how do you get someone annoying to stop calling you?

[spfreak]

ugh, so i got this person constantly calling me, but i don't like them at all..., she's got "issues" i wouldn't mind talkin if it were normal conversations... but the last conversation was

me: whats up?
her: nothing, had an awesome day today!
me: cool
her: im soooo happy
me: ... cool
her: yup
me: i gotta go, *which i really did hafta go*

***==***2 min later on***==***

her online: ugh i hate my self
me: whats wrong?
her online: life sux, i should kill myself
me: no, don't its bad
her online: i feel dizzy, i should stop cutting myself


thats pretty much what its like, happy on the phone, but then her weirdo side comes out.... its completely fuced up... i don't even know the god damn person... and i think she likes me :erm

she doesn't have my home number *thank god*, only my cell, but i ran out of minutes in the middle of december, and haven't baught minutes cuz i don't wanna pick up the phone and have her on the other end! .... ahhh!!!

what do i do!?

[BlueStar]

Ummm...when you see that it is her calling, don't answer the phone. Eventually, she'll probably get the hint and stop calling.

[Travis Meekz]

I believe it's "bought"

is she a friend? if not, who cares, just keep doing what your doing till she stops calling or cuts herself enough

[sawdust restaurants]

I'm sorry; things like this suck.

I can try and help since I've been through it a whole lot, but first, I'm curious. Why does she keep calling you if you don't even really know her? Where did you meet her and why do you think she keeps calling YOU as opposed to other people?

[Mason R Butler]

Try giving her advice on how to really get the job done. That'll stop that annoying calls faster than a Telezapper.

[sawdust restaurants]

Dude, guys. This girl is depressed as fuck. She needs help. I don't think she's going to stop calling--she's craving attention and she's already getting it. I doubt she'll get the hint.

[spfreak]

Originally posted by BlueStar
Ummm...when you see that it is her calling, don't answer the phone. Eventually, she'll probably get the hint and stop calling.

im too poor to afford call display on my cell phone

speaking of whihc, i had this crazy dream last nite that my cell phone bill came up to $5000+
which is screwd up cuz i hardly use my phone

but yeah, every day i get atleast 1-3 messages on my answering machine, and i never reply... she assumes that im busy

my assumption is that she likes me cuz im oh soo sexy right?? hehe so im gonna get one of my female friends to leave a message on my phone, and enxt time when i see her online, if she asks who it was, i'll say my gf

but thats weird and goin outta my way i want something simple and straight foreward....

[Affect]

Be direct. Tell her that you can't handle her calling you all of the time. Reinforce the relationship that you have with her. If it isn't anything, end the relationship. Try not to hurt her, but her emotional stability isn't your responsibility. Don't beat around the bush.

If you think it would be easier, do it through email. You can formulate your thoughts perfectly.

[spfreak]

Originally posted by sawdust restaurants
I'm sorry; things like this suck.

I can try and help since I've been through it a whole lot, but first, I'm curious. Why does she keep calling you if you don't even really know her? Where did you meet her and why do you think she keeps calling YOU as opposed to other people?

she got my number off an old friend's cell phone, i dun even talk to that person anymore, she saw a pic of me from an old year book, and commented saying im a "hottie" *im guessin she's blind too *
but yeah

[sawdust restaurants]

Originally posted by Affect
Try not to hurt her, but her emotional stability isn't your responsibility. Don't beat around the bush.

Wrong. He made it his responsibility by enabling her up to this point. He can't just back out now.

[spfreak]

Originally posted by Affect
Be direct. Tell her that you can't handle her calling you all of the time. Reinforce the relationship that you have with her. If it isn't anything, end the relationship. Try not to hurt her, but her emotional stability isn't your responsibility. Don't beat around the bush.

If you think it would be easier, do it through email. You can formulate your thoughts perfectly.

hmmmm thats not a bad idea

[Affect]

Originally posted by sawdust restaurants


Wrong. He made it his responsibility by enabling her up to this point. He can't just back out now.

Bullshit. He hasn't enabled her. He just hasn't told her to fuck off yet. He's given her the cold shoulder. He's avoided her as best he can. She is responsible for herself, as is he.

[spfreak]

Originally posted by sawdust restaurants


Wrong. He made it his responsibility by enabling her up to this point. He can't just back out now.

what?! i didn't enable nothing, i can't tell when gurls like me and when they don't, i thought she was being freindly, and she can be jus being friendly...

bah! gurls are oodles of trouble

[sawdust restaurants]

Originally posted by spfreak
she got my number off an old friend's cell phone, i dun even talk to that person anymore, she saw a pic of me from an old year book, and commented saying im a "hottie" *im guessin she's blind too *
but yeah

Okay, well, you saw what I just said.

I mean, I agree with affect said to a certain extent. You should be direct with her. But you shouldn't resort to just blowing her off until you've tried everything else, because whether you like it or not, you're entangled in this situation now, and it's a shitty thing to do to just blow somebody off like that. Especially somebody who obviously needs attention.

Instead of blowing her off immediately, you should try encouraging her to get help. Maybe even set an ultimatum, something like this:

"Look, I know you need somebody to talk to about this, and I understand your feelings. But I don't think I'm the person you should be talking to; I'm not qualified to handle this sort of thing. You really should get help from a professional. I can't help you out otherwise."

That way, she knows you're serious, and she has motivation to get help. If she still doesn't, then I think it's fair to just be blunt with her and tell her to quit calling; now you have justification, because you gave her a chance and she blew it.

[spfreak]

Originally posted by sawdust restaurants

That way, she knows you're serious, and she has motivation to get help. If she still doesn't, then I think it's fair to just be blunt with her and tell her to quit calling; now you have justification, because you gave her a chance and she blew it.

*sigh* i knew it'd come down to this
i hate being blunt and direct ppl get hurt when the truth comes out

but your right thnx

[sawdust restaurants]

Originally posted by spfreak
what?! i didn't enable nothing, i can't tell when gurls like me and when they don't, i thought she was being freindly, and she can be jus being friendly...

You can enable somebody without knowing it. Basically, you having talked to her at all is encouraging her. I know it seems dumb, but then again, people who say shit like "I hate myself" are attention-craving primadonnas who act stupid.

My sympathies are with you. I just think you should make it clear that you're going to stop talking to her before you actually do it. Yeah, she's responsible for herself, and you don't have to, but it's a decent thing to do.

[sawdust restaurants]

Originally posted by spfreak
*sigh* i knew it'd come down to this
i hate being blunt and direct ppl get hurt when the truth comes out

but your right thnx

Look on the bright side--if you do tell her to get help, and if she likes you, maybe she'll act on your advice and she'll realize how dumb she's acting and you won't have to be direct. I know how you feel; I've had to do it before and it's the shittiest feeling ever, and it's almost never really your fault.

Good luck.