| redbreegull |
12-23-2015 11:31 PM |
Quote:
Originally Posted by SOUL PWR
(Post 4239797)
It's highly irritating to have to explain such a simple thing to someone who is going to immediately jump the gun and tell you you have no respect for women. Do you know how men talk? Think? Behave? Do you interact with men outside of this board? Are the men on this board actually men? Valid questions.
Basically, if I had to spell all of that out for you because you were assuming I have no respect for women, then you are in a very defensive place and your perception of reality is pretty binary. Reality usually isn't binary, neither are people. I presume you already know that - but you should apply that and not be so quick to accuse people of such things. It would be more acceptable if you just said that you found my language coarse. I could accept and appreciate that, at the very least.
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I basically agree with most of what reprise said so I won't quote everything and repeat shit... but when you come into a situation (any situation but especially with people you aren't familiar with or who aren't familiar with you) and you start saying stuff, the burden is on you to articulate yourself correctly. I really don't understand how you see the burden being on your audience to correctly interpret what you are saying and there's something wrong with them if they don't. Again, it's about relationships and context. Your explanation made perfect sense to me although I still wouldn't have said some of the things you said, the context changes stuff. No one here knows you from anywhere and if you are just throwing yourself around in life with the belief that every stranger should be "smart" enough to interpret your words and actions the way you personally intended them, you are going to rub a lot of people the wrong way, and it isn't because people are too sensitive, it's because you aren't correctly gauging context. I like to talk about how much I hate censoring myself in front of others, but that's life. Not everything is appropriate all the time just because it doesn't bother you, and I'm sure you know that as you probably wouldn't go into work and start with the young pussy talk to your boss or something.
and like reprise said if you had just explained yourself first instead of getting defensive it would have been a different conversation. the way you responded made you look like your were taking even more ownership of the statement and seemed to confirm what everyone was accusing you of.
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