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Originally Posted by Disco King
So, with that girl I took out who kinda stopped texting me, and then disclosed to me that she's going through a bad depression and is intimidated by how much she likes me and is afraid of disappointing me:
After sending her that message saying I understand, and that she should feel free to take as much time as she needs to take care of herself, I didn't hear from her again. I wanted to wait for her to make the next move, because I don't want to pressure her into going out again if she's not ready. But I'm also sensing that she isn't likely to ever initiate (seems shy), and she did say that she wants to see me again, so I'm kind of stuck with this dilemma of not wanting to pester her, but also knowing that she probably wants me to take her out again eventually.
I sent her a text asking how she's feeling. No response. A friend advised me that the best thing to do may be to send a meme, because signaling that she can open up to me might just intimidate her more, especially as we've only seen each other once.
He's a smart guy. I sent her a funny picture, and she responded.
What do I do now, though? Send her another meme?
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you need to take the pressure off her.
she is probably feeling awkward about putting things out in the open like that, and kinda feels like you're catering to her now instead of courting her. just find a way to talk to her naturally without making it seem like there's an "agenda", you're just talking to her/asking to see her cause you like her. don't be overly cautious, it'll just trigger her.
try to figure out a way to suggest meeting casually, without the normally associated pressures of a date. tell her you're going to be somewhere fun at a specific time, where she can choose to come see you for a bit or not - like for example, when you're already hanging with other friends but are around her neighborhood or something. or ask her if she wants to come along as you take some photos, and you'll buy her a cup of coffee. and so forth