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Toby 12-06-2007 01:11 AM

advice please
 
so as some of you may or may not know me and kiley have split and she wants me to vacate the house.

I feel that I shouldn't have to leave since I have paid every house note, paid the security deposit, application fee, etc.

On the lease both of us are listed as tenants and her mom is listed only as a co-signer....am I right to be the one to ask her to leave? I mean she doesn't work and there only is another month left on this lease anyway.

I just really don't know what to do, I don't have the time to find another place and paying for here and deposits etc for a new place would just put me in a rock and a hard place.

She has friends and family here and I don't so it's only fair I think, but I fear this is going to turn into something childish and nasty which I really want to avoid. Any advice would be most helpful.

thanks in advance,

good ole uncle tobes

dean_r_koontz 12-06-2007 01:13 AM

my moral.meter tells me that she should move out. her insan-o-meter will tell her that it's your duty to move. since you forced her to leave you.

Eulogy 12-06-2007 01:14 AM

well if you think there's any chance of her being civil, explain that it would be really tough for you to move out right now and that you don't have family to assist you like she does. if she's not a total bitch she should be able to understand that.

I'm Hardcore 12-06-2007 01:14 AM

she's a woman, of course you have to leave

Toby 12-06-2007 01:16 AM

She left me, she called everything off. I don't see why I should have to leave MY house.

sickbadthing 12-06-2007 01:17 AM

Move out now. You'll thank yourself in the future.

monkeyfritters 12-06-2007 01:17 AM

live there with her and bring a new girl home every night.

I'm Hardcore 12-06-2007 01:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Toby
She left me, she called everything off. I don't see why I should have to leave MY house.

you know that whole FEMALE IRRATIONALITY thing? yeah.

Toby 12-06-2007 01:18 AM

I'm just wondering if I have any kind of legal dominance here, ya know since I have paid all the bills while she didn't work at all.

Warsaw 12-06-2007 01:18 AM

If your name is on the lease, then you have every right to stay.

The Jesus 12-06-2007 01:18 AM

If you've been paying for everything tell her to GTFO!

I'm Hardcore 12-06-2007 01:20 AM

and then post her tits on Netphoria

The Jesus 12-06-2007 01:20 AM

If she refuses to leave, throw her head-first through a window (like in the Western movies).

Luke de Spa 12-06-2007 01:20 AM

move out

then burn it down

sickbadthing 12-06-2007 01:22 AM

Toby, have you contacted your landlord about any of this?

Toby 12-06-2007 01:23 AM

I sent her a text today ( you know since she won't speak to me at all ) asking her to call me because we needed to talked about the housing situation and she has the nerve to comment on myspace that I am a lying piece of shit and that she does not pity me anymore

lol wtf?!

so I am probably going to consult the landlord and then just call her dad and break it down to him.

peabody 12-06-2007 01:25 AM

get on aim

:(

AndySlash 12-06-2007 01:25 AM

Your name is on the lease, right?

You aint got to go nowhere, fool.

Toby 12-06-2007 01:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sickbadthing
Toby, have you contacted your landlord about any of this?

I haven't yet because I haven't paid rent for Dec. yet and I was just planning on leaving and letting her dad carry the bill, but the more I thought about it the more I realized I have every right to take possession of this place.

I am planning on talking to them tomorrow along with a full months rent. "oh, I'm sorry I paid for december, I guess I have to stay!"

Eulogy 12-06-2007 01:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Toby
I sent her a text today ( you know since she won't speak to me at all ) asking her to call me because we needed to talked about the housing situation and she has the nerve to comment on myspace that I am a lying piece of shit and that she does not pity me anymore

lol wtf?!

so I am probably going to consult the landlord and then just call her dad and break it down to him.

jesus. she's being an immature bitch. i'm really sorry.

peabody 12-06-2007 01:28 AM

so wait.

you guys had a long-term significant relationship where engagement was involved.

and she is on myspace talking shit about you?

she was never serious from the start and was looking for an out. immature bitch.

KrazeeStacee 12-06-2007 01:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Toby
I'm just wondering if I have any kind of legal dominance here, ya know since I have paid all the bills while she didn't work at all.

Your lease should tell you.

Ol' Couch Ass 12-06-2007 01:31 AM

Jesus a Myspace comment?? Did she code in an animated broken heart gif too? Don't move. Tell the bitch you ain't going out like that and start living the dream.

Trotskilicious 12-06-2007 01:36 AM

i will kill her for you name your price

Toby 12-06-2007 01:37 AM

it was a comment on my blog where I apparently didn't tell the whole story, but FUCK I don't even know what I did wrong (since she hasn't spoken to me since saturday night). I was drunk and a jerk and it wasn't the first time and she felt she didn't deserve that kind of treatment so I guess she just decided to call it quits instead of trying to work things out and fight for someone you claimed you loved with all your heart :rolleyes:

Trotskilicious 12-06-2007 01:38 AM

whatever guy this is the same fight you've had like 30 times already but you keep doing what she doesn't want you to do so it's not going to work

Trotskilicious 12-06-2007 01:38 AM

but still...seriously.

i paint houses.

