I got engaged - Page 2

Black Somalian · 01-19-2005, 04:43 AM

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Originally posted by barden

See? You fucking idiot.
Do you not read fucking threads you post in? You’re such a stupid fuck. I hope you choke on a dick.

Fuck off, you stupid african cunt.

No one can stand you or your stupid posts/ posting style, now go exploit some black people.

barden · 01-19-2005, 04:53 AM

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Originally posted by Black Somalian

Fuck off, you stupid african cunt.

No one can stand you or your stupid posts/ posting style, now go exploit some black people.

That’s just great.
What’s it like to be challenged, mentally? Is it fun, in your hole?

What’s it like to be a shallow, narrow minded ingrate? What’s it like to have a brain that remains un-evolved from the 50’s racist mentality? Is it nice living in the past? How do you delude yourself? What’s it’s like to be a fucking stupid piece of useless shit.

I love arguing with trolls. You already have the upper hand, since the person you’re arguing with is too much of a coward to come out and say it with their actual name.

Black Somalian · 01-19-2005, 04:55 AM

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Originally posted by barden

That’s just great.
What’s it like to be challenged, mentally? Is it fun, in your hole?

What’s it like to be a shallow, narrow minded ingrate? What’s it like to have a brain that remains un-evolved from the 50’s racist mentality? Is it nice living in the past? How do you delude yourself? What’s it’s like to be a fucking stupid piece of useless shit.

I love arguing with trolls. You already have the upper hand, since the person you’re arguing with is too much of a coward to come out and say it with their actual name.

I am not somebodys troll, you bearded idiot.

Why Am I So Ugly? · 01-19-2005, 05:52 AM

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Originally posted by Affectation
I think that it's pretty lame that in this day and age your parents are still setting you up for a marriage. If this is legit, it more than likely will never work out. Why don't you find someone that you can love?

i will have plenty of time to get to know her and then love her. the divorce rate of couples who dated before getting married is pretty high so i guess either way im screwed :-p

Sam and Mike · 01-19-2005, 07:55 AM

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Originally posted by Why Am I So Ugly?

i will have plenty of time to get to know her and then love her. the divorce rate of couples who dated before getting married is pretty high so i guess either way im screwed :-p

There was actually a study done a few years ago about arranged marriages. Divorce rates for arranged marriages are extremely low. And the majority of the couples claim to be very happy.

But, uh, this sounds like a joke to me.

Liquid-J · 01-19-2005, 01:20 PM

i am not joking, siraj

Nimrod's Son · 01-19-2005, 01:51 PM

1 - I don't believe it

2 - If it's true, you have no balls at all to accept an arranged marriage

3 - She doesn't look Pakistani whasoever

01-19-2005, 02:38 PM

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Originally posted by Sam and Mike

There was actually a study done a few years ago about arranged marriages. Divorce rates for arranged marriages are extremely low. And the majority of the couples claim to be very happy.

But, uh, this sounds like a joke to me.

Probably because people in arranged marriages come from religions and cultures that would completely shun the individuals if they did divorce?

alexthestampede · 02:50 PM

While my hair was still cut straight across my forehead
I played about the front gate, pulling flowers.
You came by on bamboo stilts, playing horse,
You walked about my seat, playing with blue plums.
And we went on living in the village of Chokan:
Two small people, without dislike or suspicion.

At fourteen I married My Lord you.
I never laughed, being bashful.
Lowering my head, I looked at the wall.
Called to, a thousand times, I never looked back.

At fifteen I stopped scowling,
I desired my dust to be mingled with yours
Forever and forever and forever.
Why should I climb the lookout?

At sixteen you departed,
You went into far Ku-to-en, by the river of swirling eddies,
And you have been gone five months.
The monkeys make sorrowful noise overhead.

You dragged your feet when you went out.
By the gate now, the moss is grown, the different mosses,
Too deep to clear them away!
The leaves fall early this autumn, in wind.
The paired butterflies are already yellow with August
Over the grass in the West garden;
They hurt me. I grow older.
If you are coming down through the narrows of the river Kiang,
Please let me know beforehand,
And I will come out to meet you
As far as Cho-fo-Sa.

jczeroman · 03:16 PM

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Originally posted by Why Am I So Ugly?

i will have plenty of time to get to know her and then love her. the divorce rate of couples who dated before getting married is pretty high so i guess either way im screwed :-p

I believe only 1/25 arranged marriages ends in divorce.

