guys I'm confused
 

so that guy. I talk to him on the phone and in the back of my mind I'm screaming at myself "uuuuuuuuuuuugh I dont like this guy AT ALL" and I can't tell if it's because he is too nice to me (I'm used to assholes) or I really dislike his personality.

but I don't want to drag this out because I dont want to hurt anyones feelings... but I am honestly not sure what my reason for being hesitant is. If it's the former then I think I need to force myself to stick around a little bit becuase I'll probably get used to being treated well

but ugh I don't know I'm sure he can tell I'm very uncomfortable around him sometimes. I am fucking insane. he's smart, has a good job, everyone likes him, outgoing, nice, attractive, likes me... what's wrong with me. I don't want to end up chasing assholes my entire life and die alone.

you're waiting to meet me, it's clear

oh well he just invited himself over. and his self esteem bothers me. he's always like "are you sure you want to hang out? would you tell me if you didn't want to?" and I'm like SHUT UP STOP MAKING ME UNCOMFORTABLE

no seriously, I think that if you discuss a guy over Internet, you really don't consider him to be the one

try a therapist

edit: this was before i read the second post, now he sounds annoying

I really just dont have any friends here to ask about this. all my friends I have are at work and they really cant know about it anyway.

so why don't you tell him to fuck off

please tell me your not about to screw around with someone you work with?

uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu uuugh oh god what have I got myself into

I want ammy's opinion on this

or prs, or actually any of the girls around here.

the only women I'd listen to around here would be oblivious, pale blue eyes, beef curtains, or alisonmonster. all other ones seem to be crazy one way or another.

so is this guy from work? if no, then what have you got to lose? a night of posting on netphoria. who gives a fuck about some random dude's feelings.

if this is a guy from work, you're one dumb dumb dumb bitch for already having an extra-work relationship regardless of whether it leads anywhere or not. you aren't really much of a professional if you're already doing this shit at your first professional job.

whatever. most female attorneys do the same stupid shit. girls are just generally stupid idiots.

we haven't done anything yet, jesus we only hung out last weekend

But you're going to fuck, or at least blow him. This is a bad deal all around.

shit aint gonna happen if I feel as confused as I do right now

not if you're desperate

yeah that's real professional.

all the attorney at work sophie did was go out for a post-work snack with me and get drunk and make obvious passes at me. i lost all respect for her at that point,

WELL, i know from experience that you cant' force chemistry. they can be the perfect one 'on paper' for you, but if you feel no spark or desire to be with them you can't really expect it to go anywhere. some people say feelings like this grow from being friends with someone and finally just realizing that you were in love with them, but that didn't happen with me.
my past relationship was with a guy that i didn't necessarily find attractive, but had every great boyfriend quality i thought i needed. it was a pretty good long relationship and worked for what it was, but now that i'm in a relationship with jacob i realized everything that was missing in any other relationship i've ever had ever in teh world.

p.s. those guys that have no backbone are so unattractive. i knew one called wilbert and i liked hanging out with him because he'd never try to make a move, but once again no chemistry....nothing....it ended pretty quickly

the unprofessional aspect of this has nothing to do with whether you bone.

your not supposed to date or even sort of date or whatever you are doing with your coworkers when you are a business professional. bardy's skank ass took all of 3 weeks to fuck that up.

oh come on you think I make passes at guys? I dont even get drunk around these people yet... and I wont for quite a while.

look you're right but that isnt the question I was asking netphoria

kristin xp you are one fucking slut

this guy is coming over. that's 100 times worse. he wants to fuck you and you have invited him over.

AND I KNOW YOU'RE NOT REALLY A SKANK BARDY.

This shit just drives me crazy.

Girls boggle my mind sometimes with their lack of couth and zero business sense.

bitch please. don't even try to act like you have the privilage of knowing me.

i've been telling you fuckers for years that the assholes get all the pussy

then you must get all the pussy you want

well im more confused now than when this started

thanks netphoria!

being an asshole is more fun and nets more ass

nice guys are suckers

that's what we're here for