Lucy Sky Diamonds 12-06-2007 01:39 AM

It's your place, you can afford to pay for it on your own and she can't. That's how my ex and I decided who would keep the apartment after we split up.

Ol' Couch Ass 12-06-2007 01:46 AM

I'm with LSD. Post the blog and her comment Tobes for those of us not in the know.

benjamin619 12-06-2007 01:47 AM

^ yeah man

FashoKyg 12-06-2007 01:53 AM

id just gtfo asap and cut ur losses

Toby 12-06-2007 01:55 AM

I deleted her comment, but the words burn in my head so I'll post them at the bottom

Quote:


it’s over
Current mood: distraught

Kiley called off the wedding on Saturday. I've spent the last 24 hours crying uncontrollably...I can't believe it is over, so much has been invested over the last 2 years and to have it all taken away from you in the blink of an eye hurts more than some of you will ever know.

I feel like I was given up on, but I'll never know the truth; she won't talk to me. She sent her dad up to my job to tell me to quit calling and to be out of the house by the 15th. Sucks for me since I don't have family to run to and I'm the one that gets put out.

I just wasn't worth it, I wasn't worth fighting for; I'm worthless.

Why did you give up on me? We could have worked this out, but I guess you didn't love me as much as you said you did.

I've hurt pretty bad in the past, but this takes the cake.

I'm sorry for any of you that wasted money on coming to see us get married or bought us a gift already
Kiley: you are such a lying piece of shit. I no longer pity you anymore.

FashoKyg 12-06-2007 02:00 AM

edit - see the blog post now


mood: sad :(

Toby 12-06-2007 02:00 AM

and its not like i dont know what I did because I know. I was drunk and called her a retard and that was just it. She was tired of being talked down to and felt like things would never change. thats why i feel like she just gave up

its not like i was like that all the time, I mean the whole being drunk and being mean probably happened a handful of times but according to her "one to many"

Fattening Ass 12-06-2007 02:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Toby
so as some of you may or may not know me and kiley have split and she wants me to vacate the house.

I feel that I shouldn't have to leave since I have paid every house note, paid the security deposit, application fee, etc.

On the lease both of us are listed as tenants and her mom is listed only as a co-signer....am I right to be the one to ask her to leave? I mean she doesn't work and there only is another month left on this lease anyway.

I just really don't know what to do, I don't have the time to find another place and paying for here and deposits etc for a new place would just put me in a rock and a hard place.

She has friends and family here and I don't so it's only fair I think, but I fear this is going to turn into something childish and nasty which I really want to avoid. Any advice would be most helpful.

thanks in advance,

good ole uncle tobes

Stay. You have 1 month left and are named in the lease, so you can rightfully stay there. You will need as much time as possible to find a new place, so staying until the lease is up is a smart idea. Make sure that if you do not plan to extend your lease, you are the one to get your deposit back, NOT her. Should you plan to continue your stay, obviously you will need to write up a new contract without her. I think its best for you to pay rent and stay until the lease is up, but ultimately move elsewhere. If she actually wants to stay at the place, it might be more trouble than its worth to fight for it. the extra month there gives you more time to save $. If you need or want to talk, AIM me. I know i haven't talked to you in a long while, but you can hit me up anytime.

Ol' Couch Ass 12-06-2007 02:01 AM

Jesus. What lie is she talking about? Did you swear to her that you preferred wet dog food to dry the day before the Walmart incident? Fuck man the whole situation is deplorable and I'm sorry for it.

KrazeeStacee 12-06-2007 02:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Fattening Ass
Stay. You have 1 month left and are named in the lease, so you can rightfully stay there. You will need as much time as possible to find a new place, so staying until the lease is up is a smart idea. Make sure that if you do not plan to extend your lease, you are the one to get your deposit back, NOT her. Should you plan to continue your stay, obviously you will need to write up a new contract without her. I think its best for you to pay rent and stay until the lease is up, but ultimately move elsewhere. If she actually wants to stay at the place, it might be more trouble than its worth to fight for it. the extra month there gives you more time to save $. If you need or want to talk, AIM me. I know i haven't talked to you in a long while, but you can hit me up anytime.

This is a smart idea. As for the deposit, it'll be made out to whoever wrote the check, assuming you had a check.

Luke de Spa 12-06-2007 02:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Toby
I deleted her comment, but the words burn in my head so I'll post them at the bottom



Kiley: you are such a lying piece of shit. I no longer pity you anymore.

What kind of necro do you roll? Bone? Summon?

dean_r_koontz 12-06-2007 02:40 AM

you mean boner. and there's nothing funny about that name

Fattening Ass 12-06-2007 02:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KrazeeStacee
This is a smart idea. As for the deposit, it'll be made out to whoever wrote the check, assuming you had a check.

good point, im willing to bet he paid.


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