View Full Version : I think my girlfriend may be cheating on me....


Magic the Gathering
07-05-2002, 02:30 PM
I have been seeing this girl for 3 years now. Her name is Ann. I met Ann while I was working in a local record store. We had some small talk and found that we liked a lot of the same music and ended up dating. Forward a year and she moved in with me.

So for the past two years we have been sharing a computer and recently I have noticed that she's staying up late and supossedly doing "homework". I've gotten out of bed a few times to go pee and get some water and she gets so guarded around the computer... and I see her on AIM. Then she has been doing "special projects" for one of her classes and she's staying after school. I'm sitting at home most nights out of the week and I can't get ahold of her because she always has her cell phone off. I have asked her to leave it on but she says she always forgets. She never forgets when her friends want to get ahold of her. She says that she's going to the library (on campus) but I don't think she's really there.

Should I follow her one night? Should I try to snoop into her email? I don't want to make her mad at me but I don't think something is right here.

Opinions are appreciated.

obscured01
07-05-2002, 02:36 PM
<font color="FB7BF6">I would just ask her flat out "Are you cheating on me?" Then if she asks why, tell her why you think she is. Of course, this would depend on what type of a relationship you two have... but if you asked her, maybe she'd tell you what was going on.. if she cares anything about the relationship.



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bittertrance
07-05-2002, 02:43 PM
smell her breath when she gets back

Magic the Gathering
07-05-2002, 02:45 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by bittertrance:
smell her breath when she gets back</font>

I think I know what you're saying but that won't happen because we both happen to find sodomy morally offensive.

Guen
07-05-2002, 02:46 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:
I think I know what you're saying but that won't happen because we both happen to find sodomy morally offensive.</font>

what???

sawdust restaurants
07-05-2002, 02:48 PM
"I don't think something is right here."

Let's see: she's guarded around her instant messages, she never gets ahold of you but always gets ahold of her friends, she'll go off for hours at a time and not tell you where she is ...

Yep, everything seems hunky-dory.

You're probably not a stupid person considering you have the mental capacity to write in fluent English, so stop acting stupid, take charge of your situation, ask her what's up, and--well, I hate to put it this way, but be prepared for whatever she's going to say. Doesn't sound like homegirl's very interested anymore, does it?

Sorry to be so forthright, but if she's supposed to be your best friend (or at least one of them) and she's treating you like this, you have every right to know what's going on, but you can't expect it to be peaches and cream.

MisterSquishyHalo
07-05-2002, 02:50 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:</font>

This might be the reason why heh.

Affectation
07-05-2002, 02:50 PM
<font color=00ff33>Must be an A-rab. Head = Sodomy.

Keep telling yourself that she doesn't believe in sodomy.

Talk to her about everything. Let her know how you feel in a non accusatory way.

Orchestra
07-05-2002, 02:51 PM
Old School magic the gathering rox

Magic the Gathering
07-05-2002, 02:52 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by sawdust restaurants:
"I don't think something is right here."

Let's see: she's guarded around her instant messages, she never gets ahold of you but always gets ahold of her friends, she'll go off for hours at a time and not tell you where she is ...

Yep, everything seems hunky-dory.

You're probably not a stupid person considering you have the mental capacity to write in fluent English, so stop acting stupid, take charge of your situation, ask her what's up, and--well, I hate to put it this way, but be prepared for whatever she's going to say. Doesn't sound like homegirl's very interested anymore, does it?

Sorry to be so forthright, but if she's supposed to be your best friend (or at least one of them) and she's treating you like this, you have every right to know what's going on, but you can't expect it to be peaches and cream.</font>

I feel that if I have to confront her that I must present some kind of evidence... otherwise it seems like I'm making something out of nothing. It is true that I have questioned her, but she always has (what I may think is) an excuse. I'm getting to the point where I may spend some money for a private detective. We are engaged and are supposed to marry next spring. I don't know if that's going to be the case now though.

Affectation
07-05-2002, 02:54 PM
<font color=00ff33>Bitches ain't shit...

funnygeezus
07-05-2002, 02:59 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:
I think I know what you're saying but that won't happen because we both happen to find sodomy morally offensive.</font>

<font color=slate>so you're convinced that she believes head is morally offensive, but you can't be sure that she's not cheating on you? man, you've got this girl pinned down.

Magic the Gathering
07-05-2002, 03:04 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by funnygeezus:
<font color=slate>so you're convinced that she believes head is morally offensive, but you can't be sure that she's not cheating on you? man, you've got this girl pinned down.</font>
</font>

I don't know for sure that she's cheating on me. I have circumstantial evidence. Sodomy on the other hand is something that we both have no interest in because we have no desire to go to hell after we die. Why go to hell for a few minutes of pleasure?

