Can I have your input
 

I know its a general rule that guys and girls can never just be friends.(However much the girl may want to be "just friends") Have any of you had any experiences where that WAS the case, where both parties had no interest in each other, but hung out alone often.

I had a strictly platonic relationship with a girl for three years. We'd spend lots of time together, just as friends, and it never threatened to become more than that. And then one day, at the beach, I fell over and landed on her; suffice it to say that we bcame entangled and during the struggle to disentangle she became pregnant with three of my babies. One of the babies grew into a devious child who kept me imprisoned in a tower for ten months. You have been warned.

holy crap I hope this guy doesn't like me then.

nah I want him to like me

Sure people can be just friends, but I think it's more about different degrees than a straight yes or no. If you actually like hanging out together then there's a chemistry there which could be a part of a deeper attraction, you know? Maybe it will develop that way, maybe not. If you're asking because he gives the impression he's not interested when you hope he actually is.. well I guess he and the people around him know best. Just keep batting your eyelashes and falling into him saying 'oh CORY!' and see what happens

i've never been friends with a girl, so i couldn't say!

Did your flower bloom overnight?

the only girls i am friends with are girls that i work with.

and they are all in comitted relationships, and our friendships exist merely because there is so much dead time that we have to talk to each other.

i am not interested in any of them.

then again, we dont hang out outside of work.

except for the one girl who is getting married. i am in their wedding. they are really cool

hahahahahah. You poet.

you can have MY input lolol!!

No, it is not possible.

i've been friends with guys for years. two guys who are roomates i've been friends with since highschool- we all get together and play cards like the old times, we're friends. they like to ask me about girl advice and stuff, sicne they don't talk about that stuff amongst themselves.

I've roomed with like 7 different guys- we watch tv, movies, that sort of thing. A few expressed interest in me as a girlfriend, but i said sorry, i don't feel the same way. Things would get uncomfortable for awhile then after time, it went back to normal. My best friend is a guy who is in a 5 year relationship- we have couple get togethers and him and i work well together as a team- we have similar personalities.

I don't give a fuck what anyone says, but my male friends are the longest friendships i've had. We can relate really well, joke around and stuff. They are also friends with my boyfriend. They like having a girl around to ask girlfriend questions and stuff- they know theres nothing there between us. We see each other as just people that are good company- i am a female, but i'm as neutral gender-personality wise as anyone you will ever meet.

edit: i also believe some people are completely incapable of having platonic relationships with the opposite sex , and thats fine. I see people first as personalities, not genders.

It is possible but in my experience it seems that ultimately one of them always falls for the other thus creating quite the awkward situation when their feelings are not returned. However, if you can get past that the friendship seems to remain intact if not grow stronger.

one of my best freinds is a girl, and we have been platonic for over 10 years.

How long have you been friends?

the vast majority of my friends are girls. i have a girlfriend, so the only person it's a big deal for is her. part of the problem is that i used to be into some of these friends at one point or another, but now we're very platonic. so in my case, not only is it possible, it's commonplace.

One of my best friends is a guy. He's like my brother we're so close, so there was never any of that weird sexual tension between us.

10 years.

i meant to say almost, not over, in my orignal post.

i think he was referring to the fact that you said you were platonic for 10 years but never said anything about being friends for any time at all

Anyway, there was a fairly famous research documentary on this - basically how friendships are formed and the dynamics of each, and how these dynamics can interact with those of other friendships within the group and form a fairly complex web. I think ultimately they found that non-platonic undercurrents are often present between complementary individuals but tend to surface out of sync with each other, which is what causes problems, and the deeper the feelings often the more latent they are which is why they rarely develop in the open.

The results did show that perseverance on both sides can win out in the end though. With you guys, what are the signals like? Could you be any more obvious?

I'll see if I can find that documentary study, hold on

where is your fucking source?

Girls can do it, but if a guy is your friend it means he wants to fuck you at the minimum

and i was really hoping this thread was about something else judging by the title

good god, whats the maximum?

he's in love with you

perhaps obsessively

a loving committed relationship.

guys are deep, man

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