When you find out one of your best friends likes you . . .

jenny4ever · 12-03-2002, 12:37 AM

So tonight my best (girl)friend called, and she was all "So what do you think of Larry?" and i was just like "umm i have no idea. i mean obviously i love larry, but i dont know what you mean."

and that all escalated into her telling me that Larry, a guy who has been a really close friend of mine for about a year now, has had a huge crush on me the whole time. Apparently, he dated his last girlfriend to make me jealous or something, but had to break up with her cause he likes me so much. and god. i dont know. all sorts of crazy stuff.

i feel very overwhelmed. especially considering that i had NO fucking clue that he liked me. I thought that if he liked anyone at our school it'd be my best friend(the one who called me), laura. I went to the movies with him like 2 weeks ago but it wasnt a date at all, we were trying to get other people to go, but we couldnt get in touch with anyone. i had a really good time, and hes a *really* wonderful guy, but i dont know.

everyone here knows all about lawson and whatnot and obviously he does too. And thats part of my dilemma, i dont want to rush into anything too soon, even though it has been a few months. . . i just dont know if im ready. at the same time i think it might be good for me, having not really dated anyone but lawson, to date someone i already know well and stuff to help kind of ease myself back into everything.

I like him a lot, hes a wonderfulwonderful guy. Hes cute, smart, funny and all that, but im so close to him, and i just dont know if im ready yet.

i am so confused.

im thinking maybe we could just try casually dating for a while . . .

(note: ive already discussed this with lawson, so i dont even want to hear comments about me trying to make him jealous or some shit, okay? thanks.)

bonsor · 12-03-2002, 12:42 AM

Too long, didn't read.

Though, I think posting this on Netphoria is just a ploy of yours to make lawson jealous.

lament · 12-03-2002, 12:43 AM

i thought you were gay?

Ihaman · 12-03-2002, 12:45 AM

that happened to me, my best friend ever TOLD me she loved me (Loved to death at that) i freaked out, went into hiding and depression for 4 months.

i still cant look her in the eyes.

Samsa · 12-03-2002, 12:51 AM

aww u should go out with him

Sepiae · 12-03-2002, 12:55 AM

I know people are always iffy about dating their close friends. I have been with my best friend for a year and a half and I couldn't be happier. I can't imagine being romantic with someone without knowing them well first (but he's my first boyfriend, so I guess I am way biased.)

I guess the immediate inclination is "the friendship is going to be ruined!" I don't know too many people who have dated their close friends (for this reason) but those who have have had remarkable longevity and happiness as compared to some other couples.

If you feel ready and you feel some attraction, it's probably worth a shot. To me, easing into dating again with someone who knows you and understands where you are coming from seems better than trying it again with someone who you don't mean something to yet.

jenny4ever · 12-03-2002, 12:56 AM

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Originally posted by Delta

if you felt a need to ask his permission you arent ready

well i definately wasnt asking permission in any way. i happened to be talking to him on aim when my friend called, so we talked about it, but it was more just me freaking out.

i was just saying that he knows about it already.

jenny4ever · 12-03-2002, 12:58 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Sepiae
I know people are always iffy about dating their close friends. I have been with my best friend for a year and a half and I couldn't be happier. I can't imagine being romantic with someone without knowing them well first (but he's my first boyfriend, so I guess I am way biased.)

I guess the immediate inclination is "the friendship is going to be ruined!" I don't know too many people who have dated their close friends (for this reason) but those who have have had remarkable longevity and happiness as compared to some other couples.

If you feel ready and you feel some attraction, it's probably worth a shot. To me, easing into dating again with someone who knows you and understands where you are coming from seems better than trying it again with someone who you don't mean something to yet.

<3<3<3

june33 · 12-03-2002, 01:01 AM

Just casually date him a while, if you think you are intersted in him. Take it slow- I'm sure if he likes you that much he will totally understand.

12-03-2002, 01:14 AM

Gotta question the fact he had a crush on you for a year and did not say anything. Playing Dr. Phil for a sec, he sounds like someone who certainly won't be in control in the relationship. And fairly immature. He would say he just did not want to fuck up the friendship you guys had which is probably true and that you were dating some tool during most of that time.

jenny4ever · 12-03-2002, 01:18 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by The Ace of Aces
Gotta question the fact he had a crush on you for a year and did not say anything. Playing Dr. Phil for a sec, he sounds like someone who certainly won't be in control in the relationship. And fairly immature. He would say he just did not want to fuck up the friendship you guys had which is probably true and that you were dating some tool during most of that time.

well i had a very long term boyfriend up until august, and naturally, he wanted to give me some time to get over that.

Lucy Sky Diamonds · 12-03-2002, 01:33 AM

He should give you head.
And then Laura should give you head.