MonteLDS
07-05-2002, 03:05 PM
communcation is the key to any relationship.

u can either
A) Ask her flat our

B) Snoop Around to find out A) she is really doing what she says B) She is cheating or C) She catches you and things go bad due to lack of trust

C) You just let it eat you from the inside and see what happens in 2 months

Guen
07-05-2002, 03:06 PM
oh deary me...oh deary, deary me...

funnygeezus
07-05-2002, 03:10 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:
I don't know for sure that she's cheating on me. I have circumstantial evidence. Sodomy on the other hand is something that we both have no interest in because we have no desire to go to hell after we die. Why go to hell for a few minutes of pleasure?</font>

<font color=slate>now i'm almost sure you're a troll. but for kicks, i'll continue:

hey, head isn't on the big g's top 10 list, adultery is. just out of curiosity, what major religous organization do you give money to each week?

Affectation
07-05-2002, 03:11 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:


Sodomy on the other hand is something that we both have no interest in because we have no desire to go to hell after we die. Why go to hell for a few minutes of pleasure?</font><font color=00ff33>Um...because hell doesn't exist. The Roman Gods weren't real. The Egyptian Gods weren't real. And your Christian God isn't real.

Magic the Gathering
07-05-2002, 03:19 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by funnygeezus:
<font color=slate>now i'm almost sure you're a troll. but for kicks, i'll continue:

hey, head isn't on the big g's top 10 list, adultery is. just out of curiosity, what major religous organization do you give money to each week?</font>
</font>

I'm a Baptist.

bittertrance
07-05-2002, 03:31 PM
isnt that card game considered satanic?

Orchestra
07-05-2002, 03:37 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by bittertrance:
isnt that card game considered satanic?</font>

I wish

funnygeezus
07-05-2002, 03:38 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by bittertrance:
isnt that card game considered satanic?</font>

<font color=slate>i dunno about other people who play, but personally i consider the baron sengir my lord and savior.

Magic the Gathering
07-05-2002, 03:42 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by bittertrance:
isnt that card game considered satanic?</font>

Nope. Only Dungeons and Dragons, and that's only if you're using the Advanced D & D monster guide. Also, you can use 10 sided die, but the 20 sided die is off limits. It has to do with numerology. Satanists use numbers for contacting demons. Multisided die are one of the ways of doing this. You wouldn't be able to get me within 10 feet of a 20 sided die if my life depended on it. I have no desire to be taken over by a demon.

Affectation
07-05-2002, 03:46 PM
<font color=00ff33>You are seriously an idiot.

melancholia
07-05-2002, 03:47 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by obscured01:
<font color="FB7BF6">I would just ask her flat out "Are you cheating on me?" Then if she asks why, tell her why you think she is. Of course, this would depend on what type of a relationship you two have... but if you asked her, maybe she'd tell you what was going on.. if she cares anything about the relationship.

</font>


when you do this though, be prepaired for the answer. i went through pretty much the same thing two years ago, and it still hurts.

funnygeezus
07-05-2002, 03:47 PM
<font color=slate> http://www.avalon.nf.ca/~rosemd/drink1a.JPG
this is a shot my basement after i had some friends (Orchestra included) over last summer. i believe the monstrous manual and several d20's are visible. oh well, demons and eventual hell for me, ROCK ON!<font color=black size=1>

[This message has been edited by funnygeezus (edited 07-05-2002).]

Magic the Gathering
07-05-2002, 03:55 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Affectation:
<font color=00ff33>You are seriously an idiot.</font></font>

You may say so, however I had a friend who played almost 10 years ago. Apparently his parents found him in his room late at night in a black cloak and had some candles lit with some incense burning. He was chanting things and when they tried to interrupt him, they felt a cold wind actually push them out of the room! They called the police but the police couldn't get in beacuse the door was blocked (by something). It wasn't until they called a priest that they were able to enter the room and he ended up expelling a demon from his body. His parents found the Advanced D & D monster manual and SEVERAL 20 sided die. Even after the kid had the demons taken out, he had problems at school and eventually had to be taken out and was sent to a mental hospital.

These things happen, but they're not talked about often. I am a believer and I best not mess with things that provoke demons.

Orchestra
07-05-2002, 03:59 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:
Originally posted by Affectation:
<font color=00ff33>You are seriously an idiot.</font></font>

You may say so, however I had a friend who played almost 10 years ago. Apparently his parents found him in his room late at night in a black cloak and had some candles lit with some incense burning. He was chanting things and when they tried to interrupt him, they felt a cold wind actually push them out of the room! They called the police but the police couldn't get in beacuse the door was blocked (by something). It wasn't until they called a priest that they were able to enter the room and he ended up expelling a demon from his body. His parents found the Advanced D & D monster manual and SEVERAL 20 sided die. Even after the kid had the demons taken out, he had problems at school and eventually had to be taken out and was sent to a mental hospital.