I hope she's one of these people. I think it would be fitting:
http://www.minaret.org/

sppunk · 01-19-2005, 03:17 PM

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Originally posted by jczeroman

I believe only 1/25 arranged marriages ends in divorce.

I hope she's one of these people. I think it would be fitting:
http://www.minaret.org/

That's because the majority of religions who still practice arranged marriages don't allow divorce.

alexthestampede · 01-19-2005, 03:19 PM

i wonder how many of those internet russian bride marriages work out

i went to a site once just for laughs but it was kind of saddening to see girls my age asking for a guy "25-50, with good financial situation and will be nice"

neopryn · 01-19-2005, 03:20 PM

she'd get it

alexthestampede · 01-19-2005, 03:22 PM

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Originally posted by sppunk
That's because the majority of religions who still practice arranged marriages don't allow divorce.

when a group of your elders decides who would be a good match for you and you both go into it whole heartedly and modestly, things probably will work out. chances for compatability are higher than with someone that happens to be a fun date.

geothestampede · 01-19-2005, 04:24 PM

I've seen that girls picture before too..

who is that?!?!

jczeroman · 01-19-2005, 04:51 PM

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Originally posted by sppunk
That's because the majority of religions who still practice arranged marriages don't allow divorce.

Hmmm... didn't think about that.

Nimrod's Son · 01-19-2005, 04:58 PM

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Originally posted by jczeroman

Hmmm... didn't think about that.

Also in most of those religions, the woman doesn't really get a say about a lot of things, such as her manner of dress, what she does on a daily basis, how often she is beaten, etc.

Why Am I So Ugly? · 01-19-2005, 05:27 PM

thanks to everyone who wished me well.
it has been my plan to get a girl to go out with me the usual way (flirting, dating, etc.) just to prove to myself that im not socially inept. I wanted to do this before i inevitably got an arranged marriage. I dont know if ill regret not being able to prove that to myself down the road. I hope not.

anyways heres another picture of sara.

Sam and Mike · 01-19-2005, 09:03 PM

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Originally posted by sppunk
That's because the majority of religions who still practice arranged marriages don't allow divorce.

This is true. However, particularly in America, there are a lot of people who are choosing to be part of an arranged marriage...they are not forced into it. There was a huge thing about this on 20/20 awhile back. And the reason why arranged marriages work so well is committment.

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The advantage that arranged marriages have is that there is no illusion of love to begin with. There is a shared idea that the marriage will work because they are going to make it work. And in so doing, love often arises. Love, for them, is not a lightning bolt that hits you from the sky, or the sweet sting of cupid's arrow. Love is a result of being committed to each other through thick and thin. Love is…commitment.

beef curtains · 01-19-2005, 09:58 PM

its hard to commit to something (someone) you know very little about.

an old coworker of mine had a semi-arranged marriage... his parents chose a group of suitable girls (back in india) and he spoke to a few of them online/over the phone, then flew over and met them all in person and chose one. at least both parties could then feel like they had a say in things.

alisonmonster · 01-19-2005, 10:31 PM

i studied arranged marriage in sociology - one of the reasons arranged marraiges often work very well is the fact that you have a lot of time to learn about each other - its like being together from the first date on. It tends to stay-erm-for the lack of a better term-fresher-longer. And the two people start growing with each other as opposed to finding themselves seperately - people start to learn to compromise and co operate together immediately creating less friction.

Whether you think this is a good thing or not is up to you , but its naive to think that all arranged marriages are bad or unequal.

Liquid-J · 01-19-2005, 10:32 PM

when's the wedding date, so i can make appropriate travel plans to make good on my threat/promise

lawson · 01-19-2005, 10:52 PM

i think marriages work based on the individuals involved level of commitment, and those cultures that arrange marriages have a very high level of commitment. on the other hand, i know a couple in my parent's neighborhood- not an arranged marriage but they are of that same culture... they won't get divorced but they hate each other. she's even a christian and he's a muslim and their sons take their mom's side on religion (they are both of pakistani origin)

Why Am I So Ugly? · 01-20-2005, 12:03 AM

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Originally posted by Liquid-J
when's the wedding date, so i can make appropriate travel plans to make good on my threat/promise

i dunno yet. probably not for a while.

jenn · 01-20-2005, 12:16 AM

congrats yo.

i read this yesterday and i thought you were joking..but it's really cool that you're not.

noir cat · 01-20-2005, 12:36 AM

QUICK, score with a few random chicks before you get hitched. Duuude.

