Well, ive hated this fucking phrase since i first heard it. Surely much has been written about it. But to me it goes along with the whole, “what, i apologized what more do u want from me,” “can’t we just get past this,” “stop dwelling on the negativity,” etc etc in other words, the language of deflection and escaping accountability that we have seen employed by abusers since the dawn of time and/or feelings
When actually? You know what, ppl are allowed to call out shitty behavior and to spend as much time as they need talking about it and telling their stories, so that they can heal. Once we’ve taken care of the abused, we can worry about whether the abuser should be allowed to have their platform back. Until then? Fuck them, for once, life isn’t all about them!!!