These things happen, but they're not talked about often. I am a believer and I best not mess with things that provoke demons.



Me and funny better get rid of our 20 SIDED DICE!!!!!
Or the cops might come with a priest you trolling mook

Magic the Gathering
07-05-2002, 04:00 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Orchestra:
Me and funny better get rid of our 20 SIDED DICE!!!!!
Or the cops might come with a priest you trolling mook</font>

Make fun of me or whatever. I'm not a troll.

Orchestra
07-05-2002, 04:00 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by funnygeezus:
<font color=slate> http://www.avalon.nf.ca/~rosemd/drink1a.JPG
this is a shot my basement after i had some friends (Orchestra included) over last summer. i believe the monstrous manual and several d20's are visible. oh well, demons and eventual hell for me, ROCK ON!<font color=black size=1>

[This message has been edited by funnygeezus (edited 07-05-2002).]</font>

The Cheezies and nintendo power really make me relieze how much of a loser I really am

bittertrance
07-05-2002, 04:06 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:
. I'm not a troll. </font>


Total Posts: 15

Affectation
07-05-2002, 04:07 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:


You may say so, however I had a friend who played almost 10 years ago. Apparently his parents found him in his room late at night in a black cloak and had some candles lit with some incense burning. He was chanting things and when they tried to interrupt him, they felt a cold wind actually push them out of the room! They called the police but the police couldn't get in beacuse the door was blocked (by something). It wasn't until they called a priest that they were able to enter the room and he ended up expelling a demon from his body. His parents found the Advanced D & D monster manual and SEVERAL 20 sided die. Even after the kid had the demons taken out, he had problems at school and eventually had to be taken out and was sent to a mental hospital.

These things happen, but they're not talked about often. I am a believer and I best not mess with things that provoke demons.

</font><font color=00ff33>That is the weakest excuse ever.

DeviousJ
07-05-2002, 04:20 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by bittertrance:

Total Posts: 15 </font>

http://www.netphoria.org/wwwboard/Forum2/HTML/003147.html
http://www.netphoria.org/wwwboard/Forum2/HTML/003146.html
http://www.netphoria.org/wwwboard/Forum2/HTML/003144.html
http://negabenji.homestead.com/files/trollbusters.jpg

Irrelevant
07-05-2002, 04:21 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:
Nope. Only Dungeons and Dragons, and that's only if you're using the Advanced D & D monster guide. Also, you can use 10 sided die, but the 20 sided die is off limits. It has to do with numerology. Satanists use numbers for contacting demons. Multisided die are one of the ways of doing this. You wouldn't be able to get me within 10 feet of a 20 sided die if my life depended on it. I have no desire to be taken over by a demon. </font>

that's one of the dumbest things i've ever heard. i know tons of people who have played AD&D, including myself, and rolled shitloads of 20-sided dice, but i've yet to see a demonic possession result. if it really happened on a regular basis, i think there would be better evidence than a few anecdotal claims like yours, eh?

Magic the Gathering
07-05-2002, 04:23 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Irrelevant:
that's one of the dumbest things i've ever heard. i know tons of people who have played AD&D, including myself, and rolled shitloads of 20-sided dice, but i've yet to see a demonic possession result. if it really happened on a regular basis, i think there would be better evidence than a few anecdotal claims like yours, eh?</font>

The demons are obviously keeping you from using spell check.

Affectation
07-05-2002, 04:24 PM
<font color=00ff33>Very shitty trolling, yo.

Irrelevant
07-05-2002, 04:24 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by DeviousJ:
http://www.netphoria.org/wwwboard/Forum2/HTML/003147.html
http://www.netphoria.org/wwwboard/Forum2/HTML/003146.html
http://www.netphoria.org/wwwboard/Forum2/HTML/003144.html
</font>

oh no, the baptist said the F word.

Orchestra
07-05-2002, 04:38 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by funnygeezus:
<font color=slate>
this is a shot my basement after i had some friends (Orchestra included) over last summer. i believe the monstrous manual and several d20's are visible. oh well, demons and eventual hell for me, ROCK ON!<font color=black size=1>
</font>

speaking of which
wanna incite some deamons this weekend Geezus?
we'll get abbott but no ford


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Silly child, boys don't cry

Magic the Gathering
07-05-2002, 04:42 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Affectation:
<font color=00ff33>Very shitty trolling, yo.</font></font>

I suppose you can do better, yo?