Lie · 12-03-2002, 01:41 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Lucy Sky Diamonds
He should give you head.
And then Dr. Laura should give you head.

http://www.wowo.com/images/profiles/drlaura.jpg

pink_ribbon_scars · 12-04-2002, 01:42 AM

it's pretty ridiculous that he dated his last girlfriend to make you jealous, but other than that it sounds like a great situation to me.

you've only been really close to him for a year so its not like you have -that much- invested in your friendship (it would be a little different if this were a childhood or long-tern friend), and since you think he's "a wonderful wonderful guy... cute, smart, funny and all that" it sounds like he's be a fun person for you to date.

that's just my opinion.

beef curtains · 12-04-2002, 02:22 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Lie

http://www.wowo.com/images/profiles/drlaura.jpg

aaugh! i'm not sure if i'm more horrified that i saw that or that i actually know who it is

12-03-2002, 12:37 AM	#1
jenny4ever Apocalyptic Poster Location: Boone, NC Posts: 1,026	When you find out one of your best friends likes you . . . So tonight my best (girl)friend called, and she was all "So what do you think of Larry?" and i was just like "umm i have no idea. i mean obviously i love larry, but i dont know what you mean." and that all escalated into her telling me that Larry, a guy who has been a really close friend of mine for about a year now, has had a huge crush on me the whole time. Apparently, he dated his last girlfriend to make me jealous or something, but had to break up with her cause he likes me so much. and god. i dont know. all sorts of crazy stuff. i feel very overwhelmed. especially considering that i had NO fucking clue that he liked me. I thought that if he liked anyone at our school it'd be my best friend(the one who called me), laura. I went to the movies with him like 2 weeks ago but it wasnt a date at all, we were trying to get other people to go, but we couldnt get in touch with anyone. i had a really good time, and hes a really wonderful guy, but i dont know. everyone here knows all about lawson and whatnot and obviously he does too. And thats part of my dilemma, i dont want to rush into anything too soon, even though it has been a few months. . . i just dont know if im ready. at the same time i think it might be good for me, having not really dated anyone but lawson, to date someone i already know well and stuff to help kind of ease myself back into everything. I like him a lot, hes a wonderfulwonderful guy. Hes cute, smart, funny and all that, but im so close to him, and i just dont know if im ready yet. i am so confused. im thinking maybe we could just try casually dating for a while . . . (note: ive already discussed this with lawson, so i dont even want to hear comments about me trying to make him jealous or some shit, okay? thanks.)

12-03-2002, 12:42 AM	#2
bonsor Minion of Satan Location: midwest Posts: 8,771	Too long, didn't read. Though, I think posting this on Netphoria is just a ploy of yours to make lawson jealous.

12-03-2002, 12:43 AM	#3
lament Demi-God Posts: 486	i thought you were gay?

12-03-2002, 12:45 AM	#4
Ihaman Sometimes, though. Location: Hazard, California Posts: 21,274	that happened to me, my best friend ever TOLD me she loved me (Loved to death at that) i freaked out, went into hiding and depression for 4 months. i still cant look her in the eyes.

12-03-2002, 12:51 AM	#5
Samsa Banned Location: A theater near you Posts: 7,929	aww u should go out with him

12-03-2002, 12:55 AM	#6
Sepiae is a modern day sex camel Location: Boston, baby Posts: 7,662	I know people are always iffy about dating their close friends. I have been with my best friend for a year and a half and I couldn't be happier. I can't imagine being romantic with someone without knowing them well first (but he's my first boyfriend, so I guess I am way biased.) I guess the immediate inclination is "the friendship is going to be ruined!" I don't know too many people who have dated their close friends (for this reason) but those who have have had remarkable longevity and happiness as compared to some other couples. If you feel ready and you feel some attraction, it's probably worth a shot. To me, easing into dating again with someone who knows you and understands where you are coming from seems better than trying it again with someone who you don't mean something to yet.

12-03-2002, 01:01 AM	#9
june33 Ownz Location: Houston Posts: 655	Just casually date him a while, if you think you are intersted in him. Take it slow- I'm sure if he likes you that much he will totally understand.

12-03-2002, 01:14 AM	#10
Boner Posts: n/a	Gotta question the fact he had a crush on you for a year and did not say anything. Playing Dr. Phil for a sec, he sounds like someone who certainly won't be in control in the relationship. And fairly immature. He would say he just did not want to fuck up the friendship you guys had which is probably true and that you were dating some tool during most of that time.

12-03-2002, 01:33 AM	#12
Lucy Sky Diamonds Braindead Location: No Canada like French Canada, it's the best Canada in ze land. Posts: 16,905	He should give you head. And then Laura should give you head.

12-04-2002, 01:42 AM	#14
pink_ribbon_scars At the beginning Location: GJ 1214 b Posts: 10,760	it's pretty ridiculous that he dated his last girlfriend to make you jealous, but other than that it sounds like a great situation to me. you've only been really close to him for a year so its not like you have -that much- invested in your friendship (it would be a little different if this were a childhood or long-tern friend), and since you think he's "a wonderful wonderful guy... cute, smart, funny and all that" it sounds like he's be a fun person for you to date. that's just my opinion.