But congratulations, she looks real hot.

01-19-2005, 02:48 PM	#39
alexthestampede Banned Location: I am from the sea! Posts: 4,947	GL with marriage. While my hair was still cut straight across my forehead I played about the front gate, pulling flowers. You came by on bamboo stilts, playing horse, You walked about my seat, playing with blue plums. And we went on living in the village of Chokan: Two small people, without dislike or suspicion. At fourteen I married My Lord you. I never laughed, being bashful. Lowering my head, I looked at the wall. Called to, a thousand times, I never looked back. At fifteen I stopped scowling, I desired my dust to be mingled with yours Forever and forever and forever. Why should I climb the lookout? At sixteen you departed, You went into far Ku-to-en, by the river of swirling eddies, And you have been gone five months. The monkeys make sorrowful noise overhead. You dragged your feet when you went out. By the gate now, the moss is grown, the different mosses, Too deep to clear them away! The leaves fall early this autumn, in wind. The paired butterflies are already yellow with August Over the grass in the West garden; They hurt me. I grow older. If you are coming down through the narrows of the river Kiang, Please let me know beforehand, And I will come out to meet you As far as Cho-fo-Sa. Last edited by alexthestampede : 01-19-2005 at 02:50 PM.

01-19-2005, 01:20 PM	#36
Liquid-J keeping it to a dull roar Location: san francisco, ca Posts: 12,824	i am not joking, siraj

01-19-2005, 01:51 PM	#37
Nimrod's Son Master of Karate and Friendship Location: in your butt Posts: 72,943	1 - I don't believe it 2 - If it's true, you have no balls at all to accept an arranged marriage 3 - She doesn't look Pakistani whasoever

01-19-2005, 03:19 PM	#42
alexthestampede Banned Location: I am from the sea! Posts: 4,947	i wonder how many of those internet russian bride marriages work out i went to a site once just for laughs but it was kind of saddening to see girls my age asking for a guy "25-50, with good financial situation and will be nice"

01-19-2005, 03:20 PM	#43
neopryn let's see your penis! Location: i had a few beers, but i'm cool to drive Posts: 31,862	she'd get it

01-19-2005, 04:24 PM	#45
geothestampede Pledge Location: oak cliff Posts: 230	I've seen that girls picture before too.. who is that?!?!

01-19-2005, 09:58 PM	#50
beef curtains Immortal Location: I like me so much better when you're naked Posts: 21,752	its hard to commit to something (someone) you know very little about. an old coworker of mine had a semi-arranged marriage... his parents chose a group of suitable girls (back in india) and he spoke to a few of them online/over the phone, then flew over and met them all in person and chose one. at least both parties could then feel like they had a say in things.

01-19-2005, 10:31 PM	#51
alisonmonster Minion of Satan Location: gasoline alley Posts: 9,019	i studied arranged marriage in sociology - one of the reasons arranged marraiges often work very well is the fact that you have a lot of time to learn about each other - its like being together from the first date on. It tends to stay-erm-for the lack of a better term-fresher-longer. And the two people start growing with each other as opposed to finding themselves seperately - people start to learn to compromise and co operate together immediately creating less friction. Whether you think this is a good thing or not is up to you , but its naive to think that all arranged marriages are bad or unequal.

01-19-2005, 10:32 PM	#52
Liquid-J keeping it to a dull roar Location: san francisco, ca Posts: 12,824	when's the wedding date, so i can make appropriate travel plans to make good on my threat/promise

01-19-2005, 10:52 PM	#53
lawson Apocalyptic Poster Location: raleigh Posts: 4,176	i think marriages work based on the individuals involved level of commitment, and those cultures that arrange marriages have a very high level of commitment. on the other hand, i know a couple in my parent's neighborhood- not an arranged marriage but they are of that same culture... they won't get divorced but they hate each other. she's even a christian and he's a muslim and their sons take their mom's side on religion (they are both of pakistani origin)

01-20-2005, 12:16 AM	#55
jenn Minion of Satan Location: new york Posts: 6,325	congrats yo. i read this yesterday and i thought you were joking..but it's really cool that you're not.

01-20-2005, 12:36 AM	#56
noir cat Socialphobic Location: Hicksville, NY Posts: 11,699	QUICK, score with a few random chicks before you get hitched. Duuude. But congratulations, she looks real hot.