That's when I was soldering through the long distance thing... 1999 through 2002, really. Did yours fall apart too?

lol you have no idea

i mean we did live together for 4 1/2 years after that but yes, it was an epic disaster and fucked up my life for more than a decade and still does in a lot of ways

but i realize that's not prototypical

man did you go through like all the different cards you could find at different gas stations trying to find the ones that actually charged like they were supposed to?

How did you guys meet these people? Online?

I met my husband at an ATM.

netphoria is a good spot for advice

Especially ones relating to interpersonal relationships.

"another place another time perhaps"

It's as good a place as any.

I know I'm new. But this place is pretty much my life. As it dies, so I grow ever weaker.

If you've been entirely honest vixnix, I think you'd have more of an issue with it than your dude. Beyond that, why would you consider it a negative that your children are becoming more worldly at a young age?

if anyone was actually serious about the "i love you for your mind"-thing, long distance relationships wouldn't be a problem

I don't mind at all if they are becoming worldly. It's more that they're starting to feel a bit insecure because as soon as they make friends, we move. My elder son lived in one city for 14 months, another for the next 2 years, another for the next 18 months, and yet another for 2 years. Now we're living in a city we've been in before but in a completely different suburb to where we were before. He's just begun to settle down and make friends here and the younger one actually looks like he will enjoy going to preschool next year which is a small miracle. I hate the thought of taking all that away again and starting over. Plus it's a crowded city overseas. We'd go from living in a house with a yard, backing onto bush with lots of wildlife, to an apartment with no outdoor space...we've lived in an apartment before and it made them pretty miserable. So yeah...there's other stuff.

yes.

i guess mine "worked" because we got together IRL for 4 1/2 years and because i was 14

how is that a response to what i said

"DORK SIDED!"

Would you consider the father to have a similar, greater or lesser impact on the lives of you and your children at a distance or in proximity?

some people are serious about the i love you for your mind thing

Definitely much less impact at a distance and that's a huge concern also, particularly if he's going to be there for a few years.

I wanted to try one a few months ago, but was rebuffed :(

yes i often adhere to this logic, i go to paint stores with questions about electronics, i visit a podiatrist for everything but foot issues, for that I see an ENT man. Sometimes I use Yahoo! Ask to make decisions for me but lately i find netphoria is the best source for a collection of mentally ill people talking endlessly about their mental illness(es) and thus, for life advice, since so many of the regulars are so spectacularly well adjusted, reasonable, and fulfilled. i mean why else would they spend hours a day posting on a message board riddled with spyware, angry, insulting moderators and administrators and a serious problem with bot spam.

I admire your logic, vixnix.

You should, I always scored highly in my logic papers and I was the third generation of my family to study logic at that university, though still the dunce of the family because my major was philosophy and not engineering or pure mathematics. Oh well. Still, I approve of your admiration of me. You are welcome to admire me anytime.

yes i'm sure knowing X horseshoe U is serving you well

Yeah well I would hope so after a whole two semesters of going over it again and again.

are we flirting now, do you want me to come to australia once your husband is in hyderabad or whatever

Hey we could always try it for lulz if nothing else except that I'm not your type and my husband would find out and kill us both.

i don't have a type you made that up

Well even if you did, if I picked a fight with you about it you'd definitely be able to argue your way out of it so I'm not going to go there.

agree that having sex with other people is ok = successful long distance relationship

voila!

vixnix why do you always bring up your education as if it validates anything you have to say