Instead of kicking him out yer mom should just put her foot down...quit supporting him and force him to get a job...likewise with you, stop giving him money. Parents and siblings are the worst type of enablers.

That's pretty much what's happening now, Toby.
I have't given him money in years

after my dad came home from getting his 420 Rx, he had this little folder with all the info and shit and there was a picture of the Doc that prescribed him and the doc looked EXACTLY like the intervention dude. except he was wearing a white coat with a stethoscope around his neck. I burst out laughing, grabbed it, ran and shoved it in my brother's face and said "MWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"


But about your brother....i dunno man. everyone's got their shit. i was in the same situation except i was the older one. left at 18 but had to come back at 24. and my parents have yet to kick my brother out. he didnt work for years, then he finally had a steady job and moved out with his two best friends. they were evicted for fucking up the place within 6 months and were ordered to be out the next day. other than those 6 months, he's lived here. he's almost 25. to his credit- after he moved back from the crazy party apartment, he went to school and now has a job.

but like i said, everyone has their own shit and you never know what's gonna happen so I agree that you gotta give him a little love. I was the "good child", too. but i've also screwed up quite a bit and have had to come back and live at home from time to time.

where is he going to go? does he have a plan? what do you think is going to happen? are you glad it's finally happening or are you worried?

First: LOL at the Intervention thing

Eh, I've had mixed emotions about it.
I don't know what he's going to do, and neither do I.
He might go live with his stoner friends, or he might go live with his lazy stoner girlfriend, I'm not sure,
He's still here, too.
HE was supposed to leave New Year's Eve

What pisses me off is that my mom really hasn't told him to leave

I mean, SHE SAID he had to be out by the 31st, and he's still here.

And she's acting like it isn't a big deal.

And I'm sitting here, super confused

I moved away from home at 15, and moved back in at 19. Then left at 23 and lived in a halfway house for about six months (a nightmare) until I moved in with my grandmother.

I was definitely the golden child type - if you read about family systems therapy you see how all the dysfunctional roles play off one another.

I fell in to drugs too, even though I was the perfect kid and never even tried a drug until I was 19 (after I moved back home from an extremely traumatic situation). We are all susceptible, and it really does only take a couple horrible choices that seem unimportant at the time to really fuck yourself for good or damn near close to it.

You still think he's getting kicked out?

oh i didnt see your last post before posting this ^

Oh yeah, he's so getting kicked out

My mom says she's got enough to deal with right now

He slept til like 1:30 today
Geez
I can't even sleep that long, and I'm a high school insomniac

if i'm really depressed and dont get disturbed by others i can sleep for 24-36 hrs+

I suffer from depression and anxiety, and I've never slept that long

Mostly because my mom tells me to get my lazy butt out of bed :D

i go between hypersomnia and insomnia

lately it's been the latter though actually i can't complain too much, i'm sleeping better than i ever have just not for long enough

Insomnia suuuccckkkss

I sleep til 2 or 3 somedays

I sleep to 3 everyday, it rules

He's leaving today.

YES.

He's gonna go live with my crazed, right-winged zealot grandmother in the ghetto.

My dad always said that my grandmother looked like Jabba The Hut

pics plz

Lol don't have any man.

Pretty much got rid of em went she went crazy when she moved out of our old house.

I haven't seen her since I was in maybe second grade

I wonder what she looks like now.....

I guess try your best to imagine this old fatass Apache woman with jet black hair that's a crazed Messianic Jew ( no offense to the Jewish, she's just nuts.)

I'm going to boot all your older siblings out the house, all of them god damn.

You sound like a dick, duke.

My grandmother wasn't very good to our family.

She accused us of a lot of crap and tried to take control of things.

She stole over $300 from my brother, too

Yeah and he's my only sibling.

He just left. Boy, was he sentimental about it

He'll be back....they always come back.

I hope not.

He's an adult, he needs to act like one

Ol' daddy dukes: family counselor extraordinaire.

I dont know your brother, and from what you described, he does need to start taking more responsibility for his life.

however...give it ten years and a smack in the face from life post-high school and I guarantee you'll be a little more understanding of where he's at right now.

i'm sure my little brother thinks the same thing about me right now. i'm sure hes wondering why my parents havent kicked me out. we don't talk much and all he sees me do is listen to music and blaze in my room. i'm 27.

some people take a little longer than others to BE adults. and some people need help when they CANT be adults.

i'm glad you and your mom are less stressed now that he's gone, but don't be too quick to say good riddance. give him a bit of a break.

It feels like we have given him too many breaks though.

At least that's how madre describes it.

now imagining duke's "madre" tucking him into bed and blowing out the scented candles as the last few notes of daphne descends give way to once upon a time