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teh b0lly!!1 12-30-2011 02:24 PM

do you guys even meet new people anymore
 
i had this dream last night that fused together a few of my childhood places (schools, my mom's workplace, playgrounds etc) and it had this very festive vibe, kind of like halloween at school when you're a kid or something. and as i was wandering around i was meeting all kinds of people from different periods of my life, creating eye contact with people who i know superficially, etc.
and i got this feeling i haven't had in so many years, of walking around a place with many other people you know and occasionally greet, or greeted by. even if only superficially you still have a mass of people that you know and who know you and meeting people is not that hard.

i mean, who the fuck do i even know anymore? just a couple of good old friends, s\e, family.

people i meet at work are consisted of 99% douchebags of all sorts and even that one cool guy, what are you gonna ask him out to go get a beer after work? fuck that.

at this point everybody's got their friends and lives going on, and as much as i love my friends (and i do) some days i kind of wish i had the opportunity for something new .
you're a bunch of emotionally handicapped fucks, you know what i'm talkin' about, right?

Toby 12-30-2011 03:00 PM

I wish I did cause I need friends, but at 30 I think its a lost cause.

slunken 12-30-2011 03:00 PM

they say if you're not married by age 30 you have a greater chance of being involved in a terrorist act than falling in love i say what about mental terrorism does that count

Toby 12-30-2011 03:04 PM

:(

slunken 12-30-2011 03:05 PM

picture yourself as the terrorist though can it work like that i wonder

slunken 12-30-2011 03:06 PM

i've got an apb on some good loving. suspect was last seen stealing my heart.

teh b0lly!!1 12-30-2011 03:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by slunken (Post 3810510)
they say if you're not married by age 30 you have a greater chance of being involved in a terrorist act than falling in love i say what about mental terrorism does that count

[citation needed]

slunken 12-30-2011 03:12 PM

you know - "they" like "the powers that be"

myosis 12-30-2011 04:00 PM

i'm 30 and i meet new people.
it's not rocket science, you have to throw parties. you may find tons of excuses not to, but there's really no age to stop getting out of your comfort zone.

myosis 12-30-2011 04:03 PM

of course you make the kind of event where people can bring other friends, then you meet friends of friends, and possibilities emerge.
lots of people won't join but lots of others do want to meet new people, you have to shake them out of their comfort zone too. find a simple 'theme' that connects a few.

slunken 12-30-2011 04:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by myosis (Post 3810531)
possibilities emerge.

that's just how they explained it on what the bleep do we know

slunken 12-30-2011 04:29 PM

and something about particles blipping in and out of existance and things existing in two places at once also.

neopryn 12-30-2011 04:38 PM

no, i don't. the only friends i've made in the last several years are from work and even then it is still mostly a coworkers that hang out occasionally situation. i dunno, i was told not to talk to strangers as a kid.

teh b0lly!!1 12-30-2011 04:41 PM

obviously the solution is throwing a bro party bro try it

reprise85 12-30-2011 04:46 PM

nope.

i am lucky i have two good friends from childhood, though one is at harvard now

i have sorta seen friendships blossoming like when i went back to college but of course i fucked all of that up

Order 66 12-30-2011 05:03 PM

i've been kind of bummed out because i know virtually nobody. and i'm about to hit 30 so i question whether it's always going to be like this.

i feel like my life is like one of those weird gus van sant movies like elephant or last days where its just hours of some guy in a room eating cereal or something.

i'm optimistic though. i'm sure something will come along, like i'll meet people through volunteer work, or maybe i'll go back to school (ugh) or i'll start an okcupid account or something. either way it makes me appreciate my grade school/college days more where you're constantly engaged in people, despite the fact most of them are assholes

teh b0lly!!1 12-30-2011 05:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Order 66 (Post 3810564)
either way it makes me appreciate my grade school/college days more where you're constantly engaged in people, despite the fact most of them are assholes

yeah exactly
it's kinda like when you go to a restaurant or whatever and you need a crowd of strangers in order for it to feel not desolate and depressing. you don't really have to care for any of them in particular but the fact that they're there provides a weird sense of comfort. although in notion they're just representations of people, or might as well be

Nimrod's Son 12-30-2011 06:05 PM

i meet people all the time. friends-of-friends, their friends, and so on. expanding your circle isn't difficult.

just don't go to the same old places anymore.

subzero 12-30-2011 06:34 PM

i dont either. i have a small circle of friends, and thats it

whenever i start feeling like i want to meet people, i go out into the world and realize how terrible everyone is and then i realize people suck, etc

agenda suicide 12-30-2011 07:44 PM

I happen to find myself in situations where I'm constantly meeting new people. Majority of them never become close friends, but I don't seem to have a problem chatting up random people.

I'm glad that whenever I move to Chicago soon, I've already got a good core group of friends already established while I make other contacts.

myosis 12-31-2011 07:09 PM

i'm also on couchsurfing and sometimes i host people that are from montreal, which is the city to go to for big concerts and such. you get to realize it's a small world.

myosis 12-31-2011 07:12 PM

i often go to the restaurant or to plays/events alone, i'm kind of a loner really. sometimes i feel much more lonely than by myself if a place is crowded with people but no good friends (even if i know them).

reprise85 12-31-2011 07:14 PM

one time i was in dallas/fort worth airport on a layover and ran into someone from middle school who moved to boston during 8th grade and was visiting family in texas

it is indeed a small world

myosis 12-31-2011 07:19 PM

what i meant by 'not rocket science' is that it doesn't happen magically, especially if you fall in the mindset that you're 'too old to meet new people'. but i guess it's probably very difficult to make exciting encounters if you live in the suburbs. that's why i always give a weird look to people who ask why i don't live closer to my office job (which is in the middle of nowhere).


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