

Originally posted by obscured01:
I would just ask her flat out "Are you cheating on me?" Then if she asks why, tell her why you think she is. Of course, this would depend on what type of a relationship you two have... but if you asked her, maybe she'd tell you what was going on.. if she cares anything about the relationship.

when you do this though, be prepaired for the answer. i went through pretty much the same thing two years ago, and it still hurts.

http://www.avalon.nf.ca/~rosemd/drink1a.JPG
this is a shot my basement after i had some friends (Orchestra included) over last summer. i believe the monstrous manual and several d20's are visible. oh well, demons and eventual hell for me, ROCK ON!

[This message has been edited by funnygeezus (edited 07-05-2002).]

Originally posted by Affectation:
You are seriously an idiot.

You may say so, however I had a friend who played almost 10 years ago. Apparently his parents found him in his room late at night in a black cloak and had some candles lit with some incense burning. He was chanting things and when they tried to interrupt him, they felt a cold wind actually push them out of the room! They called the police but the police couldn't get in beacuse the door was blocked (by something). It wasn't until they called a priest that they were able to enter the room and he ended up expelling a demon from his body. His parents found the Advanced D & D monster manual and SEVERAL 20 sided die. Even after the kid had the demons taken out, he had problems at school and eventually had to be taken out and was sent to a mental hospital.

These things happen, but they're not talked about often. I am a believer and I best not mess with things that provoke demons.

Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:

You may say so, however I had a friend who played almost 10 years ago. Apparently his parents found him in his room late at night in a black cloak and had some candles lit with some incense burning. He was chanting things and when they tried to interrupt him, they felt a cold wind actually push them out of the room! They called the police but the police couldn't get in beacuse the door was blocked (by something). It wasn't until they called a priest that they were able to enter the room and he ended up expelling a demon from his body. His parents found the Advanced D & D monster manual and SEVERAL 20 sided die. Even after the kid had the demons taken out, he had problems at school and eventually had to be taken out and was sent to a mental hospital.

These things happen, but they're not talked about often. I am a believer and I best not mess with things that provoke demons.

Me and funny better get rid of our 20 SIDED DICE!!!!!
Or the cops might come with a priest you trolling mook

Originally posted by Orchestra:
Me and funny better get rid of our 20 SIDED DICE!!!!!
Or the cops might come with a priest you trolling mook

Make fun of me or whatever. I'm not a troll.

Originally posted by funnygeezus:
http://www.avalon.nf.ca/~rosemd/drink1a.JPG
this is a shot my basement after i had some friends (Orchestra included) over last summer. i believe the monstrous manual and several d20's are visible. oh well, demons and eventual hell for me, ROCK ON!

[This message has been edited by funnygeezus (edited 07-05-2002).]

The Cheezies and nintendo power really make me relieze how much of a loser I really am

Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:
. I'm not a troll.

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