This is exactly it.

When you're too busy doing "stuff" and you suddenly stop doing "stuff" for any extended period of time, you have an existential crisis.

So what

Nothing wrong with being busy

And yeah people who do nothing but strive to entertain themselves don't seem very adult relative to people who have kids or take on similar responsibilities

i feel like keeping busy is getting a bad rap here.

i don't run around on a smartphone rushing from one important appointment to the next. i don't have a facebook to check and i'm not missing out on anything.

i work, i take "personal enrichment" classes, volunteer 4 shifts per months, and work out to get buff. :cool:

quit hatin' on being busy like it makes someone a bad person.

naw, being busy is cool

vodka in a wine glass

staring into the void

I’ve got an empty house,
that don’t bother me,
got an empty bottle,
so the day won’t follow me,
I write empty songs,
and the words don’t bother me,
but goddamn,
I’ve got too much time on my hands,
I’ve got too much time on my hands,
come take all this time off my hands.

Night grows, inside of your eyes
Pain goes, away with your goodbyes
Each one makes me colder, more resistant to my life
Never saw it coming, 'cause there was no disguise
You were finished listening to lies
How could I have been so surprised?
How could I have been so surprised?

Sun rolls, time for us to part
Walked home, showing me your scar
They say the knife may as well never touched your arm
The needle surely would have, heeded you no harm
How can they say heeded you no harm?
How can they say he did you no harm?

All I know, I wish I'd have followed you home
All I know, I wish I'd have followed you home

ohhhh-ohhhh ... home

All I know, I wish I'd have followed you home

I wish I could call you my own

I wish I could call you back home

ohhh-ohhhh

Shoot it in your arm and send you home

I wish I could follow you home

Shoot it in my arm and follow you home

i guess maybe i should ask myself whether i truly give a shit if someone would think i was immature for having a life beside my kid or for not being busy

When I am stressed I find myself keeping as busy as possible. But I have two hours a week in therapy to work on internal things, so I really can't ignore what is going on in my brain.

I mean, I am taking 10 college credits, working 25 hours a week and doing therapy 2 hours a week + therapy homework. I'm busy. But there's being busy and then there's being busy purposefully to avoid dealing with things that are bothering you.

Guess I should only speak for myself.

I guess I just wonder why it's so important to spend our spare time thinking about our emotions and shit. I'm not sure there's anything wrong with ignoring all that and just focusing on doing things or spending time with people or whatever. And I say this as someone with plenty of hours logged in therapy and introspection

I don't think it's important for everybody, necessarily. People have different needs. When I don't think about my emotions and why I react certain ways and why I have certain thoughts (say suicidal thoughts or flashback symptoms), they get worse and I feel like shit. I feel fucking awesome for a month, maybe two, but then I get really depressed and anxious and start having no emotions and start really believing that the world is not real etc

I know pretty much for sure I'll never have kids too, but we've had this conversation before... I will find other things to invest myself in that matter to me. If I did have a kid I'm pretty sure my life would completely revolve around him or her, though.

how about you, charmbag? starting to want kids?

I think so but I gotta graduate and find a husband

And yeah I know what you mean. I was playing devil's advocate a lil I guess

Is misery loves company not a german expression

You still post here so you aint as busy as the people were mocking

before every semester, our department gets together for a meeting and this fucking guy whom i already don't like very much brings his damn baby to the meeting.

and of course the baby doesn't have any manners cause she's a damn baby, so she's fuckin' squealing and getting antsy from sitting still, because she's a damn baby. and she was getting louder and louder to the point where our boss had to repeat herself because the damn baby kept interrupting and nobody would tell him to take the damn baby outside, nor would he do it himself out of common decency.

it was just so irritating. am i right to be irritated?

uh yeah

that guy sounds fucking clueless

take it from me, what you really want from other people when you're miserable is to make other people feel like that

YES

DOGS AT BARS ARE BAD TOO

wait, is band xy comprised of mom xy and dad xy? in which case they may just be really really busy

you just keep doing nothing, you lazy fuck

wait until you have kids and a band and need to grow up

that band is dope

Being busy is fine. Complaining about being busy means you have bad time management skills.

or it could mean you're a complainer.

this thread is making me imagine a high-powered business person who answers his phone by saying "go"

buy! sell! buy!