I come in to a new place and all I try to do is share, contribute. Yet all of you are against me and make fun of my beliefs. You should all be ashamed (except for those who have actually cared enought to give me some advice. I wear my heart on my sleeve you see, and I have feelings just like the rest of you. It is a sad state of affairs when the only way you can communicate to me is in a negative fashion. I am truly hurt sir, and I pray for your soul.

funnygeezus
07-05-2002, 04:42 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Orchestra:
speaking of which
wanna incite some deamons this weekend Geezus?
we'll get abbott but no ford


</font>

<font color=slate>sure.

Orchestra
07-05-2002, 04:53 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:
Originally posted by Affectation:
<font color=00ff33>Very shitty trolling, yo.</font></font>

I suppose you can do better, yo?

I come in to a new place and all I try to do is share, contribute. Yet all of you are against me and make fun of my beliefs. You should all be ashamed (except for those who have actually cared enought to give me some advice. I wear my heart on my sleeve you see, and I have feelings just like the rest of you. It is a sad state of affairs when the only way you can communicate to me is in a negative fashion. I am truly hurt sir, and I pray for your soul.



Wheres that don't feed the trolls pic?...

KrazeePumpkin
07-05-2002, 04:54 PM
Look, I didn't bother reading past "you must be a troll" so I'm not sure if someone already said this but:

Maybe its you.
Maybe you have to look inside yourself and think what aren't you giving her. Girls rarely cheat to cheat. Especially if they're engaged. Well, from what I've seen.

If a girl is that strongly involved with you I don't think that she is cheating for no reason. Maybe she is seeking more attention from you and you are not giving that to her, so she finds someone who CAN give her what she wants.

Try to look inside yourself before you start yelling and pointing fingers.

Also...many instances where one person thinks the other is cheating, its only because they are themselves, cheating.


I dunno if that helps but I think I know where your girl is coming from.....

Orchestra
07-05-2002, 05:00 PM
I have too
because netphoria is....
http://www.churchofsatan.com/Graphics/Ads/EmporiumBanner.gif

Random Female
07-05-2002, 06:38 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:

I'm a Baptist.[/B]</font>

So is Bill Clinton!

and yeah... guys don't even waste your time on this dude. he's either a troll or is waaay too innocent for this place and once he sees how many anal threads we have he'll be headin back for churchtalk.com.

Random Female
07-05-2002, 06:40 PM
but anyways... so giving head will make you go to hell but shackin' up with your girlfriend before you're married won't?

bittertrance
07-05-2002, 06:43 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Random Female:
but anyways... so giving head will make you go to hell but shackin' up with your girlfriend before you're married won't?</font>

only if it's anal and taint games

gotta protect the hymen

THRILLHO
07-05-2002, 07:24 PM
WORST USERNAME EVER.

you can all continue now.

funnygeezus
07-05-2002, 08:19 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by KrazeePumpkin:
Maybe you have to look inside yourself and think what aren't you giving her.</font>

<font color=slate>head?

Magic the Gathering
07-05-2002, 08:24 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by THRILLHO:
WORST USERNAME EVER.

you can all continue now.</font>

You moderators certainly aren't friendly.

Nick K
07-05-2002, 08:36 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by Magic the Gathering:
You moderators certainly aren't friendly.</font>

he once brushed his teeth with a toothbrush previously stuck up a man's ass. maybe the bitterness resulting from this episode hasn't faded.

tear stained glass
07-05-2002, 10:00 PM
<img src=http://geocities.com/gimli462/troll.txt>

[This message has been edited by tear stained glass (edited 07-05-2002).]

funnygeezus
07-05-2002, 10:02 PM
<font face="Arial, Verdana" size="2">Originally posted by tear stained glass:
<img src=http://geocities.com/gimli462/troll.txt>

[This message has been edited by tear stained glass (edited 07-05-2002).]</font>

<font color=slate>but they're so cute.
http://www.avalon.nf.ca/~rosemd/troll.jpg

meow
07-05-2002, 11:57 PM
Hey, if you hate sodomy, visit this site

http://goatse.cx


Anyways, go snoop, because if you confront her with real evidence, she will be pissed that you snooped and you really wont have a chance.

Red Wine Cage
07-06-2002, 12:18 AM
lol@ this whole thread.

quick giving baptists an even worse name, beotch.

Random Female
07-06-2002, 12:44 AM
Tjat troll pic was from the Monstrous Manual!!!!!


...no no no,I never spent hours playing D&D..

Guen
07-06-2002, 01:55 AM
um...baptists are often pretty conservative, but they don't believe any of this shit. d&d condemnation...maybe, depending on how rantingly conservative the church is, but blowjobs and nudity? no. you're in a cult, or you're totally jacking us off.