Anyone else here have older siblings that got booted out of the house?
 

My older brother is getting kicked out for the 3rd time.

He is in his early 20s, he hasn't worked a day in his life, and he has no money.

He also has no job, sits on his ass all day and watches TV, and goes to friend's houses. He hasn't even been to college. He even begs me for gas money

I'm listening to my mom chew him out right now :D

OK, he got $200 for Christmas, and has already blown through it. he was supposed to go get his laptop (it was $300, he pawned it for $45), but didn't

He was actually supposed to be out 2 days ago, but came back

This is pissing me off

he's on drugs

Yeah he's done drugs in the past

He's also a nicotine addict (dips and smokes)

He needs a damn intervention..

in which a huge burly guy comes in and kicks his ass

I'm going to Hell.... that picture made me laugh... heh heh

"Cause I know, somewhere, deep down in my heart, I still love you!!!"
"MWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

how old are you Duke? (if i may ask) just wondering

I'm in high school

alright

do you think your mom will go through with really kicking him out?

Yeah, shes pretty fed up with his bullshit

She's gonna be taking his key and garage door opener soon

Sad thing is, I'm younger than him, and I'm already working

And he expects me to give him gas money?

OH HELL NAW

anyways

Anyone have older siblings that got booted out?

surprisingly no. my family's pretty dysfunctional, though.

i am the older sibling. moved out at 18 and never looked back. actually, thats kind of untrue. i was thisclose to moving back at 21-22ish. i wouldn't have been kicked out, i doubt i would've lasted long in hicktown again. :D

Whatever, papa dukes. Who da fuck cares.

everybody i know that gets 'kicked out' usually comes back in a matter of days or weeks, or the parents end up forking over money for an apartment or something. not saying it doesn't happen. but its pretty rare when parents truly do bring down the hammer

I'm absolutely positive she's bringing down the hammer permanently this time.

When I say she's fed up, I mean she's come completely unglued.

Remember when NeNe kicked out her son on RHoA?

Duke, I know you're frustrated but we all have our fucked up periods. Give your bro some love, he's still a person after all and one who is about to be homeless and turned away by his own family. Even though it's his fault, he's still a human being with feelings. Tell him you love him or something.

Does he not want to work or can he not find work or what? Maybe you and yer mom should try and help instead of giving him a hard time?

Duke have you considered moving out with him? You could be turd bandits together and give bjs to limp-dicked old men like in that one Decemberists song. It would bring you guys closer together, I bet. Worst case scenario: at least you're off Netphoria since you're homeless.

Seriously, it is his fault.
It feels like a whole lot of people don't understand that.
And here I am, the "good" child, turned perfectionist by the need to give my mother the feeling not to feel like she raised two screwups.

Give it time, you'll let her down eventually....my mom had a breakdown after all three of her kids ended up in jail.

It's more of my mom getting on his tail about him not working, I've chosen to back off.
He really doesn't want to work, he barely tries to fill out applications.
He's gotten the help he's needed

My mom nearly had a breakdown after my father died (her ex-husband)

She was trying her best to take care of us kids while keeping herself together.

And deal with her own grief

Sounds like yer mom needs a good man in her life...tell her to hit me up on my hip

She's in the middle of divorcing my soon to be ex stepfather.

I hate him, he was a jerk to her

I agree with you that it is his fault, but that doesn't mean I can't feel bad for him.

As for you being the good child, you are describing a common family situation. It isn't fair to you at all - but you at least see what is happening as it is happening. In that sense, she obviously has not raised a screw-up.

sorry i'll stop lecturing but i was just trying to get at the fact you can have compassion for him while still holding him responsible for his actions or lack thereof

It's not that I don't have compassion for him, it's just that he's beyond his 3 strikes, ya know?

yeah man i gotcha
he's about to be homeless in the middle of winter and is likely addicted to drugs. it's not a happy place believe me. but i can understand you being angry and frustrated, and he has brought it on himself :/

Mhm.
I love my brother to death, but he's just messed up in a lot of ways.
I still love him, despite his screw ups

Instead of kicking him out yer mom should just put her foot down...quit supporting him and force him to get a job...likewise with you, stop giving him money. Parents and siblings are the worst type of enablers.

That's pretty much what's happening now, Toby.
I have't given him money in years

after my dad came home from getting his 420 Rx, he had this little folder with all the info and shit and there was a picture of the Doc that prescribed him and the doc looked EXACTLY like the intervention dude. except he was wearing a white coat with a stethoscope around his neck. I burst out laughing, grabbed it, ran and shoved it in my brother's face and said "MWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"


But about your brother....i dunno man. everyone's got their shit. i was in the same situation except i was the older one. left at 18 but had to come back at 24. and my parents have yet to kick my brother out. he didnt work for years, then he finally had a steady job and moved out with his two best friends. they were evicted for fucking up the place within 6 months and were ordered to be out the next day. other than those 6 months, he's lived here. he's almost 25. to his credit- after he moved back from the crazy party apartment, he went to school and now has a job.

but like i said, everyone has their own shit and you never know what's gonna happen so I agree that you gotta give him a little love. I was the "good child", too. but i've also screwed up quite a bit and have had to come back and live at home from time to time.

where is he going to go? does he have a plan? what do you think is going to happen? are you glad it's finally happening or are you worried?

First: LOL at the Intervention thing

Eh, I've had mixed emotions about it.
I don't know what he's going to do, and neither do I.
He might go live with his stoner friends, or he might go live with his lazy stoner girlfriend, I'm not sure,
He's still here, too.
HE was supposed to leave New Year's Eve

What pisses me off is that my mom really hasn't told him to leave

I mean, SHE SAID he had to be out by the 31st, and he's still here.

And she's acting like it isn't a big deal.

And I'm sitting here, super confused

I moved away from home at 15, and moved back in at 19. Then left at 23 and lived in a halfway house for about six months (a nightmare) until I moved in with my grandmother.

I was definitely the golden child type - if you read about family systems therapy you see how all the dysfunctional roles play off one another.

I fell in to drugs too, even though I was the perfect kid and never even tried a drug until I was 19 (after I moved back home from an extremely traumatic situation). We are all susceptible, and it really does only take a couple horrible choices that seem unimportant at the time to really fuck yourself for good or damn near close to it.

You still think he's getting kicked out?

oh i didnt see your last post before posting this ^

Oh yeah, he's so getting kicked out

My mom says she's got enough to deal with right now

He slept til like 1:30 today
Geez
I can't even sleep that long, and I'm a high school insomniac